posted May 23, 2006 01:19 PM         

My old friend, a friend of 13 years, recently got together with an ex of mine with the intent to get dirt on me. Now, I've NEVER lied about anything so I don't have to worry about that. This ex-friend used a lot of this information he found out as ammunition against my Piscean love. He even stooped as low as poking fun of her (our) miscarriage. Now, that is the thing that hurt me the most and I now regard him as dirt for those comments. I realized their was cruelty in this world, but why so steep?

Now, my dilemma is... My piscean is afraid that my love to her, and all my expressions of it, will turn out to be a farce and she'll end up hurt just like she did in the past. I have only the intention of giving her everything and anything she wants and I will do nothing of the sort to harm her like she has been in the past.

I guess the jealousy of both our past relationships have just taken a toll. She told me it's not that she's angry at me, she's angry at my past, and she knows she shouldn't be, but she is just so jealous.

I can't blame her for her jealousy, for as being a Taurus, I know it all too well.

It's just now I am having a hard time. She doesn't want to shut me out, but I know that Pisceans do better when they sort out their own minds. She is just retreating a little bit to herself, and I don't want to worry for her, but I don't want to agitate her and strangle her with my undying devotion to her.

I really don't know what to do. Aside from that, are there any spooky elements in the sky for this time?

Charts as follows:

MY CHART:

HER CHART:

posted May 23, 2006 02:11 PM         

I know you are going through a hard time right now. I think as far as relationships, crisis is always going to real it's ugly head. Saturn in the 7th makes every relationship a learning lesson for you. Combine the t-Pluto on Sagittarius conjuncing Uranus, in your 8th house is going to lend a LOT of added crisis. Comings and goings, lessons learned - Pluto changes, throws out structures that a planet like Uranus may insist on keeping (that structure may be the complete and open honesty about ones past exploits) but Pluto may be telling you - Hey buddy this aint working anymore.. time to change the routine an institute another one.

That may sound odd, but look at it like this. Some people believe that it is right and just to detail every single past sexual exploit to their lover. While being honest is absolutely important, one does not need to bring up the past completely. Dr. Phil and a few pyschologists on his show addressed this point basically saying that all the person is doing is putting into the other persons mind visuals of the past. You leave the person thinking "OMG, was he this way with her? Did he tell so and so the same thing? Did he moan that way with her?"

Get it?

I know that Taurus peeps feel differently about sex- even though it is important and vital, a sexual experience can be reduced to just a physical action. Not so to other signs and it brings up a well of insecurity and fear. The person wonders if they are being judged, critiqued and compared to other people. Telling them "Hey, it was only sex, that was the past" doesn't do much for some people with strong water.

I have Mars in Pisces and the visuals I can get are amazing. I was engaged to a Taurus that insisted on telling me almost ALL the gruesome details of just about every women he had sex with, some who he dated, some were just stories about picking up women in techno bars in Germany etc... Even though he insisted that it was his past, it was still brought up by him from time to time. It almost seemed to please him.

I am with a Leo now that I will be marrying next month. I know he has a past, but we don't talk about specifics - not mine nor his. We both have been there done that with other people and it's not important to dredge it up. Then again we're fire signs and although our jealousy is a bit different, it is there- more so in a competitive manner LOL...

You and your Pisces seem to have a beautiful relationship not shared by too many people. After a few days of giving her space maybe the two of you can sit down again and discuss it. She needs to know that you won't hurt her - she vulnerable right now and having a miscarriage doesn't help matters, no matter how long ago it was. I know you are deeply in love with her -have you thought about writing your feelings down in a letter to her?

I wish you well and I hope things work out (I think they will). Please keep us posted.