Lindaland
  Soul Unions
  Virgo Men

Post New Topic  Post A Reply
profile | register | preferences | faq | search

UBBFriend: Email This Page to Someone! next newest topic | next oldest topic
Author Topic:   Virgo Men
Water Girl
Knowflake

Posts: 7
From: Chicago, Il, USA
Registered: Jul 2005

posted July 17, 2005 03:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Water Girl     Edit/Delete Message
Hi everyone! I'm new to lindaland and I really need some insight into this situation. When we first met about seven months ago he was so into me, we weren't in a relationship or anything (and we've never had sex), we were just liking each other. We were in that getting to know you stage and we would talk on the phone and text each other almost everyday. I felt that we had a strong connection. I actually fell for him before I even officially met him. One look and it was over and that's really unusual for me because I don't even find that many guys attractive and I especially try to stay away from athletes. Things were going o.k and then out the blue he just stopped calling. He doesn't even respond to my texts anymore. The last time I had any contact with him he made a comment about seeing me talking to a male friend of mine. I kinda thought that he may have been jealous, but then he really had no reason to be because the guy and I are only friends and we were at least ten feet apart when we were conversing. Also, he's an athlete so he always has girls hanging around him, so I would think he of all people would understand and I also can't see him being that petty. That was two months ago and now I'm really sad because I don't know why he stopped talking to me and I feel like I've lost a friend. I'm an Aqua and I've had relationships were things just fizzled away and it never really bothered me. I've never pined for someone before him. My feelings for him are so intense that it's scary and so for him to just drop me like this leaves me really down-trodden. I don't know what to do. Can someone please give me some sort of insight. Thank you in advance!

This is our information:
Him: Sun-Virgo, Rising-Scorpio, Moon-Cap. Mercury-Lib, Venus-Leo, Mars-Sco., Jupiter-Sco., Saturn-Libra, Uranus-Sag., Nepune- Sag., Pluto-Lib., N.node-Can.
Me: Sun-Aqua, Moon-Sag, Rising-Pisc, Mercury-Cap, Venus-Cap, Mars-Scor, Jupiter-Cap, Saturn- Sco, Uranus-Sag, Neptune-Cap, Pluto-Sco, N.node- Gemini

IP: Logged

CNO732
Knowflake

Posts: 52
From: New York City
Registered: Dec 2004

posted July 18, 2005 02:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CNO732     Edit/Delete Message
Virgo men can be extremely sensative and will often back away if they feel they are catching feelings or if the other person is taking their feelings lightly ...

In the beginning they are great to know u type of people but are always accessing the situation and friendship in their mind ... if u start to get flightly or some-timey they are out the door in a heartbeat

If youre talking to them u should be in to them totally ... sounds self-entered and aloof but most Virgo men are ...

IP: Logged

Aphrodite
Knowflake

Posts: 4130
From:
Registered: Feb 2002

posted July 18, 2005 03:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aphrodite     Edit/Delete Message
Linda says in Sun Signs that Virgo Men are not usually inclined to have children of their own and fatherhood. I have noticed this as well with the Virgo Men I have meet with.

Why is this? Does anyone have any insight or are there any Virgo Men who would like to provide their own perspectives?

Thanks

IP: Logged

CNO732
Knowflake

Posts: 52
From: New York City
Registered: Dec 2004

posted July 18, 2005 05:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CNO732     Edit/Delete Message
OK ... I'll try ... I think it has a lot to do with mental space ... having children is work, physically but mostly mental ... and Virgos often go into mental shells and want to be left alone to think and sort through stuff and children are a hassle when they go into their "zones" ... this is also why many never get married ... and the whole baby thing scares them off ... "it's like this woman and child has so much control over me" and they need abosolute space and freedom from time to time ... marriage is too constricting, like a mental jail cell for life ...

why can't we just be life partners or something close to that. a looser definition of sorts ...

IP: Logged

Water Girl
Knowflake

Posts: 7
From: Chicago, Il, USA
Registered: Jul 2005

posted July 18, 2005 05:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Water Girl     Edit/Delete Message
Thank you CNO732, you have DEFINITELY given me more insight into the situation. I already knew that he kinda liked me boosting his ego and I had no problem with that, which is surprising considering the fact that I'm an Aqua. Being an Aqua I'm a sociable person and I thought he knew that. He's always seen me talking to guys that I know, but that time in particular he commented about it. Since I thought it was no big deal I didn't respond to the comment, I didn't think I had to. It wasn't like he asked me who the guy was or anything, but by not responding I think he just assumed I was involved with the guy or something. At this point I can handle the fact that we may never have a relationship, but I still want us to at least be friends or even an explanation of why he stopped associating with me. He owes me at least that much!

IP: Logged

CNO732
Knowflake

Posts: 52
From: New York City
Registered: Dec 2004

posted July 18, 2005 07:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CNO732     Edit/Delete Message
HI ...

He probably liked you and got a little jealous or felt emotionally burned ... Virgos, so sensative, will often leave you hanging if they feel the least bit slighted...

And u guys weren't seriously dating or anything so he probably feels he doesn't really owe u an explantion ... Unfortunately, Virgos can be cold like that ... give it time ... Virgos think and analyze EVERYONE that comes into their life, even for a brief moment and whether they will invest any emotional energy in them ... So, if u had this connection with him he knows but putting ball in ur corner to approach him again ... AND then you will get your explantion of why

But its his way of keeping emotional distance and making you do a little more work to see if he should spend any more time with you ... Virgos can be waaaaay too serious about teh littleest things ... annoying but true and I am one ...LOL!

IP: Logged

Water Girl
Knowflake

Posts: 7
From: Chicago, Il, USA
Registered: Jul 2005

posted July 18, 2005 10:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Water Girl     Edit/Delete Message
Oh no CNO, you're a VIRGO, that's so SAD!!!(j/k) I actually thought about calling him today, but I didn't cause I don't know if I'm ready to put myself out there. I don't even know exactly what I want to tell him. I'd feel so lame (and vulnerable) if I told him the truth and just say that he hurt my feelings. I'll get it together sooner or later...

IP: Logged

nove731
Knowflake

Posts: 282
From: Antioch, Tennessee, USA
Registered: Jun 2005

posted July 19, 2005 05:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for nove731     Edit/Delete Message
quote:
HI ...

He probably liked you and got a little jealous or felt emotionally burned ... Virgos, so sensative, will often leave you hanging if they feel the least bit slighted...

And u guys weren't seriously dating or anything so he probably feels he doesn't really owe u an explantion ... Unfortunately, Virgos can be cold like that ... give it time ... Virgos think and analyze EVERYONE that comes into their life, even for a brief moment and whether they will invest any emotional energy in them ... So, if u had this connection with him he knows but putting ball in ur corner to approach him again ... AND then you will get your explantion of why

But its his way of keeping emotional distance and making you do a little more work to see if he should spend any more time with you ... Virgos can be waaaaay too serious about teh littleest things ... annoying but true and I am one ...LOL!


Haha, I have Virgo Rising, and I must say, that sums it up pretty well.

IP: Logged

Randall
Webmaster

Posts: 21984
From: Columbus, GA USA
Registered: Nov 2000

posted July 20, 2005 12:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message
Welcome!

------------------
"There is no use trying," said Alice; "one can't believe impossible things." "I dare say you haven't had much practice," said the Queen. "When I was your age, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast." Lewis Carroll

IP: Logged

pidaua
Knowflake

Posts: 3527
From: Sierra Vista, Arizona
Registered: May 2002

posted July 20, 2005 05:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pidaua     Edit/Delete Message
Virgo men are complicated, yet simple. It is hard to explain unless you have had experience with many of them.

I have a Virgo rising (Sag Sun / Venus - Aries moon). I dated my share of Virgo's (for some reason they would always approach me and we would get along great... until they realized that I AM outgoing and argumentative LOL... - it's not a show).

I married a wonderful Virgo man that touched me deeply intellectually - we just didn't have that chemistry. Initially we both wanted a family - he is 16 years older than me- then after we married he pretty much changed his mind. He had long relationships before me, but I was his first and will most likely be his only marriage. I was 30 and he was 46. We are still great friends, but we just realized we were on two different paths -but it still hurts us both- as now he is really feeling that he has missed out on the family thing.

Your story sounds very much like dealing with a Virgo man ( or anyone with strong Virgo characteristics). I also have a Virgo rising - conjuncting Pluto in my 1st house. I analyze a person, decide if they can fit into my world and if not, I just cut them loose and move on. It is not meant to be cold, but it's almost like we thing "Why waste anyone's time?"

There may have been an aspect of your personality that did not quite mesh with the Virgo's perception of what is right for him. That doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you at all- it just means that aspect is right for someone else.

A Virgo man is a wonderful person to spend time with and I wouldn't trade my experience in for the world. They ARE high-maintenance though..LOL... and they can get very gloomy. For those of us that are more hyper and belong to the world, it doesn't quite mix well.. not that Virgo's aren't social. They are extremely well spoken and seem to have almost as big of an audience as a Saggie LOL...They just like to retreat at the end of the day to a quiet home, where they can read, relax and just think

LMAO.. but now I am with a Taurus LOL.. and they tend to be even more of the homebody type than the Virgo..LOL....

IP: Logged

Mama Mia
Knowflake

Posts: 195
From:
Registered: Jun 2005

posted July 20, 2005 05:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
Well I have had my share of Virgo's I will tell you. Being a Pisces women I tend to attract the opposite all the time..Most of the things that Pidaua said I know about. The one that stuck out the most is HIGH MAINTENCE they can be atleast the ones I dated was. My lil one his dad is a Virgo w/Gem moon in the 12th house. Emotional fella he is. What I have noticed about Virgo's is that they either get depressed or they are moody ppl, the guys. And if things et to bad they will disappear on you until things become better. I have been hanging around with this Virgo/libra guy and it has been ok real natural. But what I was saying is it may have nothing to do with you persa,he maybe dealing with some personal problems of his own and when things clear up better for him he will come around..When my lil one's dad would pull a disappearing move I always knew something in his life was going bad or him. Don't don't let you all the way in either..

IP: Logged

CNO732
Knowflake

Posts: 52
From: New York City
Registered: Dec 2004

posted July 20, 2005 06:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CNO732     Edit/Delete Message
Pidua and Mama Mia have hit it on the target with Virgo men and the retreat thing ... We love a good time but contained good times ... when it gets too much we go into our shells like turtles ...

The ending of the crazy hectic day with cell phones off, soft music, solitude, glasses of wine, caresses *ahem* ..lol ... is so us ... We hate when someone is always on ...

They are cerebreal, so they think way too much about everything and God forbid if the job is not going well or school or the relationship with a good friend, then they go into mental overdrive in trying to fix it -- to make it perfect again (so they need to be alone to think)... While othr signs blow crap off and people, we take things to heart and get all gloomy and retreat to rethink our next move (like a chess game) ... that's it!! ... we approach life like a chess game, thinking, plotting, deep, stern, looking for clues ... when in reality life for many is at a much faster pace with not so much thinking and analyzing ...

And the high maintenance thing is true cause we expect a certain amount of something from people who enter our world and when we fail to see it its a big let down .. I have learned to let people just be who they are and just take how they TREAT ME ...

But being a Virgo with lots of fire I will admit that many Virgos I have met I don't mesh well with .. they are either too aloof, too boring, too critical .. I have Virgo friends that actually get mad at me for talking to some people or being friends with a certain group of people ... like, saying they don't deserve u or ur time .. and that's just wrong cause people are people .. they generalize often ..

whew! I need a beer ...lol


good luck to all of u ..

IP: Logged

AcousticGod
Knowflake

Posts: 1213
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005

posted July 21, 2005 12:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
quote:
LMAO.. but now I am with a Taurus LOL.. and they tend to be even more of the homebody type than the Virgo..LOL....

I agree! Taurus love being home. They say a Cap/Taurus match can spend too much time at home.

IP: Logged

Water Girl
Knowflake

Posts: 7
From: Chicago, Il, USA
Registered: Jul 2005

posted July 21, 2005 10:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Water Girl     Edit/Delete Message
Thank you guys so much! This is really insightful. I don't know too many Virgos so this experience with him has been an eye opener. I think in a way his high maintenance is what draws me to him. I liked the fact that he was picky because it showed that he had standards, I just didn't like how he dropped me like a bad habit! I feel like a loser because I still want to be his friend. Maybe it's because I know he needs a good friend...

IP: Logged

sue g
Knowflake

Posts: 1463
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004

posted July 21, 2005 11:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Water girl

I am married to a Virgo, I am Scorpio and we have a Scorpio son together.

Our son (he is 6) said something yesterday about his dad which was a perfect description, he said "daddy doesnt cry on the outside, but he does on the inside" - OMG - out of the mouths of babes.......this is so true of him. He is so cautious with his feelings, at times I think he doesnt even like me!! When I say this to him, he looks amazed. He also has an Aqua moon, which doesnt help. This gives detachment to the emotions.

Someone mentioned that Virgo men dont suit being married, well I agree with this and at times I dont think my Virgo should have married LOL, (especially to me LOL again). We really love each other and get on well, but there is this coolness about him, which I find irritating and at the same time.......mmmm.......how would I say it.....intriguing.

I just know he is the "one" (third husband), but he is a mystery to me at times, but then again I am a Scorpio woman, what would I do without mystery??

He has taught me how to standback from situations that I dont need to be involved in, to be calmer, not to judge, not to be so NICE (as in trying to please), but most of all he has helped me to find my true self. I am grateful to him, I love him.

God bless all

Sue xxx

IP: Logged

sue g
Knowflake

Posts: 1463
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004

posted July 21, 2005 11:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
p.s. I find with a lot of Virgo men there is a smouldering sexuality (more so than with the Scorpio ones). I think this is becoz the Scorp ones are aware of their presence and Virgo arent always!! I find it with some Cappy men too!! It is very appealing that modesty thing!

x

IP: Logged

Water Girl
Knowflake

Posts: 7
From: Chicago, Il, USA
Registered: Jul 2005

posted July 21, 2005 12:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Water Girl     Edit/Delete Message
Sue,

I totally understand where you're coming from with the modesty thing! That's what initially drew me to my Virgo. He would always have a million women flocking around him, but he would always let them down gently because he wasn't into those kinds of girls (and it also made me feel good to know that out of all those girls he chose me to spend time with). You don't see too many males doing that. His coolness also draws me to him for reasons unknown and I also like the way he analizes things because I do the same thing. I have to assess every part of a situation before I make a move, so that there will be a low chance of something going wrong. My Virgo's one big problem is that he is a perfectionist and that drives me crazy! Sometimes I like when he doesn't do good at something just so I will have an excuse to let him know that it's alright to make mistakes and not be perfect, we're all human!

IP: Logged

pidaua
Knowflake

Posts: 3527
From: Sierra Vista, Arizona
Registered: May 2002

posted July 21, 2005 03:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pidaua     Edit/Delete Message
AG....LOL..yes, and you wouldn't want to be bogged down at home. Actually, things work pretty well with the Taurus and I. I can get him motivated and he has calmed me down to the point where I can actually watch an entire movie without having to stop it a few times to run around and do things LOL...

IP: Logged

All times are Eastern Standard Time

next newest topic | next oldest topic

Administrative Options: Close Topic | Archive/Move | Delete Topic
Post New Topic  Post A Reply
Hop to:

Contact Us | Linda-Goodman.com

Copyright 2005

Powered by Infopop www.infopop.com © 2000
Ultimate Bulletin Board 5.46a