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Topic: Finding your twin
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sue g Knowflake Posts: 4341 From: ireland Registered: Sep 2004
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posted November 20, 2005 07:48 AM
A friend asked a question which I found interesting.....What if you find your twin and he or she is married, a LOT younger, a LOT older, different religion etc etc..... Do you then live without love....or do you meet another and sacrifice your twin......or...... Is there more than one love for us? She is waiting for your answers.... Thanks friends love Sue xxx IP: Logged |
IknowUcappy Knowflake Posts: 49 From: Registered: Oct 2005
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posted November 20, 2005 09:32 AM
Very interesting subject ! Sue, I strongly believe that true love is in the soul, not on the outside...so looks, age or religion don't matter at all... As for one twin being married...that's a big problem indeed...I think the twin should respect her twin's marriage...and if it's meant to be it will be...she should try to find her true soul purpose and follow it and if/when the time is right she will be with her twin... But I'm no Twin expert so maybe someone else knows much more on the subject...Please tell us what you believe ! I love these discussions ! Love and Light, IknowUcappy IP: Logged |
ariestiger Knowflake Posts: 884 From: UK Registered: Jan 2004
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posted November 20, 2005 09:54 AM
Be friends with them and cultivate the friendship, get to know them, what makes them tick, and don't AUTOMATICALLY assume they will feel the same way. Give the relationship - whatever form it takes - time to develop. Respect the fact that the person had a life before they met you, and still has. Love them unconditionally, but don't be too full-on. Just be a good friend. AT IP: Logged |
neval3000 Knowflake Posts: 6 From: manisa,turkey Registered: Nov 2005
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posted November 20, 2005 09:58 AM
I think it is a very good subject... I new in here...Long years ago I fell in love with leo man..and I am a scorpio..When we saw each other we had times days,months,years...we talked so much..and then we never found that feelings again someone else..we broke up...because of the proud..we are both left handed we said the same things in the same time...so on.... now we are just friend... actually now i have new boyfriend.yesterday I wrote: is it possible scorpio&leo.. what a faith:again I have deep feelings with a leo man and sometimes I believe faith dont give our twin...anyway...take care of you everybody... IP: Logged |
cancerrg Knowflake Posts: 1464 From: Registered: Dec 2004
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posted November 20, 2005 10:31 AM
if ever i am in that kind of situation , i wont destablise her marriage bcos for me marriage has nothing to do with love .and i would certainly try to move on(thats cancer's practicality) that means i might find some one bcos true love isn't only about finding the right person , its also about being the right person .and i alawys try to work on the second part more than the first. IP: Logged |
celticfyre Knowflake Posts: 206 From: VA,USA Registered: Aug 2005
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posted November 20, 2005 01:33 PM
Odd I saw this thread after I posted about my crab being my twin....which is what I beleive to be true. I figure so far with everyting considered I have to cultivate the relationship at whatever speed it develops. I know he cares for me, trusts me and we are good friends which are good starts i know down to my soul he came along when we were ready, I jsut don't think I realizes but maybe he does and he is just a slow mover as many have said.So I would say Sue for your friend cultivate a freindship at least to see what if anything might really be there then see what happens. Things have a way of changing and if it is meant to be more than freindship it will be maybe sometimes freindship relationship are more solid and meaningful than a romantic love relationships doesn't mean they are less important to ones development and spiritual growth either. I think soemtimes people confuse the two. I jsut know that my crab and I were meant to find each other for whatever reasons they are and i know we are on the start of a long path together where ever it takes us and I am content with that. Make any sense? ------------------ ML ~~~~~~~~~~~ "In my end is my beginning" Mary,Queen of Scots IP: Logged |
sdg1844 Knowflake Posts: 71 From: New York, NY, USA Registered: Jun 2005
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posted November 20, 2005 04:17 PM
hmmmm...their background wouldn't be an issue for me. I have a deep and profound respect for marriage and would have MAJOR issues with participating in any actions that would mess with it.That being said, if marriage was not a factor, I would build on the basis of friendship. It's important for me to dig deep and try to understand ppl as much as possible. I do believe that there is one person who comes into your life and understands you in ways you could never predict. I think that's what we're all looking for. Love, acceptance and knowing that we are special to someone. The knowledge that we are loved and appreciated for who we are w/out judgement is a great and rare blessing.
------------------ Before you speak, ask yourself, is it kind, is it necessary, is it true, does it improve on the silence? -Sai Baba IP: Logged |
Isolaede Knowflake Posts: 164 From: Studio City, CA Registered: Aug 2005
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posted November 21, 2005 01:54 PM
Religion and age shouldn't keep someone away from their twin, unless that twin was of such a young age as to make the union illegal. If there was mutual love there, they'd work things out. However, marriage should definitely be a bit stop sign. I have far too much respect for the importance of that bond to suggest that anyone pursue someone that had already given a promise to someone else. In this case, I'd suggest your friend content herself/himself with friendship. Or, if friendship would drive a wedge between husband and wife, I’d suggest your friend walk away and be content knowing that her/his twin is somewhere in the world, happy and loved.Your poor friend, Sue. What a tough situation to find herself in.
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LeoLys Knowflake Posts: 18 From: Tallahassee, Florida, USA Registered: Nov 2005
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posted November 21, 2005 02:02 PM
I met a 'twin' once. we dated for about 4 months, then he ran away. another leo, born one week from me. he was like a male version of me, too. unfortunately, cicumstances prevented it from ever becomming serious. it was a long-distance thing too. he is married now. its kinda sad. but the way i reconcile it is that most people dont get to meet any twins and i held mine for a while. i'm also not sure we are supposed to end up in committed relationships with twins. it's too predictable, too much alike, tooo intense and intimate. it's not always comfortable to have someone who knows everything about what is in your head, because it's in theirs. i really enjoy kindred souls, but not necessarily for day to day living. does that make any sense at all? lol! IP: Logged |
sue g Knowflake Posts: 4341 From: ireland Registered: Sep 2004
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posted November 21, 2005 02:21 PM
Thanks guysThis is one of my closest friends.....he is younger, just a little bit......but she has loved him for 10 years and hasnt even looked at another since that time.....I really wanted to help her.....so hard. The one she loves has at times ignored her, been mean to her and even ignored her emails......but of late he seems to be changing his attitude. I just pray that things will turn out for her.......so sad.... Hey LeoLys I understand what you mean about not being with a twin....it would probably be too much.....too intense and not how one would think at all. Its so sad that there are people walking around lonely who are waiting for their twin......it might never happen and if it does, they may be disappointed...... xxx
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pixelpixie Moderator Posts: 2275 From: Ontario Canada Registered: Jun 2005
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posted November 21, 2005 11:21 PM
I feel so twisted and torn down the middle about it that I can't even express it anymore.It just makes me want to weep for it all. IP: Logged |
AcousticGod Knowflake Posts: 3583 From: Pleasanton, CA, USA Registered: May 2005
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posted November 22, 2005 02:29 AM
I think the answer to your friend's query is simple:Act according to your morals and principles. What's the motivation behind these questions? It's impractical to believe that everything will be solved through some ellusive twin. What may be wiser is investing in spiritual development, becoming an actualized human being in her own right, exploring what she has to offer up for the betterment of humanity. We all want to be made better through one special person, but the truth is that we evolve through relationships with many people. I believe we come into self-actualization through service to our fellow human beings. The ship of happiness and fulfillment is prepared for boarding, but finding the port doesn't require a particular partner. IP: Logged |
sue g Knowflake Posts: 4341 From: ireland Registered: Sep 2004
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posted November 22, 2005 08:36 AM
AG.....what wonderful words....and so wise....and yes I agree....thanks for that.... Pixie....hang in there lovely....will get better...I promise....sad that we have to go thro the sh***y stuff to receive the gems...... xxx IP: Logged |
nannyfish Knowflake Posts: 119 From: England Registered: Aug 2005
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posted November 22, 2005 09:14 AM
The basic premise of twin soul is that of FATE. Twin Souls are fated to meet eachother and touch eachother's lives or they wouldn't be down here at the same time.I don't, personally, think they are always meant to fall in love and live happily ever after. Say, for instance, one twin soul is a daughter and one is the mother. They have met, but the likelihood of falling in love is very remote...lol! The key is that the Twin Souls recognize in eachother a kindred spirit. Questions to ask: Why has this person appeared now? He/she could have just as easily appeared when both were free. FATE does not recognize time and space. Fate is actually *perfect timing*---so why were the Twin Souls reunited right now? Another question: What is the over-riding train of thought related with the relationship? Do questions about love of self come up? Are there always questions about how to love or why we love? Does it have something to do with getting over an addiction or psychological problem? A Twin Soul will always be there to help and support. Again--why would the Twin Soul come to knock down or hurt? It would be like they were hurting themself. Don't forget--both people are Twinned to Eachother so the help and support flows both ways Then again, maybe a Twin Soul shows up to usher someone out of a bad or harmful relationship. I would think every case is different. Anyway, there alot of questions but only the two people involved know the answers. Good luck. [/end rant] IP: Logged |
AcousticGod Knowflake Posts: 3583 From: Pleasanton, CA, USA Registered: May 2005
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posted November 22, 2005 11:47 AM
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Brilliant!! ------ for Sue IP: Logged |
Cardinalgal Knowflake Posts: 265 From: Lincoln, UK Registered: Jun 2005
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posted November 22, 2005 03:55 PM
Any life lesson is hard but being unable to connect with your twin is one of the hardest to go through without hurting anyone or creating more karma to repay. I agree with everyone whose said that adhering to your own personal morals is the way to go. In terms of finding your twin is married or partnered with someone else, I think you have to let that be and step away to let them explore that relationship for what it can teach them. If they choose you, then that's meant to be, but to decide that someone else's love means less than your own, I think is selfish and wrong. Age on the other hand I believe should not factor in it terribly much. Obviously if your twin is 13 and you are 40 there will be some legal issues! But I think love is love at any age and should be celebrated. After all, how many of us are lucky enough to find our twins? We all have to go through a lot of frogs to find our princes so if our fairy godmothers have been kind enough to plonk our twin in front of us, I think it'd be rude to turn them aside because they're slightly wrinkled or only just out of college! We can teach each other things at any age and although your eye-sight and hearing may fade a little with age in some cases, (only those who've not learnt how to reverse those spirals eh? ) your capacity to love certainly doesn't! There was a fabulous book written in the 19th century called "The Water Babies" in which there were 2 characters that I've never forgotten; Mrs Doasyouwouldbedoneby and Mrs Bedonetoasyoudid. That's the way I try to live my life and although some challenges are much harder than others and cause your heart to catch in your throat for the amount of pain you feel, there is always the universal truth to fall back on that you are in the right place to take the next step on your journey and to learn your next lesson. Strange as it may sound, that's comforted me in the pits of despair very often. It just gives a meaning and a purpose to it all which makes things easier to endure. Rather like reading a story and coming to a very harrowing chapter where you follow the hero/heroin into a terrible situation - you can't do anything about it, but you know that somehow, the writer has planned it all and this chapter will progress to another and another and another, where everything will be resolved somehow. That's a rather glib metaphor but I think our lives are very much like stories in many ways, and particularly our love stories with one another. We can't write for other people so we just have to follow our own story as best we can, taking care to keep to the path and not to hurt too many of our fellow characters along the way. IP: Logged |
Cardinalgal Knowflake Posts: 265 From: Lincoln, UK Registered: Jun 2005
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posted November 26, 2005 05:14 AM
Blimey! I don't half waffle on! IP: Logged |
Charlotte Knowflake Posts: 489 From: Tn. USA Registered: Apr 2004
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posted November 26, 2005 06:09 AM
AcousticGod, Extraordinarily insightful post!!!
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