posted May 30, 2005 07:46 AM         

Well, we've all been battling love questions here on these threads and ive noticed mostly women (including me) obsessing abt their man.

Im sure most of you must have read the new book out called "He's just not that into you."

You know something, it makes a LOT of sense to me.The fact that if a man wants you, you dont need to do the running. He will.Thats it, chapter closed.

Ive seen the various men in my life including brothers and friends and what they do when they love the gal. They are NOT sensitive at all. I have a pisces brother with a scorpio moon and hes super sensitive but he's taken 4 rejections from the gal he likes and he still loves her?!!!

The guy just wont beleive that she isnt into him and he's so much into that 'acheivement' mode that he's told her a million times that he loves her.And most guys i know r that way.

Its very hurtful but maybe its the truth. If a guy wants u, he lets u know or else, well, we should move on. And we women being emotional creatures, cant treat these situations objectively so its tough to.

How many agree and how many dont? For a while i was a beleiver but i do feel that maybe sometimes shyness should be considered but to a certain extent.

I mean if i love someone, im so RESTLESS to get to know the person and iam a 'Girl'!!!!It wld be 10 times more for a guy if he loves u truly, isnt it?

Wld like ur opinions seriously.

posted May 30, 2005 12:50 PM         

Though I know guys who are scared of commiting .. the word relationship makes them go weird so even if they really liked a girl if they felt she was being clingy or wanting a relationship .. they'd give her the cold shoulder anyways (out of fear lol many a saggis I've seen in this position)..

So I think there are guys whose fear of commitment can definetly overcome their love or like of a girl..so they'd rather distance themselves and go for someone 'easy'..

But for the majority I think "he's just not that into you" is pretty much right

lol maybe it should be "he's just not that into you 80% of the time".. "he's TOO into you and it scares him the other 20%"

posted May 30, 2005 01:01 PM         

Well, thats another person ive met whos beleived this. Its really tough but i think its true. Makes a lot of things easier in life i think.

But tough to implement.

posted May 30, 2005 11:28 PM         

I really get upset with one friend of mine who is always trying to convience men that they love her. She doesn't get the "he just not that into you" thing.

I (like kiwigirl) have had many guys that were too shy to tell me how they felt until years later and it is too late to do anything about it. I find it odd that these are the guys that I felt something for too and was too scared of rejection to say anything to them....I alway figure that it is better to have a great friend than to lose one over a bad relationship.