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Topic: Heart broken by virgo man...
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maroon_flower
Knowflake Posts: 186
From: S.E.A.
Registered: Dec 2004
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posted May 01, 2006 10:57 AM
 
Just hoping to help ease a bit of the sadness I feel by sending this out...Have been slowly falling madly inlove with a lovely witty virgo man(scorpio moon)... only to hear him tell me today that he cannot commit to a relationship as he is so busy with his work... and so,he " doesnt want to waste my time anymore".. How can someone be so unfeeling... Why cant love be incorporated into a busy work life.. why must it be either..or?  Just feel so empty now... infact, cant feel at all.. Any advise ? Any words to help me feel again? Am floating aimlessly... Alexandra
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Dulce Luna
Knowflake Posts: 79
From: The Asylum
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted May 01, 2006 11:41 AM
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Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 927
From:
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted May 01, 2006 11:50 AM
This too shall pass. Let it go as best you can. He may not be the one for you right now. Just take comfort in knowing that if he is not he has just been moved out the way for that special man to move in at some point. They always need time to see things MEN they can be slow sometimes,if that is the case he will get it one day and if it is meant to be you will still want him when he does. If not to bad for him.. IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 5070
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 01, 2006 02:28 PM
Sorry to hear your story.I have been with a Virgo man (Aqua moon) for 17 years... And have always felt his work comes first...sometimes this makes me very sad, but I have learned to live with it.... He admits he never switches off from it...its always been this way for him... Scorpio Sun/Moon in Taurus/Asc in Aries IP: Logged |
taurean_scorpion
Knowflake Posts: 828
From: santa monica, california
Registered: May 2005
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posted May 01, 2006 11:01 PM
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maroon_flower
Knowflake Posts: 186
From: S.E.A.
Registered: Dec 2004
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posted May 02, 2006 08:34 AM
Thank you.... lovely people.. for reaching out. Am feeling less raw emotions today... trying to focus on being practicle/realistic... still.. i guess time is my friend. IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Moderator Posts: 3569
From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted May 02, 2006 08:52 AM
 to you.
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Isis
Knowflake Posts: 1202
From: CA
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted May 02, 2006 06:53 PM
The exact same thing happened to me hon...I'm still reeling from it slightly and it was over a year ago... he's Virgo Sun, Scorp Moon, and though the break up wasn't for the same reasons as your situation, he was first and foremost dedicated to his work. Though I found it very difficult to relate to, his work truly made him happy and it had to come first for him. Like I said, our breakup was for entirely different reasons, but I can relate to your perception of him appearing to be cold and unfeeling about it. I would have to say though he appears as if he is, he's not really. Virgo can seem cold when they're on fire. Even w/ a Scorp Moon. IP: Logged |
sdg1844
Knowflake Posts: 177
From: New York, NY, USA
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted May 03, 2006 09:01 AM
I'm really sorry to hear your news. Virgos are about "service" and so work will always be very imporant to them. In some cases, it helps define them and give them a sense of who they are. It can be hard. There was a Virgo guy that I was very much attracted to, but I realized that I would always take a back seat to his hard work and dedication. It's one of the things I admired about him and ironically, the thing that kept us apart. I wish you all the best and once again, I'm sorry for your heartbreak. ------------------
Before you speak, ask yourself, is it kind, is it necessary, is it true, does it improve on the silence?
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The Mutable Night Force
Knowflake Posts: 1198
From: England
Registered: Dec 2004
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posted May 03, 2006 03:18 PM
Awww, maroon_flower, I know how you feel! Oh, I'd give you a hug. Sometimes it's hard to know what people really think or their real motives for things. That is pretty cold of him. It depends how much he liked you. If he really liked you, who knows... he may realise it's better to complicate his life for the better than make it simpler to ease his stress.
And you... I guess I gotta give you the same advice I've given someone else before, and advice I should really listen to myself!
When people are being like that, there's nothing you can do sometimes to change the situation, you have to be really strong, you just have to get through each day and look forward to the simple things in life to make you feel better. I'm not gonna say 'someone new will come along' or 'look for someone better' cos sometimes you don't want to. Sometimes you need to wallow in your own misery for a bit before you realise there's no misery left to wallow in and eventually, (and you have to believe this) that day will come where you just think "I can't believe I was upset over them!".
Hard to believe it now. You never will until it happens. Of course, you might always carry a torch for some people but the pain eases, or so I'm told. IP: Logged |
GeminiLover75
Knowflake Posts: 23
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Registered: Apr 2006
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posted May 03, 2006 04:03 PM
My last boyfriend was a Virgo and he too spent a lot of time on his work... when we first started seeing each other, well, we didn't see each other at all for a whole week because he was working; then when we moved in together I actually felt lonely because he ignored me most of the first week, again because he was working! He also can't focus on more than one thing at a time. It sounds to me like your Virgo is the same... can't deal with any distraction. So sorry you're heartbroken by this man... all I can say is that time heals... and, it's his loss. *hugs* IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 5070
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted May 04, 2006 11:42 AM
I dont think you would ever know how a Virgo male really and truly feels about you.....My husband is amazed at times that I doubt his love....but he hides his feelings well and that is where the pain comes in.....its the not hearing and at times the not knowing...... And if I was to withdraw my love for him, I can feel him shrinking away from me.... So I just pray that love will always find a way, whoever or whatever it comes from.....  IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 927
From:
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted May 04, 2006 11:56 AM
I have a 7 year old with a Virgo man. We were together 5 years and I have been knowing him 10. All while we were involved I was never really sure about how he felt about me. I knew he cared but not the extent. Well I left him alone it has been two years now and he continues to tell me that he loves me and he knows that I have moved on. At some point you will know how they feel even if its aafter the relationshop is over.. Also with me being Pisces I have attracted more Virgo man that I can even say. I have never had a problem with knowing how they felt. My lil one's dad is the one that gave me problems on that. There is a Virgo guy that I have been knowing since highschool and he liked me then and he has been coming back and forth in my life (non-romantic) since then. I know how he feels baout me too. IP: Logged |
GeminiLover75
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Registered: Apr 2006
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posted May 04, 2006 04:22 PM
Oh gosh... this is so familiar. After five years I felt unsexy and taken for granted by my Virgo who never really showed affection or paid much attention... this was one of the reasons we broke up (also my current boyfriend says I was probably in my Saturn Return); and it was only when it was all falling apart and coming to an end that I really knew how he felt but by then it was too late because I'd already slipped too far away. I always used to tell him I believed we were Twin Souls but he always poo-poo'ed the idea... and only when we were breaking up he brought that up, "I thought you said we were soul mates"... the whole thing was devastating to both of us but it really was too late. We're friends now and I would never go back to a relationship with him, but he remains a loyal friend.IP: Logged |
maroon_flower
Knowflake Posts: 186
From: S.E.A.
Registered: Dec 2004
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posted May 05, 2006 10:20 AM
Wow.. I am pleasantly surprised and so humbled by all your replies... thank you so much for caring to write and share. It really has helped me .. Atleast, I can now better understand the Virgo man.. and realise that he is just built that way - work is almost everything. ( A big contrast to me, where LOVE is all encompassing..and bottomless) Yes, now that I'm able to see things a bit more clearly, I realise that He(my virgo guy) obviously does care deeply for me, and perhaps fears that he'd fail me and hurt me in the long run. Cant blame him for just being practical and overly cautious. I suppose, time will tell. As for me, once I really love, I love completely and unconditionally. I'll respect his wishes, and give him the space he needs to devote to his work, but I know I'd never stop loving him.
I'd remain loyal.. but, maybe the time apart may do me and him some good... after all, all said and done, it really does take two to tango. So, until he is ready to take a chance on loving me, I must go on living out my life. Once again.. thanx.. all you cosmic sisters.. for responding to the plea of a breaking heart. Each and every one of you has truly helped !!! I'm a lot chirpier now..  Can feel the sun shining thru... the dark clouds are slowly drifting away. Peace & Love,
Alexandra
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