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From: Australia
Registered: May 2005

posted May 30, 2006 11:54 PM         

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One of my good friends has recently met this great new guy at uni. She has only known him for 2 weeks but says they got along almost instantly and often feels attracted to him and she sometimes catches him looking at her so she thinks it could be mutual.

Only thing is, neither one has made a move on the other and the relationship is heading towards a friendship rather than anything else. She thinks they've headed down that road too far now for it to be anything else, but I think I'm not so sure.

So knowflakes......do you believe that if you meet someone you instantly connect with there is a time frame as to whether the relationship is destined to either be friendship or love relationship and the implications of choosing that road will forever determine the ultimate future of the relationship?

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From: and the embers never fade in your city by the lake
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posted May 31, 2006 03:14 AM         

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Yes and no. In a lot of ways -- Yes!! I totally understand what you mean. Once the friendship gets established, it makes it hard for either party to get up the nerve to do anything further.

Although, if it's really "meant to be," I suppose a good friendship can turn into love over time, anyhow.

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From: former land of the leprechaun
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posted May 31, 2006 03:20 AM         

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I believe that some friendships between men and women (or men and men and women and women) can be ruined by sex.

Ive know of people who have been friends for a long time and then theyve had sex....friends with benefits type of vibe....and then theyve ended up not even being friends....

A tricky one isnt it?

Good luck to yer friend.

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posted May 31, 2006 04:11 AM         

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I don't know if I believe there's a specific time frame, I think every situation is different. Sometimes a long time crush that seems to go no where will develop into something out of the blue. Sometimes, if neither makes a move, one person can lose interest and move on to someone else.

I think if she likes this person, she should simply go up to him sometime after she suspects he's been looking at her, smile, and say "hi". Hopefully conversation will develop, and they can see what is there...

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