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Topic: When is enough enough?
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Isolaede
Knowflake Posts: 5
From: Studio City, CA
Registered: Aug 2005
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posted August 22, 2005 01:41 PM
 
Hello all. I’m struggling with a fairly universal problem of knowing when to really call it quits and let go of a relationship. I don’t wish to bore you with the details, but suffice to say I am a Cancer sun / Sagittarius rising / Taurus moon (July 10, 1977 at 7:30 PM in St. Paul, MN) and I’ve been dating a Sagittarius / Cancer rising / Capricorn moon (December 15, 1982 at 7:00 PM in San Francisco, CA) for just about two years now. We struggled a lot in our relationship. I was still hurt from my last 7 year relationship, and he was young and very idealistic. So there were arguments, misunderstandings and a lot of silly words. Now he’s given up hope that we can ever work things out, and moved out. I’m not ready to call it quits though. I come from a background of very tenacious people, and I just can’t bring myself to give up on love without really fighting for it. The problem is that my Sag’s idealism is in shambles right now, and he can see no future for us that does not include more heartbreak. He still says he loves me more than anything, but he’s not willing to try. I’ve spent the last month trying to reason with him, but he’s steadfast in his decision. I really don’t know what to do at this point. Part of me thinks that if I have to convince someone that love is worth fighting for, then I don’t really want that person. The other part of me understands his heartbreak as I came into our relationship with similar pain and battered ideals. He’s also a special, one-of-a-kind person. My problem is, I don’t know if I should keep fighting for him when it seems my efforts are not wanted, or if I should give up. When is enough, enough? : (
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Aphrodite
Knowflake Posts: 4219
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Registered: Feb 2002
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posted August 22, 2005 01:56 PM
For his birth year, do you really mean 1972 and not 1992?   IP: Logged |
Isolaede
Knowflake Posts: 5
From: Studio City, CA
Registered: Aug 2005
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posted August 22, 2005 02:03 PM
haha ack - I meant 1982. What a bad mistake to make. I'll go back and edit the orriginal message now.IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 1888
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted August 23, 2005 06:27 PM
He is very young, I would give him some space, say to him that you will give him a month or so, and then see. I am so sorry to read this, love sucks sometimes doesnt it, but unfortunately we cannot make it happen, I know this having three husbands. I hope this works out for you.Sending love
Sue xx
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GemStar
Knowflake Posts: 582
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted August 23, 2005 11:03 PM
I believe he may have a transiting Pluto-Sun conjunction happening about now....check his chart and transits....perhaps understanding this difficult Pluto transit will give you some insight regarding the changes in his thinking. Lots of BIG changes happen with Pluto transits.Tenacity can be a good thing....as well as having Courage to release what may need to be released. Letting go is a difficult lesson for all of us to learn ...and often the Best thing that happens for both people. Good Luck and have Faith in the Unknown...  GemStar PS-I once lived in Studio City on Coldwater Canyon...before I moved to Malibu!
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Isolaede
Knowflake Posts: 5
From: Studio City, CA
Registered: Aug 2005
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posted August 24, 2005 04:01 PM
Sue and GemStar:Thank you both for your kindness, and words of wisdom. Your posts truly warmed my heart. I think you advice is good, I'll dig a bit deeper into his chart, wait a month, hopefully the heavens will have re-aligned for him in that time, but if not I will begin severing the ties that bind. My gut tells me that’s what will inevitably happen. He is very very young, and I am his “first love” so I should have known better. But he told me he loved me once upon a time, and my heart, which I’d thought dead, opened like a flower in the sunlight. Love has an amazing ability to renew the soul. Again, your warmth and care are so very appreciated. Be well! - Isolaede PS: Gemstar, I’m living off of Aqua Vista now. I moved to CA last September, and love it here. The weather is amazing, and the people are so nice.
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