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Topic: How do you act when dating a scorpio?
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Lousianagrl
Knowflake Posts: 279
From: Leesville, Louisiana
Registered: Sep 2005
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posted January 07, 2006 01:09 PM
 
I'm asking this since I am with a scorpio (sun, moon, venus, mercury, saturn &pluto).
Well it seems when I do something I think a scorpio would like, he ends up seeming to hate it. Like every now and then I send him a text message saying something like "Hey sexy daddy xoxo" and he never replies. He did say that he got my message, but he couldn't write back at the time, and he still hasn't.
I thought a scorpio dreams of his kind of thing??Also I just talked to him about 20 minutes ago and before we hung up, I told him I had some questions to ask him but he would have to call later to hear them. he said "F*ck that, I wanna hear them now." But I still said "No I'll ask them later. It will give you something to think about." I couldn't tell if he was upset or that sparked his interest. Are those sorts of things stupid for me to do? How would you guys act for a scorpio?
What do they like their women to act like? IP: Logged |
oddball
Knowflake Posts: 205
From: Canada
Registered: Oct 2005
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posted January 07, 2006 01:53 PM
I think a better question wouldn't be something related to him being a scorpio, but him being an individual. Astrology can pull you in a direction, give you a tendency to adopt certain personality traits, but in the end everyone is an individual. Try not to ask yourself "how does he want me to act", but "what kind of person is this, why do I want to be with him, why does he want me to act this way, and is it right". I know two people born on the exact same day (the scorp/aqua guy I mentioned in another post and another scorp/aqua friend of mine) and although they do have similar leanings, there are BIG differences between them due to the way they were brought up, the way they themselves chose to get through life, etc. Just my opinion... IP: Logged |
marsconjunctmercury
Knowflake Posts: 127
From: United Kindom
Registered: Dec 2005
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posted January 07, 2006 02:44 PM
Be yourself. Always be yourself. If he doesn't appreciate it straight away it's because he's testing you. He's looking deep into you. He's appearing angry, when really he's just intense.
He may be snappy because he feels you're trying to please him. Don't 'try'. He'll hate it if he feels you're being contrived.
Scorpios look for real gestures straight away. Light-hearted flirty texts that could be sent to 'just anyone' won't impress them one bit. In time you will know, if you last that long. Remember they're more intense than can always be rationalised in the here and now.
Like him for what he is as he won't change. He's complicated.
A Scorpio's favourite phrase is 'talk is cheap'.------------------
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MoonDuchess88
Knowflake Posts: 583
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Registered: Mar 2005
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posted January 07, 2006 02:50 PM
ummm, like yourself...IP: Logged |
marsconjunctmercury
Knowflake Posts: 127
From: United Kindom
Registered: Dec 2005
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posted January 07, 2006 02:55 PM
Edited: Ha Ha i get it. Sorry if you saw that (!)------------------
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pinkfairy
Knowflake Posts: 287
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Registered: Dec 2005
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posted January 07, 2006 03:12 PM
Ohaving
known
a few
Scorpios
in the past I would have
thought
something like
"get the
handcuffs
ready" might be
a suitable
slogan and of course
never be
too nice
to them !! IP: Logged |
MoonDuchess88
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posted January 07, 2006 03:25 PM
MarsMerc, were you talking to me? If you are I didn't see what you wrote. But if you get what I'm saying now, it pretty much the same as you said. IP: Logged |
Lousianagrl
Knowflake Posts: 279
From: Leesville, Louisiana
Registered: Sep 2005
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posted January 07, 2006 03:39 PM
Hmm..yeah I wouldn't change myself too much because of a man. I'm just figuring out what I should do or shouldn't do.He does have Aquarius rising, though. pinkfairy- haha  IP: Logged |
GemStar
Knowflake Posts: 759
From: USA
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted January 07, 2006 05:13 PM
Most importantly, BE REAL. Scorpio types see through everything very quickly. Transiting Mars is currently opposing Scorpio so it would not take much to irritate someone easily right now who has so many Scorp placements.My Scorp rising is VERY PRIVATE about my sexual life. Someone who behaves overtly sexual is sometimes a BIG turn-off. It can come across as trying too hard. Let the Scorp come to you...their determination is unmatched (even more so than tenacious Cancer). Let things happen naturally...good things take proper time to develop. A Scorpio who is interested will not have a problem letting you know that he wants You...Just give it more time and simply be YOU. He will not want you any other way!!  GemStar IP: Logged |
whiterabbit
Knowflake Posts: 1085
From: The Future
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted January 07, 2006 05:16 PM
I totally agree with everything that has been written so far!
They can smell insincerity from a mile away and even if you do something that astrology teaches a Scorpio would like, but it isn't coming from YOU.. they won't like it.And I agree with pink- they actually don't seem to like being treated too nicely.. maybe they're just suspicious. Be a little fiesty. funny thing- I'm also dating a Scorpio. While he is a VERY sexual being- he does not like or fall for conventional "sexy" stuff.
He has told me stories that really took me into the inner workings of the Scorpio mind:
he's the type of man women are immediately drawn to and they act very sexually around him.
~ all of the following are before we dated There was a woman who used to send him photos of herself in lingerie when he was at work.. and another one who would lay out lingerie on a bed with a note asking him to pick what he wants her to wear.. there was one who tried to wake him up by erm.. pleasuring him.. as he was sleeping He said he felt very uncomfortable and not attracted to all of these people when they acted this way. When I was first getting to know him- he never responded well to very sexualized flirting, the typical wiley woman moves. I remember him telling me to kiss him "honestly".. and I did. And he loved it. He said my kisses are best when they're honest with just a touch of teasing. "sex can be honest too" he said once. I tried it and it's mind-blowing. Scorpios are so interesting.. IP: Logged |
whiterabbit
Knowflake Posts: 1085
From: The Future
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted January 07, 2006 05:19 PM
Lousianagrl- you're an Aquarius, like me, aren't you?Aqua-Scorp is such an interesting match.
I've read so many negative interpretations of these two signs together but I think they're great.. complicated, yes.. but great. IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 3927
From: Generic New England City
Registered: May 2003
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posted January 07, 2006 05:46 PM
Yep Cancer and Scorps don't like a lot of BS on the phone, or to make plans, just get to the point. A real shocker for me but when they want you, they want you, just get yourself over there and sit down by the fire. They must get a lot of BS from others, or they worry about others being emotionally attached and involved, closeness is a necessity.Natasha
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Lousianagrl
Knowflake Posts: 279
From: Leesville, Louisiana
Registered: Sep 2005
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posted January 07, 2006 10:20 PM
whiterabbit~ Yes, I am an aqua  Gemstar~ You are right; If I just say something that might just barely upset him, he goes all off. (like the I'll ask you the questions later comment I made to him. I didn't ask him then because he was at his friend's house) Also thanks, that helped.
And, just to add this, He was born on October 23 so he is right on the cusp of libra. Astro.com says he is, though I don't see much libra in him.
My scorpio friend Charlene was with another scorpio guy, and they would talk sex over the phone a lot. Needless to say, they had a very passionate relationship while it lasted. Until she couldn't decide who she liked more between him and another man, so he broke up with her. ------------------
aquarius sun, pisces rising & venus, scorpio moon, pluto & eros An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind.
-Buddha IP: Logged |
Lousianagrl
Knowflake Posts: 279
From: Leesville, Louisiana
Registered: Sep 2005
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posted January 08, 2006 10:53 AM
Also here's another question--What is pluto's power in synastry? My pluto is also in scorpio. Both of our moons are in scorpio as well. Does this mean anything..? IP: Logged |
oddball
Knowflake Posts: 205
From: Canada
Registered: Oct 2005
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posted January 08, 2006 11:36 AM
I'm sure you prolly know this, but just to re-iterate, one of the best indicators of a successful relationship between two people is when one person has the same sun as the other person's moon. In a man-woman relationship, its very good if the man has the same sun as the woman's moon. Also, in Aqua Scorpio relationships (which seem to be pretty common between parent/child and man/woman relationships from what I've read here in LL and what I've seen), the scorpio will tend to be more dominant because of the square...IP: Logged |
POeticHappiness
Knowflake Posts: 21
From: pueblo,colorado,usa
Registered: Jan 2006
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posted January 08, 2006 02:10 PM
I dated a scorpio once and it completly transformed me .it was a very challenging relationship but the lessons I learned will last eternity ;DIP: Logged |
Touchstone
Knowflake Posts: 142
From: York, UK
Registered: Apr 2005
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posted January 08, 2006 06:44 PM
My Scorpio husband of eleven years (as of yesterday) likes me to be honest, upfront and 'just me'. He is extremely sensitive which I recognise and am very in tune with. Only I get to see his vulnerable side. Trust and respect are paramount.
No mind games. Honesty wins every time. Touch IP: Logged |
taurean_scorpion
Knowflake Posts: 595
From: santa monica, california
Registered: May 2005
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posted January 08, 2006 11:03 PM
Touchstone is right...oops...edit i hope i get to date a scorpio...my opposite...i love all scorpios. IP: Logged |
nannyfish
Knowflake Posts: 241
From: England
Registered: Aug 2005
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posted January 09, 2006 07:24 AM
Please do not try to figure a Scorpio out. For your own good! The minute you try to play an angle you think the Scorp will like, we will throw it in your face and leave you feeling slightly embarrassed for even trying. OR, we will require you to keep up with your game while we (hehehe secretly) get a kick out of watching you squirm your way through acting like someone else.!!!Always best to be yourself and to be brutally honest with us. As for sex talk...we love it!!! I can't lie But it should be real and raw and NOT sound like a script... (e.g. My guy once sent me a list of everything he was going to do to me up to but not including you know what *wink, wink*. Well, I'll tell you--it got me thinking about him in a BIG way for the next couple days...still think about it from time to time ) IP: Logged |
ariestiger
Knowflake Posts: 955
From: UK
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted January 09, 2006 08:49 AM
I agree with most of what has been said...Scorpios are totally unpredictable, if I try to do s/th they'd like, they don't respond; whereas if I do s/th as a result of which I feel they'd hate me forever, they actually respond very well indeed. They like gifts, messages etc. with a personal touch that recognizes their individuality and that has demanded some effort to make/procure. Also, they need time and space (lots of it) and secrecy, they get off on suggestion, so the key is nothing too obvious - eroticism rather than free-for-all. AT IP: Logged |
maroon_flower
Knowflake Posts: 166
From: S.E.A.
Registered: Dec 2004
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posted January 12, 2006 01:38 AM
I reckon everyone's given u pretty good info.. Yup, whatever u do or say - just be your self. Your own true unique self. Dont act..at all. Your scorpio already sees/senses the real true you.. so.. why waste anyones time with pretenses etc. It can be downright insulting if u expect him to actually fall for an act. Just be your wonderful self.. and if He IS the one for you..then he'd love you like no other man can. And, if by chance he is not THE ONE for you.. then, well.. atleast u can walk away with your dignity intact, coz u never pretended to be what u were not. Love yourself.. and he'd respect u a lot more for that ! Good luck and Have fun ! Alexandra
Scorpio sun. Live life to tha max !! IP: Logged |
Lousianagrl
Knowflake Posts: 279
From: Leesville, Louisiana
Registered: Sep 2005
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posted January 12, 2006 02:56 PM
Moonflower- Thanks girl! I like the way you think IP: Logged |
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