posted November 16, 2005 01:53 PM         

Okay... so I am living my life in such a different way than before. By that I mean, I always focused on my career or ending up in a relationship while having a career, but never really just HAD FUN...

Soooo.. as many of you know, a few months ago, I left the Taurus for good, signed a lease to a house in Bisbee and then got laid off / fired for political reasons...

But.... being in Bisbee (small community but known for it's diversity).. I have this wonderful network of friends. Just walking to the post office (because most of our houses are built into the mountains - I have to walk up 60 stairs to get to my house, we all have PO boxes) takes about 45 minutes to an hour because you stop and talk to everyone.

But that isn't what this is about.. It's about a feeling of coming into your own or for me.. coming into my own. I have actually started to live life in a more Sagittarian way- versus letting my Pluto on the Ascendant / Virgo rising worry me into 'God, what will people think? or I really need to do this and that"... know what I mean?

I have enough money put away to enjoy my life for another 3 months without worry (but I will get that job)... I have spent this time concentrating on the house (which I may end up buying and remodeling) as well as just enjoying my social life....

And that is where is starts.. I am.. dating THREE guys at the same time... LMAO.. I never have done this... and I seem to be in the mindset that if I am attracted to a guy, I have do inhibition about letting him know. My former co-worker and best friend, who is also a Sag has given me a new American Indian name "f*cks-likea-man". Not that I am doing that with anyone, but I am no longer afraid of being sexual or sensual.

I used to get nervous when people said how sexy I was and would try to down play it.. but now.. well, I love it.

Pluto is conjuncting my IC / Sun / Venus while sending beams to my natal Pluto / Asc.. It is also trining my Aries moon (YAY)..

All three guys have a significant dose of Sag in their charts and two are Cancer risings (I have a 4th house Sun) but, I have noticed that if I am not into them after a time.. I have no problem cutting them loose.

I had already explained to each of them that I don't want to be boxed into a relationship at this time. I already did that in the past and I want to enjoy the freedom and then decide if I want to take it down a certain path.

The Cancer Sun / Sag moon / Cancer rising FREAKED out. We went out on Saturday and I introduced him to some of my friends, specifically one of my best friends that also came up from out of town (she happens to be married to my ex's boss). Mr. Cancer was great for a while.. singing, laughing..etc... then he switched into relationship mode .... it didn't help that the AQUA Sun / Taurus moon also showed up to the bar and he is gorgeous. Anyway, Mr. Cancer laid it on the line about wanting to get more involved but being afraid because he had been hurt before. I had already had a 2 hour conversation with him when he called me up drunk on Thursday night telling me he had all these feelings for me and asking me if I was sleeping with my out of town guest (I was not nor did I).. anyway it went on and on...

That night ended with Mr. Cancer partaking in something illegal (herb) which could kill his career. He is in the Army and on the path to becoming an officer. It reminded me of Mr. Taurus and his own addictions and lack of self control. I am not sure if I want to give him a second chance... My own Venus in Sag / Mars in Pisces does not seem to jive with his Natal Venus in Gemini / Mars in Gemini. LOL...

After all was said and done.. I ended up Monday night on a date with the Aqua. He was cool about everything and doesn't seem to let my dating phase him.

BUT... for some reason I am starting to really dig the Taurus Sun / Sag Moon / Cancer rising Border Patrol guy.

Is anyone else with Venus in Sag or moon / sun in Sag also feeling the desire to "let loose"?

Pixie..how are you doing with all of this?

posted November 16, 2005 03:04 PM         

The older I get, the more Gem I get (4 planets) and I can be pretty wild and have learned not to give a crap what others are thinking. The Virgo still gives me a bit of discipline, but I'm having a ball meeting and engaging with all kinds of ppl.

I'm more open to all kinds of experiences, men, places, whatever and it gives me a great sense of freedom. I am also starting my own business as a personal organizer because I'm tired of working for others and making their pockets fat.

Excuse my rambling :-), but I feel you on the changes that are happening in your life.

All the best to you and enjoy the MOMENT!

posted November 16, 2005 06:40 PM         

Personally, I can date more than one person (lots more ) at a time but can't sleep with more than one person at a time. Of course, because it takes me so long to get any where near that point I don't run into any trouble.

You came so close to being tied to someone you shouldn't have been, it seems natural you would relish your new freedom. It sounds like you're having a good time. You're young, you're smart, you're cute, you're single. Enjoy!

posted November 17, 2005 12:16 AM         

It's great to have sex but it quickly turns a man from friend to lover and you can't go back, when it's sometimes nice to have a male brotherly friend who understands you, even if you are in a relationship:> I don't know if it's the same for you but it's tough to put up a boundary after a while, naturally your body starts to trust after a while with someone.

With fire Venus you are trustworthy with lots of people and they will all want to merge with you-

yes, I see the Venus in Sag attracting,

Get lots of dates, go places, have fun!

Natasha

posted November 17, 2005 01:10 PM         

SD.. maybe your Gemini planets are feeling the affects of Pluto in Sag? I also wonder if Uranus in Pisces has something to do with it (I have Mars in Pisces).

Natasha,

I am blessed in that I live in this community with many gay men. My best friend, who knows all my secrets and I know his, is a gay Saggie. I guess that is why I am not worried about crossing the line as far as sex goes - but I still am not with numerous partners. There is only one casual dating thing going on.. that is the Aqua (and the truth is.. sometimes I pick up on that he wants more than he lets onto, but it just biding his time). The one that could turn into more is with Mr. Border Patrol (LOL).. but, more than anything he and I are friends. We talk for hours.. and he will come over just to talk and BS.. we are so much alike, but different.

I feel like I have more control over my relationships at this point in my life. I guess a sense of empowerment. Maybe that comes as one ages or maybe it is true that almost being tied down to someone so wrong for me really showed me what I DO want with someone that is right for me.

One thing I am firm about is communication and having similar beliefs. The Cancer calls sporadically, but wants to tie me down. He flakes out off and on, yet wants me to make every date he sets. He KNOWS I am dating others.. I was very clear about that (and I am talking Sagittarian Bluntness here...LOL).

I almost feel like I am conducting some sort of research project. My Saggie buddy and I talked about it last night at the bar (He loves to sing karaoke and has introduced me to the bug). He said "This place, this town is so eclectic and there are so many stories here.. we should write a screen play.. and do you mind if I make a major character out of you?".. LOL.. it's true, this place is different and seems to cause people to be their true selves.

He is partial to the Aqua.. because the Aqua has those classic angular features with that lean tight body. He almost seems sexual and asexual at once.

The Saggies partner (a Taurus) does not like the Aqua at all and says he is too aloof. He also added that he didn't give a damn if the Aqua is a moody artist, he doesn't have time for someone that doesn't say "hi" when you see them. LMAO.. spoken like a true Bull huh? Instead he likes the Cancer (because the Cancer is freaking hot and has a majorly gorgeous body). My Saggie buddy does not like the Cancer LOL....

Oh well.. they will be meeing Mr. Border Patrol (Taurus) tonight. I have several friends that want to meet him (gay men of course) because they love a man in uniform... I said 'he won't be wearing his uniform and he won't be carrying his gun or badge so just forget it LOL.. but the handcuffs could be arranged"... LOL...

posted November 17, 2005 02:20 PM         

How in the heck are ya? Dating an Aries huh? Cool beans... I think that once you have started dating and having added the parameters of being able to date others, then you are pretty much stuck (that isn't the right word.. but you know what I mean). You can try to go back, but it never seems to work.

I started within the first conversation letting them know about not wanting a committment.. only dating and would see where it would go.

BUT... once I start seriously dating, then I would have a hard time dating more than once person. My emotions are not built that way and I start to worry about how the other person is feeling.

At this point, if I were to pinpoint who I could have a relationship with, it would be the Taurus / BP guy. We met a few months ago at an organization where we volunteer for our community. We work / live close to each other, so proximity isn't a problem (not like with the cancer) and he is more stable / communication oriented. It also helps that he has Mercury in Aries conjuncting my moon in the 7th house and my Mercury in Capricorn trines his Sun and also falls into his 7th house.

TINK.... WOMAN.. you are my idol... seriously.. because I had always wanted to be able to date many.. but always felt bad (until now). So far so good.

Hey.. how are things going with you?

posted November 17, 2005 03:43 PM         

I am building my business - VERY slowly it seems, and that is taking forever. Mostly I am concentrating on my work and creativity - could be my Water Venus, CJ and trine significant planets at the present time. I am not in "flirt" mode, I am in "analytical" mode.

Recently I talked to my Saggie mother for the first time in a couple of years and communicated with my Aries father for a long time in ages. He and I have a tendency to rub each other up the wrong way, but I think we are gradually working it out. We had an enormous email row a couple of days ago but he emailed me back telling me to let go of my anger and hatred for some of the things he's done - think he must've been talking to my mother (they still talk and she has been teaching yoga for several years and is into karma etc.)

AT

posted November 17, 2005 07:59 PM         

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I feel like I have more control over my relationships at this point in my life. I guess a sense of empowerment. Maybe that comes as one ages or maybe it is true that almost being tied down to someone so wrong for me really showed me what I DO want with someone that is right for me.

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That's good place to be, pid. Go with it. Speaking of good places to be ... this Bisbee place sounds fantastic. Sounds Cripple Creekish. Maybe something magical will happen.

posted November 18, 2005 04:45 PM         

I have had some problems remembering certain details or when I have related a story to one person and not the other. My best Cappie friend said he needed to start keeping a social calendar to keep track of my dating.

I am only dating three right now and we affectionately refer to them as The Army guy, Mr. Border Patrol and the Moody Artist. Unless I am talking to someone fluent in astro then it's Mr. Cancer, Mr Taurus and Mr. Aqua.

I am going to cut out Mr. Aqua though and most likely Mr. Cancer after tomorrow's date. That doesn't mean I am settling down with Mr. Taurus.. I just want to see what happens.

Pluto in the 7th will make one extremely sensitive to relationships and those issues. Very powerful transit. Mine is in the 4th house right now.. and will be for a while.