posted March 10, 2006 01:35 AM         

Recently, the same "friend" was messing around, strongarming me to keep me from playing some of his music in front of a girl he liked in fear he'd be embarassed. As persistant as I am, I kept doing it in hopes he'd give up, but he didn't. He inadvertantly got my girlfriend riled up which I did not like, and myself as well. I was extremely close to just popping him a good one while he sat in the back seat, throwing him out of the car, and leaving him in downtown Detroit at 4AM without a care in my mind. Now, I weighed the options in my head and decided to just sternly tell him that I did not approve of his actions, and refrained from beating the pulp out of him.

I do not think it is healthy, but sometimes I feel as if I am just going to snap at these people and cause far greater damage than I ever have as an adolescent. I am just afraid that I could end up killing someone out of rage, but I'd like to think I had a hold of it. It is just that so many people anger me greatly, and I never know when I'm just going to explode.

posted March 10, 2006 09:28 AM         

In a way though I must say that I kinda admire you.I have my asc in Taurus and Mars in Libra so for me blowing my top off doesn't happen every so often.In a sense I wish it did because most people take advantage and assume I wont retaliate since I am such a nice guy.

Once during a family reunion I snapped and I must say that it wasn't pretty.My cousin was relentlessly making fun of me and at first I brushed it off but he kept on tugging at me and then I snapped.

Well he is in hospital now and I was thrown in a cell to "cool off".Suppressing anger is never a good thing because it mutates to something else ie depression,diseases,low self esteem or sexual problems.It is good to let off some steam now and again,its only human.I wish I could get angry more often because despite what had happened to me after the outburst,letting all that aggression out was therapeutic.

posted March 10, 2006 02:04 PM         

I was with a Bull that used every ounce of self-control to supress his violent rage. Should he reach a specific point, as he had in the past, he would see "red" and then nothing at all.. only the result of the damage he inflicted.

He also came from a violent upbringing where is was normal for he and his 3 brothers to beat each other to a pulp while expecting mom and dad to come home and do the same to them for fighting. It didn't matter who started the fight - ALL the boys would get a butt-whooping for it.

Discussing anything with him would usually involve him walking away because he would go from peeved to red rage within minutes. He would need to leave because he knew he could / would cause major damage to ME. There were a few times when he could not control his anger and luckily stopped before I ended up dead or anyone else around to attempted to intervene when he "went off" on me. No wonder we aren't together LOL... but he also is a narcissist, so that plays into the whole situation.

We would talk about tempers - his "irritation" was my "anger". Meaning, to me being irritated is nothing more than an annoyance. I seldom get angry (even for a Sag.. but I do have a smart mouth and a temper when provoked). If he said that he was irritated with me, that would mean that if I talked to him for even a few more minutes the result would be something being thrown against a wall.. be it a shoe, phone or me.

posted March 10, 2006 06:26 PM         

Usually it is something more... he had Mars square Neptune (Sagittarius) and opposing his Moon (Virgo) while it also squared his Mercury in Gemini.

His Sun was in his first house (Taurus Sun / Taurus rising) - which created a very dynamic and in your fast person. His Sun also shared that first house with his Merc in Gemini (Gemini was a major part of that first house).

He was also apt to carry a grudge and wanted to take revenge out on others through subversive tactics (like dropping seeds of doubt about his boss in order to try to get him discredited).

posted March 10, 2006 06:36 PM         

Yeah its important to have an outlet....for me sex, dancing, singing, laughing and crying really help, especially the sex !!!

posted March 10, 2006 06:56 PM         

If I am in a relationship and the sex drops off, then I get pretty p1ssy and irritable. I am an active person as it is, so I normally wear myself out physically (and mentally with my work) but I also need that sexual outlet - but not in a way to release any tension - mostly because it is how I show affection within a relationship - especially since I am not prone to being a mushy kind of person.

As far as Temper? It is rare for me to explode- I will be a bit testy and say a few things to the person (mostly sarcastic - but I hate nagging as well). I am not a yeller but I will take off if I am extremely upset. In fact, the angrier I get, the more calm I tend to become. Basically, I end up clenching my jaw and laying into the person verbally - then it's over.

I can be upset for a bit -but again, it doesn't last long. My new guy- Mr. Leo kind of laughs at me. He saw me at my p1ssiest the other day and said "that's it.. that is your temper?" I said "Yep, but keep in mind, if I try to talk about something a few times and nothing changes, I don't blow up - I just leave and never come back LOL"

THAT may be a combination of Mars in Pisces along with the Sag tendancy to jump ship after things don't work out.

posted March 10, 2006 09:14 PM         

Funny about the Taurus & violence. The 3 times in my life that I have become violent, were all due to a Taurus, who learned better that day. I swear, this sign can drive me to violence. I dunno what it is. My sister, 2 years older, tormented me and controlled me for years, till I was 13, and I started fighting back. One day, while she was belittling me in front of her friends, I just decided to punch her in the face, and I damn near broke her nose. She was bleeding and crying for almost and hour. I ran away and hid in the park for 2 hours because I knew I was in trouble. But, we became the best of freinds after that. (a couple of years after)

My ex boyfreind, a Taurus - caught his buddy petting my leg at a party one time. We were both sitting on the couch and talking about, guess what? Astrology, and he was drunk and decided to start groping my leg. Which I wasn't sure how to cope with...anyway, my Taurus boyfried spotted this instantly, and flew into a rage. He wouldn't listen to a word I said in my defence. He had my car keys and was going to take my car and leave me there. I stopped him at the bottom of the walkway stairs and begged him to reconsider, to no avail...so, I clobbered him over the bridge of the nose with a full bottle of beer. It worked. He didn't take my car. He had to go back into the house & get his profusely bleeding nose tended to.

My ex-roomate for 5 years....- she ended up with a dark purple eye & cheek...too long of a story, but ya get the idea. I honestly have no other violent incidents in my history, other than these ones. Only with the bulls.

My teenage Taurus daughter - she's living with her dad right now. We were never violent, my daughter & I, but it could happen if we weren't carefull.

Weird. Maybe it's the combination of fixed earth. Super dooper stubborn and uncompromising. They don't hear a word you say. You have to get their attention somehow.

posted March 10, 2006 10:28 PM         

Try adjusting your smile, I find when I smile naturally, my tension drops off, it's funny but it works.

posted March 12, 2006 10:06 AM         

For me normally, I bottle up my anger, I hold up peace till it blows. But when I get angry, it gets really bad. I don't think rationally, get all barbaric, and I explode on an innocent person for some minor offense, which is totally uncalled for. Also I've this tendency to hold in every small minor 'offense' and then when it gets too much (as they say small problems build into big problems) or when some small offense sparks it, I explode out all my past anger, so the person thinks I'm crazy or have some anger issue. Its bad for me, normally cause when I get angry, there is a loss of control (all the Capricorn), it freaks out my emotions (my sensitive Pisces moon) and so its like whenever I explode, the situation becomes worser, not better, and peace, ha! There's no peace in the end.

For me, the best way to just get over anger or whatever is to be near nature (taurus = earth). Just listen to nature sounds, enjoy the wind etc. or just listen to some really good music. That calms me down and plus I'm starting to excercise the good qualities of Taurus, thats patience. Anyways I find that Mars in Capricorn are very good at tuning out the bad stuff from thier life. So if your friends not good or whatever, use your taurus and capricorn qualities, be simple (taurus), calm (taurus), clear (capricorn) and in control of your anger (capricorn) and tell him to go away and simply tune him out (as don't talk much to him, don't keep in touch with him etc. etc.). You can do it! and anyways Mars is exalted in Cap, so use those qualities to help you. He'll get the message, hopefully!

Hope my advise helps . I'm just a kid lol, so I wouldn't know much

posted March 12, 2006 09:25 PM         

I think the fact that you are aware that it could be an issue speaks volumes. It sounds to me like you know how to manage your anger with self-talk. Having angry thoughts and acting upon them are two very different issues.

It's a good thing to keep in mind that anger is a secondary emotion. Simply being angry is never the end of it. You are angry because _____________ (you're embarrassed, you're frustrated, you feel betrayed, etc.).

You have the ability to stop yourself from acting out of anger. Keep using it! Figure out exactly why you are angry using self talk. Sometimes it may not seem so obvious, and it is a distraction from the *feeling* side that is feeling anger. The *thinking* side will take over, and it knows how wrong it is to react to anger.

posted March 13, 2006 12:59 PM         

I don't know that there is a sign that really pushes me to anger- Cancer completes my T-square and greats a Grand Cross in my chart.

I DO find that people with dominant Cancer (or Gemini) in their charts can push me to anger. There have only been a few people I have really exploded on had significant Cancer (my mother- who has actually pushed me to the point where I have slammed on the breaks of my car and thrown her out) and the Ex Taurus (But that took until almost the end of the relationship when I finally told him to shut the "blank" and stop thinking about himself for ONE freaking minute...etc... (He has Venus in Cancer conjuncting his Saturn in Cancer).

Then there was the Cancer Sun / Cancer rising / Mars in Cancer guy that last about 2 dates. He made me so angry with his constant nagging and pity-parties that I called him by my ex's name to which he said " I can believe you called me X when I know how much you hate him" I said "Then quite acting like him you idiot".

The only person I can't really get away from is my mother. We're friends, but she does have the ability to push ALL of my buttons at the same time and cause me to just pop off

I am not one to "hit" though. It's been rare that I do that - and I am not sure why. My problem is my tongue (and maybe that is a Pluto conjunct ascendant thing) but when I get super-angry I will lash into a person until I make them crumble. It's like all this information just comes to me and I use it against them.

posted March 17, 2006 08:32 PM         

Nihilive, I think that your rage is coming from maybe a mars square pluto in your natal chart, possibly? Mars in the 1st, opposing moon, maybe? Or, some aspect like that... Unless it tends to be the same sign that sets you off. Then, you have to look at what role that sign plays in your chart.

posted March 19, 2006 09:39 PM         

My cousin is on the aries/taurus cusp. April 20th, like Hitler.

You should see her hold grudges.

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Gemini sun, Cancer rising, mercury in Gemini, moon in Taurus *29, venus in Taurus, mars in Libra

-I took a walk around the world to ease my troubled mind. I left my body lying somewhere in the sands of time. But I watched the world float to the dark side of the moon. I feel there's nothing I can do.

posted March 20, 2006 11:55 AM         

I once found a hotel receipt from a day that he told me he had to drive up to Tucson to visit a friend in the hospital. It was also my first day on my bioterrorism job- which was very important to me. My success always caused him to get a bit goofy. Anyway, he came home that night and told me his big whopper of a story - yet he smelled like hotel soap. I asked him about it and he said "What, do you actually think I went up to Tucson to met with a lover and spend the day in a hotel?"