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Topic: Venus square Saturn in synastry
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Gemini Nymph
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posted December 04, 2005 02:21 PM
 
Anyone have relationship experience with this aspect? Espically if it's the woman's Venus and the man's Saturn. If so, please tell me. Thanks  IP: Logged |
lioneye68
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posted December 05, 2005 01:56 PM
GN, I had this with my ex - my Saturn squared his Venus, AND his Saturn opposed my Venus. We both did alot of damage to each other. We can't even be aquaintances. Well, I can - but he can't. There's alot of hard feelings between us. I still get pangs of *something that doesn't feel very nice - not sure what* when I think about him, and us. I wish I could just stop feeling anything about it at all, but I don't know how. We wrecked each other.  I don't recommend it. IP: Logged |
Stargazer
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posted December 05, 2005 06:51 PM
I had this aspect with my 1st husband... although i didn't know it...lol 20 years ago. We really did a number on each other.... he was a real bully when it came right down to it and tried to undermine me every chance he got..... i couldn't do anything right in his eyes....
BTW-
Cafe astrology gives it a -4 red flag. IP: Logged |
TINK
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posted December 05, 2005 08:03 PM
yeah. why?IP: Logged |
Gemini Nymph
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posted December 06, 2005 12:40 AM
Because it indicates a high level of emoitonal incompatiblity, that's why. Saturn tends to bully Venus around or abuses Venus by rejecting affection or just being cold. At least that's what I've read, and it all makes sense in terms of what venus, Saturn and squares are all about. However cafe astrology also points out that couples with one of those Red Flag aspects can actually do well. The guy my friends are trying to hook me up with - the one with otherwise good aspects with me - has his Saturn at 4 Pisces, and my Venus is at 4 Gem. I have no interest in getting into a relationship that's going to dissolve into another guy patronizing me and emotionally abusing me. Been there, done that. *sigh* I'm thinking I should just pass on this guy. IP: Logged |
sthenri
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posted December 06, 2005 01:16 AM
I believe I had this aspect with my ex too, but to be fair I needed the experience at the time. Saturn is limiting-and my Venus was out of control. He helped me get my life on track.If you don't need the experience then pass. Natasha
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MoonDuchess88
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posted December 06, 2005 04:08 PM
I have the opposition both ways with my own father IP: Logged |
lioneye68
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posted December 10, 2005 09:39 AM
How's your relationship with him, MoonDuchess?IP: Logged |
MoonDuchess88
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posted December 10, 2005 04:19 PM
well, it is pretty distant. I think its pretty much similar to everybody else's experiences. The only thing is that to add salt on the wound, its a father-daughter relationship.....we're related  I mean, he really did hurt my feelings in the past. Like when he had a BIG argument with my mother (when I was like 7) I sided with her, he made me feel bad by saying some things to me I will never forget. But I guess since we don't live under the same roof it doesn't bother me as much and I don't think about it. So when I saw that we had this aspect, it didn't suprise me. The weird thing is that we both have the same sun,moon,venus,and mars  IP: Logged |
1scorp
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posted December 12, 2005 09:49 AM
I've had venus square saturn before. I was the saturn person. The experience I had was that I "had" to be the serious one. Trust me... was no fun for me always being the responsible one. Almost like I had no choice in the matter. It drained the emotion out of me. Weird really. Edited - I can't fault him for it. We just had completely different ways of showing affection... when we both showed it... it would fly right over the other's head. ___________________________________________
Scorpio sun, venus, mars, mercury, and uranus
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TINK
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posted December 13, 2005 08:09 AM
That's interesting, Gemini Nymph. 
Thanks. I've been with my Saturn friend for 8 years and it's been great. Challeging at times ... but still wonderful. My Venus is in Scorpio and his Saturn is in Aquarius. That's a square, right? He can be a bully, but he's never cold or lacking in affection. He has Venus in Cancer, possibly that helps? He's never once been patronizing. I'm not too proud to admit he's the responsible one in the relationship and he's very much helped me get my act together. It was sorely needed. I'd like to think I've helped him loosen up. As a scorp, I sort of enjoy his tendency to bully. lol It's that challenge thing again. Also, he's a Gemini ... they don't seem to make stand-out bullies. (no offense ) I've learned when to let him have his own way and when to insist on mine. Not an easy lesson, that one, but a worthy one. I suppose it's all relative. IP: Logged |
foxxyxo
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posted June 18, 2013 02:39 PM
so what if his saturn is in early pisces squaring my scorpio venus? i feel like this aspect wouldnt be so bad since the signs are actually compatible.....right?IP: Logged |
iliketurtles
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posted June 22, 2013 02:27 AM
i had this with a past crush. i was saturn square his venus. i was really cold towards him. our sorta-friendship never developed into anything as i was terribly insecure about myself and suspicious of anyone who expressed interest in or attraction towards me. i ruined would could have been a terrific friendship only through not having enough confidence in myself. i'm sure if i were nicer to him he might have given me a chance but i wasn't open to it at the time. i was too immature for such an aspect.
my saturn opposes my fathers venus, there is always distance and we have never been close. he gave my mother hell and he and i didn't interact much at all. i was fifteen when my mother and i moved away from him and i still hardly knew the guy. *in synastry* it really takes enourmous amounts of maturity (on both sides) for such hard saturn aspects to work out nicely. john lennons saturn squared yoko ono's venus....they seemed to get on fine  they were a mature, loving pair so theres hope. IP: Logged |
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