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CancerianMoon
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From: Sydney, Australia. Cancer Sun.....Gemini Moon.....Aqua Rising
Registered: Aug 2003

posted January 31, 2006 04:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for CancerianMoon     Edit/Delete Message
Ok...i have been thinking about posting this for days...but feel a little embarassed about the situation i find myself in..so here it is..

I met a guy online and he is in Eygpt at the moment..working there..we got along famously and then got to the point of us talking everyday and even exchanging phone numbers.. he became serious and said he would love to meet me..(honestly i felt that maybe he could be interested for ulterior motives or just saying some things to be nice...he was after all a world away...habit i have of being skeptical)...anyways we talked about things we wanted from life and got to subject of children..i have 6 already...he is 36 and has had none and never been married..i dont wish for more..nor can i have more..i told him so..and our conversation changed a little..he was very honest and told me he needed time to think..in the mean time..i had been exchanging emails with a guy nothing major but he did say he would like to meet..so when things died with the first guy i agreed to meet the second one...and wow...instant mutual like..this was 3 almost 4 weeks ago now..and a week ago..the first guy rang me and told me...he really wants to meet..and he has booked his ticket to come to australia and he thinks he is in love...well the second guy i have fallen for..i told the second guy about the first...he took it well...and said he was interested in me no matter what..and it was my decision with what i do..and just be careful..i really am not sure what to do now...the first guy and i have a connection too...but i find it difficult to truely feel it because of distance and i told him so..and he responded by saying thats why he wants to meet me..
So please be frank i know ive put myself and these guys in a bad situation here and i dont want to hurt anyone either...so..what advise??
ohhh and guy 1 is a gemini/scorp/aqua and guy 2 is a taurus/cancer/cappy..
thanks

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Isolaede
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posted January 31, 2006 12:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Isolaede     Edit/Delete Message
Hey girl:

My best advice to you is be absolutely honest and don't open a can of worms. You've found an ideal man. There are few combinations better for a Cancer than a Taurus with a Cancer moon. You are crazy about your guy and he sounds like he's crazy about you. Why mess with a good thing? Explain the situation to this Gemini chap and tell him that you are no longer in the market - then leave it up to him if he wants to come. If he does come you should be sure to include your Taurus in anything you do with this other guy. That way he'll have no chance to worry or doubt your loyalty. Trust is such a fragil thing this early in a relationship - you'll need to be very careful. My guess is that this Gemini guy may decide not to come when he relaizes you are no longer in the market. Which is ideal in my humble oppinion.

Best of luck to you!

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AcousticGod
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posted January 31, 2006 12:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
I agree. Tell the Gem that it wouldn't be good for him to come now.

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cancerrg
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posted February 02, 2006 11:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for cancerrg     Edit/Delete Message
i too !

but at the same time , i am sceptiacl of the taurus taking every word of yours at the face value .

but then again , its better to go with iso's advice.

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hippichick
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posted February 02, 2006 12:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message
CM, just follow your heart as your cancer sun has blessed you with (intuition.) The feel I get from the first guy is not exactly good.

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Happy Dragon
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posted February 02, 2006 01:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Happy Dragon     Edit/Delete Message
.. just to say i fully agree with*Isolaede* ..

( are those ... Sun / Moon / Asc .. in that order ??? )

and i got the same gut feeling as *hippichick* ... though it might be last nights excess ..

. .. best thing is to post b.data

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CancerianMoon
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From: Sydney, Australia. Cancer Sun.....Gemini Moon.....Aqua Rising
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posted February 03, 2006 05:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for CancerianMoon     Edit/Delete Message
Yes...i agree..i will speak to Mr Gemini Tomorrow..i guess i feel a little guilty coz i met him first..

Isolaede...you always have the best advice..huggs!

Thank you AG..

cancerrg...sorta agree with ya bout the taurus..though i do believe he was glad i told him though..


hippichick...Thank You..

Happy Dragon...yes in that order..
Their birth data..ok

Sun Gemini 25°16'41 05 direct
Moon Scorpio 20°25'05 10 direct
Mercury Gemini 04°57'25 04 direct
Venus Leo 00°09'12 06 direct
Mars Cancer 09°36'24 06 direct
Jupiter Libra 26°08'04 09 retrograde
Saturn Taurus 17°37'48 04 direct
Uranus Libra 04°39'52 08 stationary (D)
Neptune Scorpio 28°49'42 10 retrograde
Pluto Virgo 24°42'53 08 direct
True Node Pisces 05°35'31 01/2 retrograde
Ascendant Aquarius


Sun Taurus 20°50'21 05 direct
Moon Cancer 13°33'14 07 direct
Mercury Aries 24°45'34 04 direct
Venus Gemini 17°43'48 06 direct
Mars Leo 12°57'46 08 direct
Jupiter Cancer 05°03'37 07 direct
Saturn Leo 23°53'24 08 direct
Uranus Scorpio 14°06'29 11 retrograde
Neptune Sagittarius 17°38'50 12 retrograde
Pluto Libra 14°23'13 10 retrograde
True Node Libra 04°46'33 09/10 retrograde
Ascendant Capricorn 02°10'19

Mine..

Sun Cancer 09°08'41 05 direct
Moon Gemini 13°32'20 05 direct
Mercury Cancer 02°26'14 05 direct
Venus Leo 17°11'16 07 direct
Mars Cancer 19°05'20 06 direct
Jupiter Libra 26°09'59 09 direct
Saturn Taurus 19°09'02 04 direct
Uranus Libra 04°48'55 09 direct
Neptune Scorpio 28°31'05 10 retrograde
Pluto Virgo 24°51'42 08 direct
True Node Pisces 04°21'01 02 retrograde
Ascendant Aquarius 12°22'57


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Aphrodite
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posted February 03, 2006 02:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aphrodite     Edit/Delete Message
My advice is to trust your gut feeling. It is almost always right.

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CancerianMoon
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posted February 05, 2006 01:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for CancerianMoon     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks Aphrodite..sometimes i just worry my imagination is running away with me..

Well..i have spoken to Mr Gemini and told him about everything and then this morning i get an email..this is all it says..

Thats ok..if you love something set it free, if it returns its yours..

An hour later i get another email with the lyrics to a Michael Bolton song...
ALL THAT YOU DESERVE [M. BOLTON]

There's something different about you
And as I look in your eyes
It says true love has finally found you
And given you back your smile
I'm sorry I couldn't love you
The way I always meant to
Now there's someone else to play that part

I hope he comforts the child in your heart
I hope he understands the woman you are
And may he never take for granted
The little things that make love work
And most of all
I hope he's all that you deserve

I hear the way you talk about him
And suddenly it's all so clear
It's time for me to learn to move on
How deep in my heart you're still there
But I wanna see you happy
Even if it means that I'll make
Room for someone else to play that part

I hope he comforts the child in your heart
I hope he understands the woman you are
And may he never take for granted
The little things that make love work
And most of all
I hope he's all that you deserve

Now and forever you will always be
Someone who owns a place inside of me
The only way I can let you know
Is by letting go
Now as I let you go

I hope he comforts the child in your heart
I hope he understands the woman you are
May he never take for granted
The little things that make love work
But most of all
I hope he's all that you deserve
Ooh yeah
Most of all
I wish you all that you deserve
All that you deserve

I just cried..

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Swerve
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posted February 05, 2006 09:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Swerve     Edit/Delete Message
Hey CM.

Gotta be good to have the choice though right?

The Gemini sounds like a gent anyway, knowing how to lose gracefully is a very good sign in a bolke. Keep him on file.

Swerve

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Aphrodite
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posted February 05, 2006 03:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aphrodite     Edit/Delete Message
It sounds like you handled the situation very well. You should be proud of yourself.

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CancerianMoon
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posted February 05, 2006 04:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CancerianMoon     Edit/Delete Message
Swerve..good to have the choice?? not so sure, and i agree he handled it well but my over active mind says maybe that means he wasnt as interested as i thought..

Aphrodite...Thank you

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Swerve
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posted February 05, 2006 06:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Swerve     Edit/Delete Message
I agree that you handled the situation well.

If it is the case that he didn't care that much, you really did handle this situation well!

Time will tell, but I wish you all the luck in the world you are a lovely woman.

Swerve

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CancerianMoon
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posted February 06, 2006 05:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CancerianMoon     Edit/Delete Message
Thank you Swerve

Got another 1 line email followed by another song

"honestly this is against all my wishes"

Phil Collins.. "Can't stop loving you"

I felt a little relieved when i told him and of course sad..now i feel like crap

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silvermoon
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posted February 06, 2006 09:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for silvermoon     Edit/Delete Message
What a dilemma, Cancerian Moon ! I think it depends on what you want most in your life- the first combo may be more expansive and fun right now, while the second might be a bit more practical & steady in the long run... The question is -are you in it for the long haul or just up for a bit of adventure ? I think most Cancer gals (even ones with Aqua Asc. as you & I are) are looking for true devotion,long term love and domestic bliss as well(that's all) That does not in any way cancel out fun, we just like to keep it "on the home front" agree? In any case, best of luck whatever you decide...
Hugs,
silvermoon
PS I love that song by Phil Collins... sigh..

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CancerianMoon
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From: Sydney, Australia. Cancer Sun.....Gemini Moon.....Aqua Rising
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posted February 07, 2006 06:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CancerianMoon     Edit/Delete Message
LOL..i want steady,secure,freedom and lots of fun!!
Thats how i am..and thats also what i want..
As for keeping fun "on the home front" thats a DEFINITE!
Thanks for the hugs..i can do with them

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SweetCappie
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posted February 08, 2006 11:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SweetCappie     Edit/Delete Message
The Taurus guy sounds great! He has the same sign placements (except the moon, but Cancer moon and Taurus moon both crave security and aspects well with a Taurus sun) identical to my best friend/soul mate. My friend is the greatest man I've ever known and I hope your guy is great too! Good luck! I think you made a good decision.

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CancerianMoon
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posted February 09, 2006 10:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CancerianMoon     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks sweetcappie,
So far so good..and he is a great guy...funny,thoughtful,caring,affectionate and stubborn(a traite im secretly drawn to)..he is also good with my kids(Bonus points for sure) he even says he loves the noise from kids...and misses it when he aint here..huh??LOL..he must be crazy!!
He is 27 and im 35, intially he asked me was this a problem..i said not at all as he seemed quite mature..He has a daughter..she is back in Sierra Leone..the way he speaks about her made my heart melt..i recently thought again about the age difference..but it really is of no consequence to who we both are...and what we are both looking for

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