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From: mumbai,maharashtra,india
Registered: Apr 2004

posted October 23, 2005 10:53 AM         

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i turned 18 this year...so much all of a sudden changes..ur ib college..ur parents treat u almost like adults..and most importantly u see people falling in love with each other left right and centre or so they claim..everyone is seeing someone or the other..people are dancing,sleeping hurting each other...and getting back...after all said and done..this is probably the best phase in life...but somehoe the jumping from one person to another has never appealed to me..

everyone i know has atleast by now been in 2 realtionships to the say the least and the list of non-lovers and ex-kissers is never ending...wati keep wonderng is when people continue to do this...dosent it delay the one ur meant to be with...?altho i am am also of the thinking that its better to meet the one ur gonna love lil later..coz that will make the wait worth it and make u appreciate the person in question more so...silly but still...!
and...eventually wen u go thru so much pain and setbacks and u form so much baggage and inhibitions...how will u give openly and innocently the way u did wen u loved first..or when u held someone with true feelings first!!!
ya well i hav heard that wen its love u realise and its different and yada yada....but still?
whats different...wats new...wats special with that "1"...wen all u do with him/her is wat uv done and said before too....?
and why shud u hold back....
isnt that one of the reasons wen we say...we love each other...but cant be with each other...
no i do not believe that it will get special...or it will want u to go that extra mile...that suits the books...all of us here are practical enough to know that once bitten twice!and we think about giving our heart out a 1000 times once we'v been heartwrenchingly hurt!

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posted October 24, 2005 07:12 AM         

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when it finally comes it will sort itself and you and your thoughts out LOL - you will surrender cos love is healing
dont worry x

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posted October 24, 2005 07:40 AM         

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Vinita,

I was third time lucky.....got me heart broken a few times too......but dont worry......love will come to you......of that I am positive.......

xxx

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posted October 24, 2005 09:02 AM         

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Each time I gave my love to someone, it is just like the first time. Each person I was with is different, and for each one of them, I will love till the day I die.

It is very commendable that you want to hold back until you meet "the one". I think that is a noble idea.

The thing is, each time I fell in love (very few times, less than fingers in one hand), I truly believed that he would be "the one". Sometimes, it just doesn't work out that way. But believe me when I say that when most of us walk into a relationship, we always hope for it to last (at least I did).

I do not and will not call my experiences "baggages". They are not. They are life experiences, some good, some bad. All in all, it made me a better person. I am a better person today than I was when I was waiting for "the one". Each of the men I went out with taught me things that I would not have learnt on my own. And I will always be appreciative of that and will never trade that for all the innocence in the world...

I hope you find happiness in any path you choose.

Miss Muffet

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From: mumbai,maharashtra,india
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posted November 03, 2005 03:51 PM         

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awwww....
that reinforces a lotta faith....
and yes so simple and so true"love is healing"...its sorts everything out for itself....helps so much to hear the other sides of the fence!
and thank you sue g....am storing ur wishes in my lil box of luck...ill open it on new years if i feel too lonely!!!!
and yes miss muffet wat u say is very true too....u mean for it to last forever...u never enter a marriage thinking divorce!
ya but i was referring to those smarties who jump from one person to another...."coz they feel lonely wen they're single"...lol my classmate actually told me that...i was dying to crack up!

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posted November 04, 2005 09:34 AM         

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Vinita, I totally agree with you. I'm 31, and my only relationship to date has been with my stbx-husband and I STILL am not the type to date people just for the sake of it.

AT

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