posted November 12, 2005 10:19 PM         

Not to get to personal, but how into physical shows of affection are you?
If anything, that's been a bone of contention w/ me and Jase - I'm much more into playful, physical bantering than he is. When I'm being flirty, it's physical (patting his bum when I walk past, giving a wolf-whistle when he bends down, etc). He's only in the mood for that sort of thing when I'm not (yay, contrary-ass Venus in Aqua).
Granted my overt flirtiness (and our friction on that) could be his Venus and my Mars sparring. That tension can be good in the sack, but can grate everywhere else.

I'm pretty sure my very real need to be touched (and kissed on the neck ) comes from the Venus in Tau, though.

posted November 13, 2005 06:39 PM         

I am my own worst enemy in love so I stay out of it these days and do not hit those land mines. No evenings in with a good looking male, no video rentals, no dinners, no nights at his place, or his friends place, no cards. No flowers. Just lots of boundaries, and work.

working two different jobs and can't seem to find enough work, which motivates me better than Love. Loving men usually means being submissive-definition is submitting to direction-Venus in Aries needs direction from something bigger than herself.

Therefore looking for man bigger to protect me, or drive me to NYC, or one to guide me. Of course They all want to blow in my ear right now..then I am responsible.

that makes me my own worst enemy.

Venus in Aries blues.

posted November 13, 2005 07:41 PM         

Having venus in Gem is a pain in the butt sometimes. Couple that w/ a Venus Sq. Uranus and Pluto you might begin to guess the permanent state of rebellion and the obsessive desire for that which is diffferent and stimulating and unusual. NOT an easy task. LOL

Yikes!

posted November 14, 2005 03:46 PM         

Possibly your Venus is best at work?

Although it's rough, your aspects are *sexy*

posted November 15, 2005 03:05 AM         

Would it help if I blew in your ear?
Spanked your bum?
Anything?

posted November 15, 2005 10:46 PM         

Thanks for calling my tough aspects 'sexy". LOL I appreciate your response.

posted November 16, 2005 01:10 PM         

Am I physically demonstrative.. it depends. In a relationship YES!!!! I love to touch my mate, to pat them on the back or just give them a hug. I have to feel comfortable with the person and feel that when I touch them that I won't be rejected.

My ex-Taurus would play games with that physical touch. If I were to touch him or try to become amorous, he would reject me flat out. Then, 10 minutes later, he would make the move on me.. it was his way of letting me know he was in control. Still, I won't let that keep me from being physical with others.. LOL... it was his issue not mine.

Now, I have dated people that were overly affectionate and really freaked me out. The current Cancer Sun / Sag moon did that on our first date. He was all over me like we were an established couple - yet we had never been intimate. LOL.. PDA (public displays of affection) is not something I care for until I am in a relationship. (but for me there is an ulterior motive... PDA can be taken as being an established couple which in turn could send the signal that I am NOT available... and I AM.. LMAO).

I am going to have to open an thread on Venus in Sag and dating.. or people with strong Sag because I feel like a total wild woman these days ..

Have you talked to Jase about this? Do you think it may have more to do with his Aqua Sun?

posted November 16, 2005 03:26 PM         

Ugh, I'm not into serious PDA, either (at least not since I was 14), so I feel you there.
Hugging, hand-holding, etc.'s fine with me, but I also have kinda territorial placements (aside from my Sun and Moon).

Funny story: The first and only Scorpio that I've dated (very moody, very broody musician son of a diplomat) took me to a large concert on our second date, drank a few, and proceeded to try to swallow me. I was young and on the rebound from my own nutter Taurus, so I went with the flow.
A couple of weeks later, I was working retail on New Year's Eve. He picked me up once the clock struck 12 and we went back to my place to watch a movie. After trying to swallow me again for a bit, he then, oh-so-tenderly said, "I want to make loooove to you..."
And he was dead sincere.
And I laughed out a, "No."
Fifteen minutes of awkward silence later, I drove him home.

FUNNY.

He just moved entirely too fast for me, nevermind that I had known him for probably a year.

And then Jase and I did the deed, comfortably, after three days.
Go fig. I guess it all depends for me.

Re: your being physically demonstrative: Coolio The only thing I'd watch for then is his being a tad, "Ugh, you mine. Sit here. Be with me." But you know that; and how much that'd come out depends a whole sack of other factors, anyway.

Re: Taurus Games: Double Ugh.
I actually kinda think that that was a factor back when Jase and I were having pretty serious problems (maybe combined w/ his Scorp Asc). He was feeling bitter and impotent towards the world, but, "Yes," or "No," or "Rawr, I'm going to be so ugly you don't want me to say yes," were under his control. So he had some power games going on.
Just a theory, but I think it's a good one.

We talked about it when it was going on, but, y'know...he was angry, his head was up his butt, and I was angry that his head was up his butt so my head was up my butt, too.

posted November 17, 2005 02:13 PM         

I can see why Jase would be turned off / on by things at work. These guys live in their heads (Aqua's) for the most part, so when something affects him on a work level it is hard for him to break out of that mold. He (like my Aqua friend) also has a Taurus moon - again.. they can be needy / but distant, yet they do require a lot of love and touch (they just don't need it to turn to sex). They sometimes feel pressured that when they just want to cuddle, the person will assume they want sex.

In your composite chart you two have Pluto in the 12 house and Uranus in the first house. Uranus in that house can produce changable circumstances as well as sometimes burning hot & cold. Mr. Taurus and I had that.. and things always seem in a constant state of chaos (meaning, BNOC.. K9 instructor school..moving around and then him re-enlisting). BUT.. we couldn't talk about it - he was unwilling to see it.. you and Jase can at least talk about what is happening to you both.

In both of your natal charts you have Uranus in the first house making tense aspects to Mars... His aspects Mars in the 4th house of home while yours aspects Mars in the 10th house of career. Home and career are somewhat of tender subjects and quite changeable.. which you are well aware of.

Also in your composite you have Moon in the 4th square Neptune in the 2nd. Open communication is a MUST.. if you are not open and honest you run the risk of becoming idealistic about your dwelling (you have that Sun in the 4th house as well) and can ignore what is really happening. That being said, you also have many favorable positions... that Moon and Sun in the 4th house of the composite shows how much the two of you love being home together.. It is a refuge for your relationship and you two will do anything to preserve it

Again though, sex is a tough one. I like to look at a synastry chart to see how the two will affect each other.

I have almost always dated Taurus risings and found that I affected them in a profound way. Well in almost every case my Sun / Venus fell in either their 7th or 8th house and my moon fell in their 12th house. I made them uncomfortable with what I could see. Mr. Taurus had his moon in my 12th house while his Sun, thankfully, fell into my 9th house. Still, there was this unspoken nervousness and My sun / venus in his 8th house of sex unnerved him.. He needed the control.

Now I find that I am with another Taurus, but he is a Cancer rising. HIS sun / venus fall into my 8th house (conjuncting my natal Saturn). I do feel a slight nervousness around him but I think having a strong Saturn placement will help me with not feeling too week LOL...