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kiwigirl
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Posts: 81
From: New Zealand
Registered: May 2005

posted June 26, 2005 11:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for kiwigirl     Edit/Delete Message
Well, dont keep us all in suspense, lol. How did it go with your online friend.

You're a special guy and I'm sure she knows that by now.

Big hugs
Kiwi x

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AcousticGod
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Posts: 683
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005

posted June 27, 2005 12:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
It went well...maybe too well.

I brought her a belated birthday gift, which consisted of a small can of Jelly Bellies, figurines with angels that spell out her name, and a pink kitty Beanie Baby. I stuck them all in a bag that showed a picture of a skinny 70 year old man bowling with a caption that stated, "Chicks Love Jocks."

We were supposed to be meeting as friends, so I didn't bring the bag to the door. I thought that might be interpretted as too romantic a gesture. Instead I gave it to her when we got in the car.

We went and ate Italian at a place called Strings. It was good, but it was also a little weird. The way the restaurant was layed out, you are very close with your neighboring tables with no partition. She told me some of the crazy stories of her younger adult years. I tried to think of some as well, but wasn't terribly successful.

Then we went and watched The Longest Yard. She's a huge Adam Sandler fan, and we read that it was really funny. The reviews were correct. It was very funny! The story was pretty implausible, but there were good laughs throughout.

After that I was feeling like we hadn't really talked about anything, so I suggested coffee. We went to Denny's. It didn't really lead anywhere conversationally. Then it seemed she still wanted to hang out, so we drove around a little, before parking at a park.

We got a bit out of hand with one another after that (physically). Totally ruined the whole friendly meeting we were supposed to be having. What's worse is that even though we had quite a bit of fun I'm not sure that either of us was ready for that, or that we are ready for that. Here I thought she might be regretting things today, and I think I am. I'm not sure where to go from here.

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kiwigirl
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Posts: 81
From: New Zealand
Registered: May 2005

posted June 27, 2005 12:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for kiwigirl     Edit/Delete Message
Dont be too hard on yourself. Ok you can look at it like this, you are obviously attracted to each other on a friendship level and a physical level so that is all good....please dont go getting too much into your head about this AG. Its happened and it happened for a reason.

I wish i knew you better, i feel i havent been here long enough to offer any real concrete advice. One thing i do know is this, you are an amazing guy with a really beautiful soul, and your new friend has been lucky enough to get to know you over the last little while with emails etc, so I cant imagine her holding this against you.

She may just be going "wow, that guy finds me attractive" if her confidence is a bit low.

Dont think this out too much, follow your heart AG,it knows the truth and what the right thing to do next is.

Oh and stop beating up on yourself!

Biggest Hugs and Love 2 U
kiwi x

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kiwigirl
Knowflake

Posts: 81
From: New Zealand
Registered: May 2005

posted June 27, 2005 12:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for kiwigirl     Edit/Delete Message
Just curious....you dont have a thing about sabotaging (spelling?) things that are going good in your life do you? If you do.....STOP right now.....


kiwi x

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Tranquil Poet
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Posts: 963
From: New york City.........sometimes in hell!
Registered: Apr 2005

posted June 27, 2005 01:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Tranquil Poet     Edit/Delete Message
She needs time to open up. i am like that at first.

I'd have to agree with kiwi girl though.

No one says you have to jump into anything yet though. Get to know eachother as much as possible if you still want to get to know her better. And no more physical stuff until you have known eachother better and decided where you want all this to go.


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Gemini sun, Cancer rising, Taurus moon

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future_uncertain
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Posts: 1236
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004

posted June 27, 2005 01:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for future_uncertain     Edit/Delete Message
Hello, AG.

Wow, what a night, huh?! As far as where to go from here, this may be a bit late for advice because I'm sure you've talked to her by now. I agree with the girls here, don't beat yourself up. Things happen, and you should enjoy the moment for what it was.

Now, if you're interested in pursuing the relationship, then definitely put things on hold. Just let her know that you enjoyed the evening and have no regrets (if that's true) but for both your sakes, you'd like to take things slower from here on out.

I think this may have happened because, while you've only met once, you've had a relationship in some form happening for a while. And because this relationship doesn't allow for physical interaction, no matter how innocent (even just nonverbal communication) it's no wonder that things progressed so quickly on the physical level.

It's OK!

Go ahead and acknowledge that this wasn't the way you intended things to go, but by all means, don't regret it or let it hold you back if you're interested in pursuing the relationship!

Remember... be honest and listen to your heart. You're a nifty guy-- insightful, thoughtful, intelligent, passionate. If you feel like this is worth your while, I'm sure you'll handle it perfectly!

Take care.

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aries-chick
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Posts: 1021
From: The Ocean
Registered: Jul 2003

posted June 28, 2005 01:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for aries-chick     Edit/Delete Message
quote:
I brought her a belated birthday gift, which consisted of a small can of Jelly Bellies, figurines with angels that spell out her name, and a pink kitty Beanie Baby.

OMG that is sooooooooo sweet awwwwwwwwwwwwwww..That's really nice Acoust

It wont ruin the friendship, trust me.. maybe you're just very attracted to each other, which isn't a bad thing. I'm really glad it went so well..

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