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Topic: I've got a crush on... ME! Get one on YOU!
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future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 1674
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted October 25, 2005 11:02 PM
 
Okay, bear with me while I go bizzarro for a second...Blame it on an upcoming Saturn return, or the fact that I now have very basic cable and I'm OD'ing on Sex and the City reruns. Bottom line is: I'm feeling... well, older and so much less like the flirty, sexy self that we all possess. So I'm thinking... what is it that I have to offer? Why would anyone fall for me in the first place? (I'm seriously attached, but it's nice to feel like I'd still have some kind of chance in hell if I were to find myself single!) I'm still pondering... What tricks do you have up your sleeve to make the guys/ girls go ga-ga for you? IP: Logged |
fayte.m
Knowflake Posts: 2545
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Registered: Mar 2005
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posted October 26, 2005 12:33 AM
Just be myself.
Let them know...
What you see is what you get...no hidden agendas or head games.
Works for me.
And why would I want folks in my life who do not want me to be myself?
So this weeds out the ones who would want me to be what they want rather then who I am.
I hope that makes sense.
I'm not perfect...but I am real.
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sue g
Knowflake Posts: 3939
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted October 26, 2005 03:45 AM
Men seem to be drawn to my sense of humour and lightness.....it seems like an aphrodisiac to some.....so I have to be careful where I put it out, although these days I am good at protecting myself.I live in a country where the "craic" is very prominent, so if you wanna be one of the natives you go with the flow.....I also find kindness and honesty go down well....!!!
love to all
Sue xxx IP: Logged |
future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 1674
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted October 26, 2005 08:20 AM
Great answers! There is nothing more liberating than just being yourself... especially when you find people who resonate with you. Too many people try to be someone else, and if you be only yourself, you may face rejection... I value this as part of the natural weeding process!I know what you mean, Sue, about having to tone it down a little to keep from drawing the wrong people in, or the right people in too far. In person I have a very friendly, flirty vibe, which is not intended... it's just my nature. But it has gotten me into trouble sometimes.  IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 504
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Registered: Jun 2005
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posted October 26, 2005 09:56 AM
Fayte.m: You reached in and grabbed the words right out of my mouth. Oh I feel the exact same way. ALWAYS BE MYSELF!!!!IP: Logged |
Stargazer
Knowflake Posts: 140
From: Columbus OH USA
Registered: Aug 2005
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posted October 26, 2005 11:12 AM
Hey future!I would say like yourself!! I mean we all know you have to love yourself to be of any use to anyone else... but i know that its possible to love someone but not like them so much... so i say like who you are and smile!
I am 10 yrs. past my saturn return and i feel great. i like who i am and that comes across and attracts the like..
I feel i look better than i did then ... i'm healthier, weigh less, and i'm a cappy ASC. so there you go....
My husband tells me that my body sends out vibes my mind does't catch... at least he is now realizing that it is not on purpose....i meant the friendly, flirty stuff... i find myself in water over my head too often! At least i'm a good swimmer! IP: Logged |
fayte.m
Knowflake Posts: 2545
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Registered: Mar 2005
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posted October 26, 2005 11:29 AM
Yes!
always "TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE"
NEVER BE ANYTHING OTHER THAN YOUR HONEST TRUE SELF!!!!
Yes..it does help weed out the ones who are not really our types...
Mama Mia!!!!!
Thank you! 
future_uncertain
Thanks for starting this thread!
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nannyfish
Knowflake Posts: 64
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Registered: Aug 2005
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posted October 26, 2005 12:30 PM
Laugh as many times as possible everyday. Laugh at yourself and your imperfections, laugh at the absurd, laugh at the unreasonable, don't take life too seriously...it's too damned funny! IP: Logged |
fayte.m
Knowflake Posts: 2545
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Registered: Mar 2005
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posted October 26, 2005 02:53 PM
nannyfish!
YES!!!!!
If I am really down...I know this sounds crazy...but I will start by doing fake laughter...with or without a mirror...but a mirror(or another person to do it with!) is better! I start by frowning and snarling more and then I switch to a fake chuckle/giggle... and by the time I work myself up to maniacal laughter...I have either broken through the gloomies or I go beyond them and have a damn good purging, all out, cry fest!
IT REALLY DOES CLEAR THINGS!!!!!
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sue g
Knowflake Posts: 3939
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted October 26, 2005 04:00 PM
When I used to work in a big office in England, the only way I could get thro the days was by having devilment and laughing....the girl in the next office said they could hear me....and they were quite a distance away...hahahahaha.The job was so blody serious (law) it was only thro my lightness that I coped.....and it rubbed off on others too.....as my mother always says "you cant beat a good laugh"......so true hey guys. love and laughter to all
xxx  xxx  xxx
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Cardinalgal
Knowflake Posts: 231
From: Lincoln, UK
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted October 26, 2005 04:37 PM
Hmmm....I think it must be sense of humour and my 'take charge' independant attitude.  However it's funny, that seems to be both an initial draw and then my Waterloo as men do seem to end up wanting something of the archetypal 'damsel in distress' who'll tremble with relief in their manly embrace - and that's just not me! 3 cardinal signs in my Sun/Moon/Ascendant placements means I'm rather too self sufficient for my own good a lot of the time! My eyes have had some nice comments though  Libra Sun, Cancer Asc and Cappy Moon.
Hell, I even Square myself! IP: Logged |
Isolaede
Knowflake Posts: 123
From: Studio City, CA
Registered: Aug 2005
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posted October 26, 2005 05:37 PM
For the initial attraction phase, I tend to give off the opposite initial vibe to most of the people here. I come across as soft, fragile, and kind and it draws men quite nicely. I’ve been told by several people that approached me at clubs that the thing that made them want to keep talking to me after the initial greeting was my kindness. I think that men worth having are drawn to a truly kind woman like flies to honey. LOL But that can backfire too – men I’ve been in relationships with confessed that in the early stages they were worried I was too sweet and pure to be a good match for them. That’s obviously before they caught wind of my cardinal strength, independence, stubbornness, and my Sag sense of adventure. ; )I think what keeps my men around after the initial stars-in-the-eyes phase is my continued kindness, flexibility, lack of selfishness, sense of adventure, surety of self, supportiveness, 100% openness and honesty, dependability, affectionate personality, and my ability to love someone absolutely, and completely. The last one is a big one. I think we all want to be loved completely, but to receive that kind of love we have to give it.
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proxieme
Knowflake Posts: 5232
From: Southern 'Bama
Registered: Aug 2002
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posted October 27, 2005 11:16 PM
I'm myself (or, er, was...I'm married now).Those who're attracted to me are attracted to me for me (or, more specifically, probably my Moon - every single one that I bothered to check has an airy Venus - my Moon's in Aqua). To me honest, I'm kinda too oblivious to really try to put off a vibe. IP: Logged |
future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 1674
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted October 28, 2005 10:59 AM
This is fun! I love reading all of your posts. I think it's important to take a time-out every once and a while and think about what it is that makes us special.One of the things about me that attracts people is that I can usually see someone's potential/intentions behind whatever circumstances may surround them at the moment, or whatever face they present to the world. I like that I can see to the hearts of the people around me. This is often a double-edged sword because while I tend to relate to people on the level from which their heart/soul is coming from, they still relate to me on a more pretentious level, which I find infuriating. I'm like you, Prox-- I am also too oblivious to put on airs. I think it's more important to be genuine than to be cool... seems these days so many people bring themselves up by putting others down, even if it is in a playful way. Sure, I can laugh at myself with the best of them, but sometimes there's only so much of this one can take. I'm proud to say that I can be a complete dork sometimes. I make mistakes and I'm not afraid to put myself out there, to be human. At least with me, people know what they're getting! IP: Logged |
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