posted September 07, 2005 05:12 PM         

And oops on the typo, Im notorius for typos and miss spellings, yes I ment LIKE. No harm done.

Mooaning,,uuhhmmmm... My first fiance told me I sounded like Robert Plant one night...Was hoping she found that too be a good thing.

posted September 07, 2005 05:13 PM         

i definitely agree with the whole hygiene thing.Biggest turn off is smelly breath,hair,body etc... and also guys who don't cut their nails\wash their hair often.

i also agree that a little arguing is a definite turn on(not about anything serious)
but like a guy who doesn't just agree with everything i say just to avoid conflict.Nothing gets me more heated up then an intellectual debate.
and oh oh... boys who are mysterious. I love men who take a bit of figuring out,not predictabl. Someone who can be a total good boy when it comes to remembering his mother's birthday but who's a total bad boy when it comes to the more physical part of things. it's also nice when a guy is relaxed bout talking bedroom things.

anyways have fun everyone.

posted September 08, 2005 09:37 AM         

LOL......you are f****** hilarious Magus........love that humour......keep it coming........

Love

posted September 10, 2005 04:05 PM         

For me one of the pluses in any relationship is the humour thing, some people just dont get it....do they.....so like you are sitting in a cinema laughin yer a*** off and nobody else is....and they thinking WTF is she laughing at.......and then something blatantly obvious happens and everyone laughs and you think WTF......

posted September 14, 2005 01:30 PM         

Turn off's-Vulger lanuage,cheapness tight wad,wimpyness, a man that would lean on a women financially,lazy in bed selfish in bed.
Possesivness..

posted September 14, 2005 10:24 PM         

First of all, I loved this:

quote:

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Men who know where to put their hands, how to use their hands. Whether it is to lift a baby, a hammer, or your legs.

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Brilliant! It made me melt.

Turn ons:

Enthusiasm
Self-awareness
Frequent laughter
Communication
Ability to go from ooey-gooey to best buddy on a dime
Capability

I also like people who are adorably neurotic.

Turn offs:

Materialism
Practical to the point of missing life for the to-do list
Complacency
Apathy
Lack of depth
One dimensional personality

Oh. And I'm a Sag.

posted September 15, 2005 06:20 AM         

I don’t want to strike fear into my bf’s heart or wrap him around my finger. I don’t respect guys like that. And if I don’t respect a guy, I could never be attracted to him.

Someone who can say no to me…but in a sweet way

posted September 15, 2005 10:53 AM         

men that are slightly in awe of the women, although nottoo afraid, thats why I love the younger man/older woman thing x

a man that can shock and be shocked back, someone that can match my daring nature and catch meout sometimes too LOL

an ability to send a shiver down my spine with just the slightest touch to the back.....happened in a supermarket last week....it was divine...it surprised me !!!

lots more....back soon....

posted September 15, 2005 01:35 PM         

Turn On's:

* a fresh, cold, sweet-tasting mouth Mmmm
* a sharp wit. I love clever girls.
* Good hygeine. Doesn't have to be obsessive about it, but I like a girl who takes care of herself
* a sweet scent
* sexual confidence
* bringing a romantic gesture to me (versus waiting til we're together to do something nice). It means a lot to me for a woman to go out of her way.
* Someone who treats me like a co-conspirator, like it's Us vs. Them, and we're just SOooo great! lol (It's a fun, superficial kind of snobbiness. Doesn't mean anything.)
* Femininity

Turn Off's

* Bad breath!!
* Bad hair. I want to feel comfortable running my fingers through it.
* Stoicism
* Mean-spiritedness
* a bad kisser (real deal breaker there)
* Abrasive or business-like voice
* Someone who doesn't understand my humor
* Someone who doesn't give back what they receive, or who is too unappreciative.

posted September 15, 2005 04:02 PM           

• Geekiness
  
• Sensitivity
  
• Ability and Willingness to Explore the Odd
  
• A Good Debate (but never mean-spirited; frustrating's fine )
  
• A Man Taking Control in Bed (sucha Fish, sucha Fish)
  
• Being Seduced
  
• Someone Giving In to Seduction
  
• A Just-There-at-the-Surface-and-Sometimes-Peeking-Through Kinky Side
  
• Someone Who'll Hold Me, Let Me Feel Secure
  (I feel like such a flippin' girl saying that, but eh)
  
• A Man Who Can Cook
  
• Consideration
  
• Honesty and Faithfulness
  

Turn-Offs:

• Brutishness/Close-Mindedness
  
• A Mind So Open That It Falls Out
  
• A Blank Stare When I'm Weird/Tell an Odd Joke
  
• A Lack of Playfulness
  
• A Given, but a Lack of Consideration
  
• The Feeling That I'm Peripheral
  

posted September 15, 2005 05:51 PM         

Turn ons
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Kindness – A man that looks at the world around him with an open heart, and seeks opportunities to better it.

Understanding coupled with the warm glow of genuine care and admiration.

Geekiness. Nothing is sexier than a man that knows his computers, table top games, computer games, etc. Shy men really do it for me as well.

Empathy – Someone that doesn’t have to be told when I’m feeling low. I love the unspoken language that can exist between two people.

A gentle touch – on the hand, face, back… anywhere. It melts me.

Open-mindedness – a free thinker that looks at reality with open eyes and a curious mind.

Strength and courage – Someone that has a clear picture of where they are going in life, and what they want from it, and is not afraid to fight for it.

Curiosity - Men that ask questions and show a genuine interest in getting to know me are so beautiful. It always makes me sad when I’m the only person that seems to genuinely want to get to know the other person.

Chivalry – yeah baby! I’m a sucker for men that hold the door, and say “Yes ma’am, or no sir” to people in positions of authority.

Honesty – men that are unafraid to be completely themselves. Just be open and honest in all things – don’t give me job-interview answers to sincere questions.

Turn offs
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Fast-movers – Men that move far too quickly whether it be physically or emotionally. Nothing scares me off quicker than a man I barely know either gets too physical or tries to declare undying love for me on the first or second date. At least get to know me first!

Arrogance – Men that seem to only care about themselves and either show callousness to the plight of those around them, or show no interest in getting to know me.

Domineering men put me off right away. I don’t like to be judged, nor do I appreciate a man stepping in and trying to run my life.

Close-mindedness – People that adhere to one world philosophy and will not budge from it.

posted September 17, 2005 09:16 AM         

a man who displays a slight degree of innocence and modesty.....my man always looks at me with disbelief when I say "Oh I love you"......its as tho he thinks its for someone else......aahhh lovely Virgo the Virgin.......

turn off:

immature, short tempered, show offs, bigots,

turn on:

lingering looks...when the person really looks into your eyes...oh I love eyes.....dont they say so much....

posted September 21, 2005 04:41 AM         

- Someone who treats me nicely and respectfully

- Well mannered in all situations

- Going out of his way to do something sweet for me that shows me he really cares, whether or not we're dating officially yet.. I like someone who shows me he cares and is thoughtful.(I'd do the same for them)

- Inner confidence but not arrogance

- A sense of humour

- A loving, warm hearted nature

- Sexual magnetism in a sublime way, not TOO obvious and TOO in my face - I don't like that

-Strength of character (so I can trust them to do the right thing)

- Someone who is in tune with their emotions and is not afraid of expressing them to me both physically - through body language and little things like hugs or kisses - and verbally

- When I feel the person *genuinely* (no double agendas, or a case of "purely sexual" attraction, no thx) cares for me and it's honest, real and stable

- A good listener who appreciates my point of view as much as I appreciate theirs

- Someone who I feel a real mental connection with, not just an emotional one -so we can talk for hours and hours without the conversation turning awkward

- Someone who I feel I can trust with my deepest secrets and who will keep those secrets under wraps

-Most importantly someone who understands my need to be in a committed serious relationship before we can go on to having crazy wild sex all night long (I'm not a prude, but one night stands and short "just dating" type relationships are not really for me..it's either serious OR it's nothing more than a friendship, I can't see the grey area)

Turn offs:

- Know-it-alls

- A massive ego and a superiority complex

- The need to make others feel inferior through bad behaviour and a supercilious manner, DUE to an underlying inferiority complex - trying to make themselves feel better about who they are by putting others down

- Having a judgemental attitude

-Envy, when they are envious or mean towards other people who they see as being in a better position than they are. I hate that attitude, very low

- Disrespect towards me and my opinions

- Feeling threatened by me and feeling the need to assert themselves around me due to feeling threatened.. That really does it lol

- Not having anything sweet or nice to say, critical ppl who are overly negative

- Not expressing emotions through touch, being uncomfortable with expressing emotions..or being painfully shy and not able to express the way they feel about me

- Expecting me to always take the first step.. I'll take steps, but I want it to be equal in that area, and I get turned off by men who aren't secure enough to initiate..or are too lazy to initiate

- condescending behaviour, absolutely anything said towards me in a condescending manner will make me leave someone's life and never return. That's something I really won't stand for and it's a definite turn off.

-rudeness, aggressive behaviour, lack of diplomacy and finesse

- sarcasm used in a negative way (sarcastic jokes I don't mind..but sarcasm in a serious context bothers me and slowly makes me dislike the person more and more - especially when it isn't warranted (like a person biting at you out of the blue for no logical reason) I see people who bite at others like that as very self involved and negative due to their own problems with no regard for other people

And that's about it I think lol that was long, brought back a lot of memories too..It's weird how when you think about things you like/dislike or what turns you on and off.. it reminds you of all the people who have pretty much contributed to those opinions in time

posted September 27, 2005 06:23 PM         

Turn offs:
-again the hygiene thing.. sorry, got to be said!!
-Someone who is clingy, needy and does not get the hint if you're not interested;
-A bolshy, pushy attitude;
-egotism, big muscles and too into looks/ cars/ materialistic things;
-A "closed" mindset - by this I mean someone who does not like anything or anyone "different", who likes their boring routine, and only likes what they know, or what most people like;
-Someone who doesnt sympathise with those less fortunate than themselves;
-Someone who doesnt read books;
-someone who is over-critical of you and/or puts you down, esp. in front of others

Ok enough of that! Theres more, but I'd rather talk about my turn ons!!

-crinkly smiling-eye wrinkles!
-dark hair (medium to longish!), dark eyes, full mouth/smile;
-relaxed exterior/passionate interior;
-inner strength;
-sensitive, quiet — but quietly confident within themselves;
-A leanish frame;
-adventurous spirit;
-scruffy clothes!
-appreciates books/poetry/music/art; is creative
-has a huge... mind!!
-long fingers! hee hee

posted July 30, 2008 11:06 AM         

Turn offs, huh? Hmmmm....

-Pessimism
-Selfishness
-Cruelty
-Abusiveness
-Lack of ambition
-Poor quality sex or lack of
-Bitterness
-Inability to let things go
-Bullsh!tting
-Control freakery
-******* OCD!!!

Turn ons.....

-Honesty/sincerity
-Kindness
-Generosity
-Gentleness
-Humour
-Child friendly! (for my kids sake AND my own)!
-Protectiveness (NOT possessiveness)!
-Experimental in the bedroom
-Someone who does their fair share.....
-Someone that REALLY loves me!!!

Taurus Sun/Aquarius Moon/Leo ASC

posted August 02, 2008 11:47 AM         

Long lists
Bad Manners (e.g men who persist after being told I am married and/or not interested.)

Turn-ons:

Earthy sensuality
Consideration

Biggest turn-offs in life in general:

Spite
Pettiness
People who don't give a toss about anyone else
Men who try and tell me what to do because I am female
Men who act Macho
Possessiveness

Biggest turn ons in general:

Compassion and kindness
Men who get stuck in to playing football, water fights, sword-fighting, etc. with kids
Good listeners
Humour
Common sense
Someone who knows their own mind and is able to string a sentence together

Mars in

Venus in

posted August 02, 2008 07:23 PM         

Turn offs:

#1: LAME SENSE OF HUMOR. example: liking the shows Friends and Fresh Prince of Bel Air.

Stupid, superficial, cookie-cutter guys
Shy to the point of awkwardness (shy but willing and able to open up a little is fine)
Arrogance
Irresponsiblity
Narrow mind, afraid of differences and change
Inconsistency
Mushy fairytale romance crap

Turn ons:

#1: AWESOME SENSE OF HUMOR..dry, sarcastic, dark, witty

Talkative/Communicative..and actually has things to talk about

Fun, adventurous

Sexually confident, passionate & aggressive

Some sort of submissiveness to me, and devotion..I like it when a guy is all wrapped up in me

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Capricorn sun / Scorpio rising / Sagittarius moon