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Topic: Advise Please!
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CancerianMoon Knowflake Posts: 763 From: Sydney, Australia. Cancer Sun.....Gemini Moon.....Aqua Rising Registered: Aug 2003
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posted January 31, 2006 04:13 AM
Ok...i have been thinking about posting this for days...but feel a little embarassed about the situation i find myself in..so here it is..I met a guy online and he is in Eygpt at the moment..working there..we got along famously and then got to the point of us talking everyday and even exchanging phone numbers.. he became serious and said he would love to meet me..(honestly i felt that maybe he could be interested for ulterior motives or just saying some things to be nice...he was after all a world away...habit i have of being skeptical)...anyways we talked about things we wanted from life and got to subject of children..i have 6 already...he is 36 and has had none and never been married..i dont wish for more..nor can i have more..i told him so..and our conversation changed a little..he was very honest and told me he needed time to think..in the mean time..i had been exchanging emails with a guy nothing major but he did say he would like to meet..so when things died with the first guy i agreed to meet the second one...and wow...instant mutual like..this was 3 almost 4 weeks ago now..and a week ago..the first guy rang me and told me...he really wants to meet..and he has booked his ticket to come to australia and he thinks he is in love...well the second guy i have fallen for..i told the second guy about the first...he took it well...and said he was interested in me no matter what..and it was my decision with what i do..and just be careful..i really am not sure what to do now...the first guy and i have a connection too...but i find it difficult to truely feel it because of distance and i told him so..and he responded by saying thats why he wants to meet me.. So please be frank i know ive put myself and these guys in a bad situation here and i dont want to hurt anyone either...so..what advise?? ohhh and guy 1 is a gemini/scorp/aqua and guy 2 is a taurus/cancer/cappy.. thanks IP: Logged |
Isolaede Knowflake Posts: 230 From: Studio City, CA Registered: Aug 2005
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posted January 31, 2006 12:07 PM
Hey girl:My best advice to you is be absolutely honest and don't open a can of worms. You've found an ideal man. There are few combinations better for a Cancer than a Taurus with a Cancer moon. You are crazy about your guy and he sounds like he's crazy about you. Why mess with a good thing? Explain the situation to this Gemini chap and tell him that you are no longer in the market - then leave it up to him if he wants to come. If he does come you should be sure to include your Taurus in anything you do with this other guy. That way he'll have no chance to worry or doubt your loyalty. Trust is such a fragil thing this early in a relationship - you'll need to be very careful. My guess is that this Gemini guy may decide not to come when he relaizes you are no longer in the market. Which is ideal in my humble oppinion. Best of luck to you! IP: Logged |
AcousticGod Knowflake Posts: 4448 From: Pleasanton, CA, USA Registered: May 2005
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posted January 31, 2006 12:23 PM
I agree. Tell the Gem that it wouldn't be good for him to come now.IP: Logged |
cancerrg Knowflake Posts: 1630 From: Registered: Dec 2004
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posted February 02, 2006 11:53 AM
i too ! but at the same time , i am sceptiacl of the taurus taking every word of yours at the face value . but then again , its better to go with iso's advice. IP: Logged |
hippichick Knowflake Posts: 148 From: san antonio, texas Registered: Jan 2006
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posted February 02, 2006 12:00 PM
CM, just follow your heart as your cancer sun has blessed you with (intuition.) The feel I get from the first guy is not exactly good.IP: Logged |
Happy Dragon Knowflake Posts: 998 From: .. land of apprentice articians .. Registered: Apr 2005
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posted February 02, 2006 01:47 PM
.. just to say i fully agree with*Isolaede* .. ( are those ... Sun / Moon / Asc .. in that order ??? ) and i got the same gut feeling as *hippichick* ... though it might be last nights excess .. . .. best thing is to post b.data IP: Logged |
CancerianMoon Knowflake Posts: 763 From: Sydney, Australia. Cancer Sun.....Gemini Moon.....Aqua Rising Registered: Aug 2003
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posted February 03, 2006 05:30 AM
Yes...i agree..i will speak to Mr Gemini Tomorrow..i guess i feel a little guilty coz i met him first..Isolaede...you always have the best advice..huggs! Thank you AG.. cancerrg...sorta agree with ya bout the taurus..though i do believe he was glad i told him though.. hippichick...Thank You..
Happy Dragon...yes in that order.. Their birth data..ok Sun Gemini 25°16'41 05 direct Moon Scorpio 20°25'05 10 direct Mercury Gemini 04°57'25 04 direct Venus Leo 00°09'12 06 direct Mars Cancer 09°36'24 06 direct Jupiter Libra 26°08'04 09 retrograde Saturn Taurus 17°37'48 04 direct Uranus Libra 04°39'52 08 stationary (D) Neptune Scorpio 28°49'42 10 retrograde Pluto Virgo 24°42'53 08 direct True Node Pisces 05°35'31 01/2 retrograde Ascendant Aquarius Sun Taurus 20°50'21 05 direct Moon Cancer 13°33'14 07 direct Mercury Aries 24°45'34 04 direct Venus Gemini 17°43'48 06 direct Mars Leo 12°57'46 08 direct Jupiter Cancer 05°03'37 07 direct Saturn Leo 23°53'24 08 direct Uranus Scorpio 14°06'29 11 retrograde Neptune Sagittarius 17°38'50 12 retrograde Pluto Libra 14°23'13 10 retrograde True Node Libra 04°46'33 09/10 retrograde Ascendant Capricorn 02°10'19
Mine.. Sun Cancer 09°08'41 05 direct Moon Gemini 13°32'20 05 direct Mercury Cancer 02°26'14 05 direct Venus Leo 17°11'16 07 direct Mars Cancer 19°05'20 06 direct Jupiter Libra 26°09'59 09 direct Saturn Taurus 19°09'02 04 direct Uranus Libra 04°48'55 09 direct Neptune Scorpio 28°31'05 10 retrograde Pluto Virgo 24°51'42 08 direct True Node Pisces 04°21'01 02 retrograde Ascendant Aquarius 12°22'57
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Aphrodite Knowflake Posts: 4536 From: Registered: Feb 2002
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posted February 03, 2006 02:14 PM
My advice is to trust your gut feeling. It is almost always right.IP: Logged |
CancerianMoon Knowflake Posts: 763 From: Sydney, Australia. Cancer Sun.....Gemini Moon.....Aqua Rising Registered: Aug 2003
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posted February 05, 2006 01:12 AM
Thanks Aphrodite..sometimes i just worry my imagination is running away with me..Well..i have spoken to Mr Gemini and told him about everything and then this morning i get an email..this is all it says.. Thats ok..if you love something set it free, if it returns its yours.. An hour later i get another email with the lyrics to a Michael Bolton song... ALL THAT YOU DESERVE [M. BOLTON] There's something different about you And as I look in your eyes It says true love has finally found you And given you back your smile I'm sorry I couldn't love you The way I always meant to Now there's someone else to play that part I hope he comforts the child in your heart I hope he understands the woman you are And may he never take for granted The little things that make love work And most of all I hope he's all that you deserve I hear the way you talk about him And suddenly it's all so clear It's time for me to learn to move on How deep in my heart you're still there But I wanna see you happy Even if it means that I'll make Room for someone else to play that part I hope he comforts the child in your heart I hope he understands the woman you are And may he never take for granted The little things that make love work And most of all I hope he's all that you deserve Now and forever you will always be Someone who owns a place inside of me The only way I can let you know Is by letting go Now as I let you go I hope he comforts the child in your heart I hope he understands the woman you are May he never take for granted The little things that make love work But most of all I hope he's all that you deserve Ooh yeah Most of all I wish you all that you deserve All that you deserve I just cried.. IP: Logged |
Swerve Knowflake Posts: 528 From: London Registered: Nov 2002
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posted February 05, 2006 09:07 AM
Hey CM.Gotta be good to have the choice though right? The Gemini sounds like a gent anyway, knowing how to lose gracefully is a very good sign in a bolke. Keep him on file. Swerve IP: Logged |
Aphrodite Knowflake Posts: 4536 From: Registered: Feb 2002
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posted February 05, 2006 03:53 PM
It sounds like you handled the situation very well. You should be proud of yourself.
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CancerianMoon Knowflake Posts: 763 From: Sydney, Australia. Cancer Sun.....Gemini Moon.....Aqua Rising Registered: Aug 2003
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posted February 05, 2006 04:55 PM
Swerve..good to have the choice?? not so sure, and i agree he handled it well but my over active mind says maybe that means he wasnt as interested as i thought..Aphrodite...Thank you IP: Logged |
Swerve Knowflake Posts: 528 From: London Registered: Nov 2002
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posted February 05, 2006 06:16 PM
I agree that you handled the situation well.If it is the case that he didn't care that much, you really did handle this situation well! Time will tell, but I wish you all the luck in the world you are a lovely woman. Swerve IP: Logged |
CancerianMoon Knowflake Posts: 763 From: Sydney, Australia. Cancer Sun.....Gemini Moon.....Aqua Rising Registered: Aug 2003
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posted February 06, 2006 05:12 PM
Thank you Swerve Got another 1 line email followed by another song "honestly this is against all my wishes" Phil Collins.. "Can't stop loving you" I felt a little relieved when i told him and of course sad..now i feel like crap IP: Logged |
silvermoon Knowflake Posts: 163 From: Monterey Bay, Calif. USA Registered: Nov 2005
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posted February 06, 2006 09:59 PM
What a dilemma, Cancerian Moon ! I think it depends on what you want most in your life- the first combo may be more expansive and fun right now, while the second might be a bit more practical & steady in the long run... The question is -are you in it for the long haul or just up for a bit of adventure ? I think most Cancer gals (even ones with Aqua Asc. as you & I are) are looking for true devotion,long term love and domestic bliss as well(that's all) That does not in any way cancel out fun, we just like to keep it "on the home front" agree? In any case, best of luck whatever you decide... Hugs, silvermoon PS I love that song by Phil Collins... sigh..IP: Logged |
CancerianMoon Knowflake Posts: 763 From: Sydney, Australia. Cancer Sun.....Gemini Moon.....Aqua Rising Registered: Aug 2003
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posted February 07, 2006 06:18 PM
LOL..i want steady,secure,freedom and lots of fun!! Thats how i am..and thats also what i want.. As for keeping fun "on the home front" thats a DEFINITE! Thanks for the hugs..i can do with them IP: Logged |
SweetCappie Knowflake Posts: 134 From: Registered: Oct 2005
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posted February 08, 2006 11:39 AM
The Taurus guy sounds great! He has the same sign placements (except the moon, but Cancer moon and Taurus moon both crave security and aspects well with a Taurus sun) identical to my best friend/soul mate. My friend is the greatest man I've ever known and I hope your guy is great too! Good luck! I think you made a good decision.IP: Logged |
CancerianMoon Knowflake Posts: 763 From: Sydney, Australia. Cancer Sun.....Gemini Moon.....Aqua Rising Registered: Aug 2003
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posted February 09, 2006 10:15 PM
Thanks sweetcappie, So far so good..and he is a great guy...funny,thoughtful,caring,affectionate and stubborn(a traite im secretly drawn to)..he is also good with my kids(Bonus points for sure) he even says he loves the noise from kids...and misses it when he aint here..huh??LOL..he must be crazy!! He is 27 and im 35, intially he asked me was this a problem..i said not at all as he seemed quite mature..He has a daughter..she is back in Sierra Leone..the way he speaks about her made my heart melt..i recently thought again about the age difference..but it really is of no consequence to who we both are...and what we are both looking for IP: Logged |