posted January 11, 2006 06:24 PM         

Here's my chart

Here's his

Here's our comparison chart. It really seems to reflect the intensity of our connection.

In our composite, everything really seems to hang on Chiron, and certainly I've noticed a trend for Chiron transits with us to be incredibly intense. We're just coming out of one, in fact.

He's been trying to deal with some difficult issues in his life and we got into a kind of ugly pattern where it was all him take and me give for a time. I did protect myself so I wouldn't be completely drained, and I do understand how hard a time he is having, but it got to the point that last night I cut him loose for a while.

But that leaves me wondering if I shouldn't let it come to an end. I also wonder if it even will end, because it seems no matter what either of us do, all roads lead us back to each other. This has been going on for two years now, with no signs of resolution one way or another. We are neither together nor apart.

How does one handle this kind of dynamic between two people? Obviously, I can't speak to what he does, only to my own actions, but no matter how many times I've tried to break free of him, I just can't. It's like we're connected on a cellular level or something.

There's some pretty heavy transits going on for both of us right now--do you think I should just give it some time, let the transits pass and see how it shakes out?

The thing is, unlike him, I'm not scared of the changes that the transits are bringing. I've had plenty of time to get used to that big old T-square in my chart, and while of course transiting Saturn can drag up a lot of issues, I'm real comfortable with looking at them and doing what I need to do. And for the first time, I'm experiencing the satisfaction of being rewarded for what I did work hard on in addition to being tested.

The transiting Pluto-Moon conjunction holds no terrors for me either--it hit my Sun, Neptune, and Venus first, and while it does shine a million-watt bulb on every little thing, I know now that when the dust settles, I'll be free of an awful lot of baggage. So I don't like the discomfort of it, but I also know it's incredibly worth it.

posted January 11, 2006 08:18 PM         

If you have the means to cast the charts for yourself, the birth data is

Me: 11/1/62 4:01pm 71 W 0, 42 N 05
Him: 8/15/72 12:40pm 83 W 37, 42 N 48

Hopefully the problem will sort itself out... I could list the chart positions, I suppose, but the visual really says it all.