posted June 18, 2005 06:11 AM         

I promise, if I figure out the answer, I shall share my experiences.

The bath idea sounds really good. I have only little water in my chart, but it is Mars in Scorpio, so perhaps water magic would be right track. I suppose better to do it after full moon. (Which will be here soon & hits my natal chart pretty impressivly.)

posted June 18, 2005 06:19 AM         

Secondly, I think the most 'cleasning' thing in a situation like this is to learn love and respect yourself. Not something I've quite mastered yet so I'll try it with you!

You have such a lot to love and like yourself for and if someone else fails to see that, well then they just missed out didn't they? Concentrate on yourself for a while - write a list of all your good qualities and your faults and you'll see that the good always outways the negative. And even your faults are loveable too as they go into making up the whole. You wouldn't be 'you' without every element.

My mum (v.wise Cancerian) always says that everything happens for ultimate good. She's said it after every break up I've had, every instance of unrequited love I've felt, every upset I've ever gone through. And she's absolutely right! Because if I hadn't broken up with that person, or if I'd been with the person who didn't want me as much as I wanted them, I'd have missed the opportunities to be with the next person, to experience the next challenge and learn the next lesson. We seem to get what we need in life and not always necessarily what we want (although the whole 'ask knowing you shall receive' thing is still one I'm trying to master! ) and therefore, if you can find peace in trying to detach yourself from the person you desire, and love the person you're with (yourself) it often causes the necessary shift in your confidence to make other people take notice, and the universe responds by dropping exactly what you need in your lap! Even if the person you love doesn't reciprocate, you'll still have your love for yourself which is extremely valuable.

posted June 18, 2005 05:31 PM         

Thank you for your kind words.

It is so draining to have emotions flowing into completly wrong direction and feeling powerless to do something about it. It is good to be reminded to feel for oneself sometimes.

posted June 19, 2005 08:06 AM         

Cardinal is so right… I’ve been there a few times. The first time I ended up completely drained and screwed up… I was just a kid and I didn’t quite know how to manage emotions. Even when you go over it and heal, you still love them in some way… You keep them inside, in a little corner of your heart… You just have to stop them hurting you.

It will take a while, but you will get over it. Healing starts with belief. Believing that you will is a great weapon. Praying doesn’t help, no god will help you. Strength is within yourself. Believe and you will recover.

And as Cardinal said, love and respect yourself. Be understanding with yourself. There is nothing wrong with loving someone, even if it is the wrong person.

The Universe is equilibrium. If you give, you will receive… Maybe that love you give won’t be returned in the way you would want, but it will be returned… Maybe in the form of wisdom or compassion, maybe when you realise you have so much love from all those friends that are supporting you through this trial, maybe some other guy you are overlooking at the moment… Even this same guy may get touched after all… All this has happened to me regarding unrequited love…

When you love, something wonderful happens… You alter things with desire and it gets back to you… Love yourself too, start there. If loving that guy hurts you, channel that energy through yourself and others. But don’t think all that time you spent loving him is wasted… It made you grow… Now it’s time to move on…

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posted June 20, 2005 11:30 PM         

For me it means being physically active again, for myself.

posted June 21, 2005 05:16 PM         

Your words are very much appreciated (as usual ).

I'll have a long Midsummer Day weekend with friends and family. Long walks with dogs. Fire. People I care about - sounds really good. Things I'm very grateful of.

Beautiful & abundant Midsummer Day for everyone!!

posted June 21, 2005 06:33 PM         

Yep Lincoln's beautiful! I've just moved up here from London and it's so peaceful and friendly by comparison.

posted June 22, 2005 06:50 AM         

Feeling much better. Thanks!

posted June 28, 2005 02:03 AM         

I noticed the quote you had on your profile about regret ... In my humble experience, I've learned, too, that it's best not to have regrets. Ever. Even if I had the chance to go back and relive my mistakes, I wouldn't change a thing because I would still have made the same decisions. I would still feel the same about that person, or have this view or that perspective on a situation. It's pointless to kick myself because that's who I was, and I have since grown from it.

That's just my two cents ... I'm trying to get over the sting of unrequited love as well. Actually, it's not really a sting anymore - more of a tender sadness. It helps me to thank that person for allowing me to experience love and to have the courage to show it, and I'm grateful to him for that.

posted June 28, 2005 03:00 AM         

if you mourn soon after/cry if you can..it helps the process along.

posted June 29, 2005 04:37 PM         

Thank you both for your advice.

Sometimes it seems you can carry a burden and get so used to it that it seems almost impossible to leave it behind and move on. In takes real concious effort and all the advise you have given me here as been most useful and helpful.