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GeminiLover75
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posted May 04, 2006 10:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GeminiLover75     Edit/Delete Message
Sigh. How do I keep my look interesting and varied for my Gemini boyfriend when I don't have the money to constantly buy new clothes and get new haircuts/colours all the time? :-/

I feel SO DRAB lately...

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Scorpionic Web
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posted May 04, 2006 11:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Scorpionic Web     Edit/Delete Message
(No wonder that scorpios and geminis are horrible for each other.)

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geminstone
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posted May 04, 2006 11:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for geminstone     Edit/Delete Message
... ~ it's all about the content, GemiLove,... it's the content. It is YOU he likes, right? Besides, clothes and, such.... ehh... do you think maybe, saayyyyy,... goin' buff would peak his interest? Did'nt I see a Scorpio Asc or, something, in your big 3? I have Scorpio rising and a Gemi Sun.... and, of course, this post was all in fun! ..... all except that part about the content.

~ geminstone

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GeminiLover75
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posted May 04, 2006 11:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GeminiLover75     Edit/Delete Message
Hmmm yes... I *think* it's me that he likes, lol! (btw going buff doesn't work on him... he just keeps right on talking... haha). I'm Taurus/Sag/Scorp. I just feel a bit drab after I got my hair done the last time and it's still blonde (as it has been for a while) and he said it was boring! Very good point about the content though... I know this is what he usually goes for in women rather than their looks, so... actually your post made me feel a bit better.

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taurean_scorpion
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posted May 05, 2006 12:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for taurean_scorpion     Edit/Delete Message
Well, with that Sag moon, you're likely to keep him interested and entertained...
i love sag moons. lol

Taurus, Scorpio Moon, Cancer Rising.

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GeminiLover75
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posted May 05, 2006 12:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for GeminiLover75     Edit/Delete Message
Sag ascendent, sorry must've written it the wrong way around! Still learning about my Sag ascendent actually! (Nice to meet a fellow Taurean with Scorp moon... do you think this is what's making me paranoid and insecure about this man at the moment???)

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spellbound
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posted May 05, 2006 01:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for spellbound     Edit/Delete Message
Be yourself. Obviously, there is something in you that he likes. And while I understand that a Gemini man probably needs much interaction to remain stimulated, as his mind is constantly going, I am sure that enjoys his fair share of down time, as well.

Ride bikes, find activities that you both enjoy that engage both physical activity as well as mental. That will definately be a way to keep him engaged. Be coy..Give him a puzzle or a riddle to figure out. But the best advice I think I can give where your Gemini man is concerned is don't lay all of your cards on the table at once. Be spontaneous and unpredictable. Be a riddle yourself. Give him things that keep him guessing. Less is always more.

Good luck.

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pixelpixie
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posted May 05, 2006 01:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message
I know absolutely, one should be loved for the content of their character.. but that is a given....

Play with your make up.
Be smokey sultry eyes and a playful attitude one day, natural and carefree the next.. curl your hair, straighten it, change it up.... wrap ribbons in it, channel your inner goddess/child.
There are so many great looks, with minimal cost...
a heavy handed eyeliner application, a fun shadow.... glossy lips, red lipstick and minimal other makeup... put a flower in your hair.
The choices are endless.. you need not gp tp a salon and cut it off, just have fun with your appearance!!!! That's what makeup is for!!!
Creativity, baby!!!!

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GeminiLover75
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posted May 05, 2006 01:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for GeminiLover75     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks! That was one reason I started seeing him, cos I thought he would be someone I could do a lot of interesting things with! But he's so engrossed in his work right now it's hard to tear him away from it. We've been together almost a year and I think I'm starting to worry that the novelty of me must be wearing off by now... !

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GeminiLover75
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posted May 05, 2006 01:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for GeminiLover75     Edit/Delete Message
Ah and thanks, pixelpixie - good suggestions! I'll definitely do some of that stuff... I wear makeup most days and make myself sexy, but he likes me without makeup too so maybe I'll play around with that... oh he even noticed when I used a different colour eyeshadow one day! That impressed me!

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sue g
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posted May 05, 2006 11:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
Hey I get a lot of my clothes from charity shops and have picked up some wicked stuff....beautiful shawls, sexy black lace gypsy tops, flowing skirts and they cost next to nothing.

Mr friend coloured my hair last week with red henna powder and it cost me E1.85....

Like Pix says experiment with makeup....i got a lovely dark blue kohl pencil and smudge it around my eyes to give that smokey effect she talks of.......

And of course nice underwear is a gas and can drive our man crazy.....I have black lacey knickers, bras and suspender belts which cost little.....

Sexy dancing.....sexy talk......heavy breathing when you are talking to him....intense eye contact...reading sexy books to each other, drinking wine out of the same goblet...etc etc etc

And HUMOUR.....laughter, make him laugh...guys normally love a funny woman, it can be a real turn on and uplifter!!!

The possibilities are endless.....

Good luck and ENJOY !!!

Sue xxxx

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pixelpixie
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posted May 05, 2006 12:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message
Be fun!!!

I had a hilarious conversation in bed the other day with the pretext of 'penthouse letter' names for body parts...
The more ludicrous the better.. omigosh, it was ridiculous, the combinations you can come up with when creative....
my 'love-bucket' was overflowing with 'meat-juice'... the possibilities are endless.. the more gross the better...

I know it has nothing to do with anything, just saying, is all....

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sue g
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posted May 05, 2006 01:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
Ooooooooooohhhhh.....yeah yeah yeah Pixie........

YOU are a woman after me own Scorpio heart.....

Mmmm..... ish for sure.....

L O L !!!

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sue g
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posted May 05, 2006 01:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
When I have men say to me "you seem to be a very interesting woman" I cant help but take that as meaning "you are a bit of a crazeeee one arent ya".....

Still, aint complaining guys....better than being called a boring old fart I suppose....

LOL.....

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ariestiger
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posted May 05, 2006 04:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ariestiger     Edit/Delete Message
Be happy to be yourself, do lots of hobbies, get so busy you don't have time to think. Do lots of overtime at work so you will have money to be able to buy all those great clothes!!

Get clothes you can mix and match easily. Versatility is key so team a cheaper pair of trousers with a nice top, for example, use different coloured scarves and jewellery. If you're in the UK, buy magazines like "Happy", or something like UK Elle is quite good for ideas. There are tons of magazine features around showing you how to get more for less - use them!!

Have a few makeup looks. Nothing that doesn't suit you, but just vary the lipstick or eyeshadow once in a while. If you are the same size as your mother (and are sympathetic with her dress style) borrow clothes off her. My Saggie mother buys loads of clothes all the time, really useful stuff and mostly in the sales, that she doesn't always end up wearing and that fit tremendously well (she is a very young 65).

So, fret not! Be happy and then others will love you!! And don't take any notice of what your boyfriend says if it is negative. My hair has been the same (long, straight, blonde) for ever and a day and I wouldn't dream of changing it because I like it just the way it is!

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The Mutable Night Force
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posted May 07, 2006 12:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for The Mutable Night Force     Edit/Delete Message
GeminiLover, short answer:
Your boyfriend is weird.
You so shouldn't NEED to have to change to keep him interested. The fact that he is more interested in work than sex seems very confusing and a bit disturbing to me. Then again, more people are like that than you'd expect. I don't think you need to change, if you are his type and he fancies you. He's the one who needs to change as you say he keeps flirting with you then not actually having sex? Then constantly asking you if it was alright once you do? My guess is he's insecure about his sexual abilities. I mean, you show him and most importantly, tell him you find him attractive and are turned on by him, so he's probably just feeling worried and pressurised that he's not going to be good enough for you in bed. Just a guess. But it sure would explain his sex-evading tactics.

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MysticMelody
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posted May 07, 2006 03:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MysticMelody     Edit/Delete Message
Pixie and Sueg, I just LOVE you Scorpios heheheh You make any topic more interesting.

My comment for the loyal and stable Taurus woman (with the deep-emotional connection needing Scorpio moon)... This Gemini love will be hard on you... and I hope you don't take his comments to heart so deeply. He just makes them casually and forgets them. There is no deep meaning to them. He probably noticed all of the changes you made for him and said your new look was "boring" to tease you because he thought the irony of it was funny. If he really IS bored with you and says so, that might be an indication to find a deep, loyal someone, who will appreciate you?

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GeminiLover75
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posted May 08, 2006 12:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for GeminiLover75     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks for all the advice! And yeah he can be a weird one sometimes... and def. very single-minded about his work (always has been)! I think the sex issue is what's making me insecure about the whole 'looks' thing, actually... he's just not so much of a 'sex person', I think (previous girlfriends complained about the same thing!); and yeah that's true about this maybe being hard on the poor old Taurus/Scorp - it's been a bit strange for me at times and a bit of an 'adjustment' to say the least! He does tease with "ironic" jokes, which I've gotten used to. *eyeroll* (as one of his ex's told me, those are his terms of endearment). I know he appreciates me but shows it in ways that aren't always obvious to me! And sometimes I have to charge at his spritely lil Gemini ass with my Taurean horns to make a point! The point usually gets through, too ... lol One good thing about the past year though is that I've learned to be a lot more flexible and more forgiving in my dealings with a significant other (in the past I've been ridiculously stubborn, held grudges, and been jealous and possessive like you wouldn't believe!)... Time will tell how this all works out in the end, and if it all goes wrong then I'll be looking at it as a crash course in self-development... lessons learned about myself... or something like that.

btw, just as a point of interest - I have a Capricorn friend who has all the same issues with her own Gemini boyfriend!!! :0

Oh! And yes, maybe insecurity feeds into some of the sex problem - I've noticed insecurities in other areas but he doesn't think I've figured it out... I think he overcompensates by appearing to be on an ego-trip sometimes too. Also I know he's familiar with Love Signs so maybe Linda disturbed him a bit with what she said about the Taurean woman being left cold by a Gemini man's 'performance'! (he does take astrology very much to heart sometimes, well don't we all I guess! But we differ in that I believe we don't have to be 'trapped' by what the stars say, it's all about how we deal with what's handed to us)... !

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posted May 09, 2006 06:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Scorpionic Web     Edit/Delete Message
The Taurus/Scorpio axis is so messed up.

I mean, downright dangerous.

I'm in a conflict right now with a Taurus Sun, Scorpio Moon girl. She's possibly the most psychologically twisted person I have ever met. Seriously, I take pity on her. She's destructive of herself and everyone around her, and seems to have almost no value for life.

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GeminiLover75
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posted May 09, 2006 07:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GeminiLover75     Edit/Delete Message
Oh dear... that sounds VERY bad... I hope I'm not that bad! :0

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sthenri
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posted May 14, 2006 06:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
Geminilover, you hardly sound like the type to be destructive, sounds like YOU are the one who is bored, with fascinating your boyfriend.

Do things on your own for a few moments and in that time, he'll be interested again, as long as you relax when you are on your own, geminis like to think, puzzles, games, newspapers, documentaries, plays...

As for the sex thing, in a new relationship it is nice to keep a man interested. Stay away from the TV , and take him shopping, let him do his hair and clothes over, that should be fun.

Don't do your hair over, be your stable secure self.

As for that Taurus/Scorpio axis, I have to agree on those I have known! It's powerful, but I have Taurus Sun, opposite Scorpio Neptune, and I enjoy being twisted in a Adams family sort of way.

Nat

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Kamilla
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posted May 14, 2006 08:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kamilla     Edit/Delete Message
I have one word of advice for you - EBAY !
I know, I know....it's not all about clothes but for us, girls, wearing something new can really lift your spirits. And I am not just talking about buying. I am sure if you go through your closets, book shelves, etc you'll find many things in decent shape and you might be surprised how fast the stuff you think no one would ever want sells. THEN with this "guilt free $$$" you can find something to spice up your wardrobe at the reasonable price. But don't do it for your boyfriend - do it for you

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GeminiLover75
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posted May 14, 2006 10:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GeminiLover75     Edit/Delete Message
Yes, good advice! By coincidence, I have been taking more time for myself (and yes! bought some new clothes pretty cheaply! And played with my makeup!) and I do feel better. Sometimes I think I get bored with myself and need a boost! And things are very very positive with us as a couple right now!

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posted May 15, 2006 01:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Heart--Shaped Cross     Edit/Delete Message
So many great suggestions.
I'm with Pixie,
especially on the eyeliner and bows and stuff.
Girly and coy one day (one one minute?),
Womanly and knowing the next;
that's always a winning combination.

hsc

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