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GeminiLover75
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posted May 03, 2006 02:50 AM
 
Hello... I'm new, just discovered this place! I've got a question about my Gemini-Aries-Aries boyfriend. I'm Taurus-Sag-Scorp... both of us with Venus in Gemini, his Mercury=Gemini, mine=Taurus. So we are both pretty different! haha!We've been together almost a year and I'm having a problem with his INABILITY STOP TALKING... it's getting in the way of sex! We might plan to have sex but then he'll be so interested in his intellectual work he won't stop talking about it and I get too tired while I wait for sex... and he can't be interrupted from his monologues! What do I do? How do I interest him enough to tear him away from his work more than once a week?! It's like it's impossible!
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GeminiLover75
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posted May 03, 2006 03:00 AM
Just wanted to add one more thing... his impatience! This is why I can't interrupt him from his intellectual work... when I do interrupt he gets irritable and then that puts me off having sex! He's been so involved in his work lately it's not much fun. :-/ I must... have... sex! lol!IP: Logged |
Gooberzlostlovefound
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From: and the embers never fade in your city by the lake
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posted May 03, 2006 03:51 AM
Ohhhh wow...I got a good laugh from that.I don't know what advice to give you, considering that I find Gemini males wonderful as friends but nightmares for anything more than that.  I had a Gemini boyfriend who had the shortest attention span known to mankind. He was so 'ADD' it was practically painful to witness. Constantly tapping his fingers, toes, etc. And he couldn't stand the fact that I wasn't always engaging in conversation with him...If I was silent for two minutes, he considered it "awkward." He was always doing eight million things at once...on his cell phone, on the computer, watching tv, and holding my hand at the same time. Was utterly ridiculous! Can't believe I was actually interested in this dude. Anyhow, guess I'm not the best person to ask on the matter  But I'm sure someone else will be able to help you out. Welcome to LL, btw!  IP: Logged |
GeminiLover75
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posted May 03, 2006 06:13 AM
Ohhhh, all of that sounds so familiar!  He is wonderful in so many ways but this TALKING/THINKING all the time is getting a bit frustrating lately if you know what I mean!Thanks for the welcome!  IP: Logged |
sdg1844
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Registered: Jun 2005
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posted May 03, 2006 08:52 AM
LOL! Welcome. That talking is killer isn't it? When he yaps too much, just kiss him and tell him to be quiet. Make it fun and a teaching session combined. LOL!After all we Gems are "oral" aren't we? This is coming from a Gem Sun, Merc, Mars and Venus who doesn't really talk that much. Odd eh? Have fun! ------------------
Before you speak, ask yourself, is it kind, is it necessary, is it true, does it improve on the silence?
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The Mutable Night Force
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Registered: Dec 2004
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posted May 03, 2006 03:08 PM
Hmmm... well, I'm no sex guru (yet, anyway haha) but I sure have known a heck of a lot of Gems, so.... at a guess, I'd say.......Strike up a conversation and steer the content to towards sex, in a clever and flirty way, which he'll appreciate (the principal anyway). You gotta be perseverant (but you Taureans are good at that yeah?)cos at first he may not get it lol. Just asked a Virgo who's pretty smart at these kinda things. She reckons his intellectual discussions are his form of foreplay! haha so might be a good idea to indulge his thirst for conversation, don't act so bored get into a really good, passionate debate about something and it might get him going! lol, well I'm no expert but I hope that helps. IP: Logged |
GeminiLover75
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posted May 03, 2006 03:50 PM
Your Virgo friend is right, Mutable... conversation is what always used to 'get him going', and although I do like the intellectualism it's getting more and more difficult to steer the conversation towards sex because he's so interested in his work lately he's just "mm. yeah yeah." and then starts talking about his work again (or worse, keeps frenetically typing). It's driving me insane! lol. And flirting... like the sex conversations, it's hard to get him to respond when I can't get his attention in the first place cos he's so engrossed. But you're right, Taurean perseverance is how I've been with him for nearly a year when others have dumped him after a very SHORT time... (one of the complaints I heard from someone was 'lack of sex'... go figure)... hahaha. Oh well, we did have some 'romance' last night because earlier he got the message I was starting to sulk... not my ideal way of getting sex but at least it got him away from the computer and into bed... and then he started talking about his work, so I indulged him for a while until I had to say, "stop!" - btw there's no way I can stop him with a kiss! I've tried that before, and he hates to be distracted because when he's talking he has to "Get it out"! argh!! Oh well he appreciated me last night once he got started. (too much info? lol!) Now, with both of us Venus in Gemini, it was easy for us to fall in love with each other via flirting... but he's less flirty now. And he'd rather not talk about sex... and while he's into his intellectual work it also stresses him out! I've tried to give him some tips on being more patient, to relax more, calm down don't panic, etc (ie tried to give him some valuable Taurean lessons!) but it only works momentarily... so I guess I'm wondering how I can get him to be a bit less *obsessed* with his work... cos there is no way I can talk, get a word in, I even take my clothes off in front of him and he barely looks away from the computer! What's worse is when he *does* flirt with me all day and it gets me horny and then by night-time he's back on the computer and not interested anymore! :0 Argh!!! So, it's obvious my Taurean charms don't necessarily always work on this man... sulking and pestering is not something I want to do... I know that he loves me and thinks I'm sexy, but I need a new approach altogether or sex will be only once every one to two weeks! He's a tough cookie, so any more tips or suggestions would be SO APPRECIATED! btw, sdg - that is very odd! What else is going on in your chart?! IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
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posted May 03, 2006 05:59 PM
I think Geminis are so cute.  Here's my two cents:You: "Oh! Guess what?"
Him: "What?"
You: "I've discovered something new."
Him: "Tell me, tell me, tell me!"
You: (Now he is distracted in anticipation of something. Show him a bag of erm, novelty goodies  . If he asks questions out of bewilderment, say "How about we try it out?" That should quiet him up . . . ) IP: Logged |
GeminiLover75
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posted May 03, 2006 06:11 PM
hahahahaha! That's a good one. (I looove Gemini's but they're frustrating at the same time! lol) IP: Logged |
GeminiLover75
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posted May 04, 2006 12:08 AM
Speaking of frustrations... anyone got advice about this...His moods can be so changeable... because I'm pretty adaptable (must be the Sag ascendant) I can usually just roll with it, but sometimes I find myself a bit upset because I don't know where I am with him! If he's getting irritable or is trying to get a reaction out of me I can brush it off and know that he'll be different again in 2 minutes. But like today, I'm finding it hard to handle. He'll be all wonderful for quite a stretch of time, but today I'm even wondering if he wants to be in a relationship at all! It's one of those days I just don't understand him... he keeps asking 'how was sex last night?' ... by the way that was a good opportunity to suggest some 'new things' for us to try (and he seems very interested... yay!)... But then later he wouldn't look up from the newspaper and seemed disinterested in me and then he left early to go to his appointment... and of course because he left so early I got suspicious (yes, I have a Scorpio moon)... and all afternoon I've been thinking "why did he leave so early? What is he up to?" ....... and I feel like when he gets home I have to ask him what he did between 1.30 and 2, but I know that's the WRONG thing to hit him with! For all our plans of having children and so on, I often feel like it could all fall apart any second!Linda did say that Taurus doesn't quite trust the Gemini!!! What do I do?
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silverstone
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posted May 14, 2006 01:19 AM
Geminis do good with Air signs...Aquarius and Libras are their good match... Geminis also blend good with Sagitarius...Cheers,
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~*Silverstone~*
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Gooberzlostlovefound
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From: and the embers never fade in your city by the lake
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posted May 14, 2006 05:23 AM
Hey GemLover...how bout an update -- how are things going for you?  IP: Logged |
GeminiLover75
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posted May 14, 2006 05:33 AM
Oh, thanks for asking! Things are going really goooood!!! Whereas other couples are fighting and falling apart this full moon, it's been lovely for us! His Jupiter is in Scorpio and my Taurus/Scorpio are being affected just wonderfully, and we're appreciating each other to the full! We go through a weird/grumpy/sexless patch every now and then, like the one we just passed... the good thing is that it doesn't last long and... it passes. I should have learned to expect it by now instead of letting it be the end of the world (something in me can't help it though)... the up's and down's of my year with a Gemini (lol!), I did warn him (and myself) that it wouldn't be the smoothest of experiences, haha! But overall we do ok... I hope there's another year and more yet to come. Thanks for asking me for an update, I appreciate everyone's advice and have loved all of your input! (No doubt I'll need advice again at some future time, it's all part of my learning curve...)IP: Logged |
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