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WaterNymph
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posted October 19, 2005 11:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for WaterNymph     Edit/Delete Message

All the masochists must be happy.

Why lie? I hate lies - especially these kinds. Why on earth do they build you up to believe in love as a child. It’s nothing but rainbows, sunshine & butterflies. Oh sure…there are problems - but nothing too serious.

So you hit your teens all naive…thinking all these adults couldn’t possibly lie. Yet each emotional blood drop from this “love” proves them wrong. Over and over and over…till you‘re drowning in the stuff. But my loyalty was still intact…I had faith in them.

But once you hit adulthood, they slap you in the face with “reality” and that love, after all, is filled with flaws. Not the ok kind - but things like lies, physical, mental and sexual abuse - control freaks that claim they love, tying you up emotionally and manipulating you. People that inflict scars so deep, you wouldn’t wish this on your worst enemy.

So now…I’m trying to salvage what’s left of my pride - but what do you think I get? “you’re being sensitive” “unrealistic” “this is what REAL love is like”

Well why didn’t I know this before? Why now?
You know, if this is what it’s like - if this is what “real” love is like - I don’t want any of it!

It’s true - there is a thin line between love and hate. Where there is one, you’ll find the other.

Okay, I’m done. And yes, I have to be a drama queen
No need to reply, I don’t expect any - nor do I want sympathy…just wanted to blow some steam…………I feel better now.

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virgolibra69
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posted October 19, 2005 11:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for virgolibra69     Edit/Delete Message
Some good Threads to read are:

Soul Mates and Fear

also

Why Marriage? Why not just Live-In?

Hopefully will make you feel better and let you know your not Alone on this one!

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Sun Virgo 29,Moon Aquarius 25,Cancer Ascendant 25

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WaterNymph
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posted October 19, 2005 11:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for WaterNymph     Edit/Delete Message
I’ll read them once I‘m in a better mood.

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Anita41
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posted October 19, 2005 12:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Anita41     Edit/Delete Message
Hi waternymph :=)

I agree a lot with you on this one.
The anger you feel of that frustration of love and all the bad things that comes with it. But what is it that happened now in your life that made you this upset about it?
The best thing you can do, or well that's how i see it, is that you must love yourself and what you do, your thoughts and decicions. Dont expect that others can love you like you want them to, yes that might be a fairytale reality. But perhaps it will happen to you when you stop expecting it to happen or look for it. In the end there is only you that can make yourself happy and a happy life. Even if someone provides you a happier life when you are in a relationship, it might happen that it will occur problems, yes, lies, emotional nervewrecking episodes, so if you then get all shocked and hurt by that, which ofcourse you do,dont let anyone do that to you. think to yourself that you deserve someone who would only benefit you and take care of you, someone who makes you unhappy and wont treat you good and exhaust you isnt right for you. thats not love.
if you love yourself and give love to the world, i really believe that you will be one step closer to that someone who can give you true love.

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Lialei
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posted October 19, 2005 03:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lialei     Edit/Delete Message

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pixelpixie
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posted October 19, 2005 07:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message
I hate love too.
Just because I love it so damn much.

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Isolaede
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posted October 19, 2005 09:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Isolaede     Edit/Delete Message
Dear WaterNymph:

I know you aren’t looking for encouragement but I just can’t keep my mouth closed when I see a thread like this (blame my Sag ascendant, always opening it’s big ol’ trap when it’s the most inconvenient).

Here’s the thing- in your words I here an echo of things I’ve spoken in the past. I’ve asked myself this same questions about love, especially in my early 20s. As a Cancer with a love for reading I grew up with more fantasy ideas about love than you could shake a stick at. Awakening from that dream was brutal. It made me angry and made me question the cruelty of those that made love sound like such a beautiful thing. It even made me question the beauty and purpose of life itself.

The thing I think I’m slowing realizing over the years is that life and love are chalked full of tragedy and beauty both. You can’t have one without the other.

As Natalie Portman said in Garden State: “Life sucks, it’s hard, but it’s all we have. “

I’ve come to terms with this in life, and I’m beginning to realize that love is the same. Love sucks, it’s hard, but it’s all we have.

No matter how stormy life or love get you know that sooner or later the sun will come out, and the clouds will clear away. There is never a valley without the promise of a mountaintop a ways down the path. So when you struggle with your partner or when endings come your way know that no darkness can last forever and with every bleak time lies the promise of a brighter way just around the corner.

Loss is a part of life and love both. Death happens like that good ol’ death card in Tarot. An ending comes so we can be reborn stronger and better. Like the phoenix. Sometimes death happens to transform us or push us onto some new, ultimately better path. So when love ends, ultimately we must take comfort in the knowledge that it has happened in order to propel us into rebirth, new hope, and new beginnings, and ultimately, a better more meaningful love.

So why struggle, why rail against the unfairness of fate as it deals us harsh blows in our love life? We just have to relax and enjoy the calm times in live and love and know that when the bad times comes, they are only temporal. We must remember that if loss happens it’s nothing but a catalyst to push us to new heights.

Most importantly, we need to always remember to look for the beauty in the ashes of every situation. It amazes me sometimes - Even in the midst of great tragedy so much beauty can be found in the little things. We just have to look for them. Sometimes when everything is falling apart, someone will do something so kind that it drives me to tears. In those moments I fall in love with life all over again, and it makes all the pain somehow easier to bear.

My heart and prayers are with you, dear Water Nymph. May you find the strength you need to persevere. Keep that chin high and don’t you ever strop dreaming or hoping.

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AcousticGod
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posted October 20, 2005 01:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
I volunteer for cuddling.

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WaterNymph
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posted October 20, 2005 09:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for WaterNymph     Edit/Delete Message
I feel like I’ve been torn apart by a rottweiler.

Anita
“Dont expect that others can love you like you want them to” this fact hurts like hell…but I know it’s true - and that I have to look deep inside to find what I really need

“someone who makes you unhappy and wont treat you good and exhaust you isnt right for you. thats not love.” and part of me still believes that…only I’m being told I’m expecting too much - how can that be too much?

You totally understood my post

Virgo Libra, Lialei & Pixie

Isolaede - your post is beautiful, every word - especially

“Loss is a part of life and love both. Death happens like that good ol’ death card in Tarot. An ending comes so we can be reborn stronger and better. Like the phoenix. Sometimes death happens to transform us or push us onto some new, ultimately better path. So when love ends, ultimately we must take comfort in the knowledge that it has happened in order to propel us into rebirth, new hope, and new beginnings, and ultimately, a better more meaningful love.”

“Keep that chin high and don’t you ever strop dreaming or hoping.” I wont

AG

Thank you everyone for caring

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AcousticGod
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posted October 20, 2005 01:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
Awwww....

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