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Topic: Taurus ex and trying to figure out what he wants
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leo_on_fire
Knowflake Posts: 320
From: Heiskell, TN 37754
Registered: Dec 2004
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posted June 04, 2006 03:32 AM
 
OOH this is odd.
He's going to very not-him extremes to tell me just how proud of me he is and how happy he is for me about this new job.
Keep in mind this is my ex whom I have emotional trickiness with anywho.
We barely talk anymore due to my spending time with the new boyfriend and all that but the taurus ex emails, calls, emails some more, and then calls a couple more times for good measure.
Then when I call back, naturally worrying cos he's really not the type to do that, all he says is "hey what are you doing?"
He has no idea about the new boyfriend as far as I can tell. Felt no need to tell him, was scared to tell him to be honest.
He is genuinely happy for me about my job, and really happy to know I'm doing so well.
What is tripping me up is how...persistant?...he seems to be lately.
We are as good friends as is possible considering we both remember very well how our "couple-dom" ended up.
I still love him.
I know better than to make the same mistake twice though.
And I'm not sure what to make of his...attitude lol.
We made the mistake of "hooking up" a couple of months ago before the new boyfriend and I worry that maybe the bull wants that and nothing else.
Tonight he referred to me as his special friend. Wasn't sure what to make of that.
And all the time that the bull has been trying to talk to me and so on, the sag has been hiding in his cave. *shrugs*
I'm so confused...
I don't want to get thrown off again by him as he seems to do it so well and not even realize it. And it's my fault for not taking his actions at face value.
But I've never really been able to figure him out....in the 10 forevers that I've known him I can certainly give you a million for sures to his character but I couldn't tell you a thing about how he feels.
Except when it comes to his daughter, then he's as transparent as air.
yup..I'm a mess------------------
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Selena
Knowflake Posts: 210
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Registered: Mar 2006
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posted June 04, 2006 04:49 AM
Hello, I know the large number of Leo-Taurus couples. And often it works really well. They do seem to attract each other a lot... IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 4120
From: Generic New England City
Registered: May 2003
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posted June 04, 2006 04:35 PM
Why not ask him what he wants? Honesty is the best policy and I am not sure what you were so scared of if you already hooked up with him? Was he as scary guy before? Maybe you should ask yourself what do you want from him, to go away, stay, whatever...your signals are mixed. A couple of months really isn't that long ago!I have to disagree about Taurus and Leo, Leos never seem to understand the Taurus way of communicating, and Leos/Taurus are passive, expecting others to pursue them and explain their motivations. Natasha
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pidaua
Knowflake Posts: 4638
From: Bisbee, Arizona
Registered: May 2002
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posted June 05, 2006 06:44 PM
I have to agree with Natasha (not like that is hard because we seem to think alike) LOL..Ask him what he wants or what he is after. He may also be reaching out to the one person he feels knows him better than anyone else. Maybe he has realized his love for you and wants you back. You have to think about why you broke up and if you want that kind of reltationship again. It's okay to still have love for our past or past relationships, but sometimes it's not at all healthy to go back. Most of the Leo / Taurus relationships I have seen are dysfunctional. They seem to either really work (and usually when one person is making most of the sacrifices) or they quickly deteriorate. By that I mean, the Taurus woman waits patiently for the Leo man to stop needing so much attention, the Taurus man waits for the Leo woman to stop being such a drama queen. The Leo woman wishes the Taurus man would stop being such a LUMP and get out and do things while Leo men think Taurus women don't praise them enough. LMAO... it is too funny to see this square (Because it reminds me of the Square I share with Virgo men). That doesn't mean that Leo's are at fault or that the Bulls are responsible for the problems. It's like this - last night I watched a My Fair Brady - (with Chris Knight AKA Peter Brady, and Adrianne (America's top model). He said to her (and she is a Leo and he is a Scorpio) "Sometimes two people are just damaged. Maybe me just being me and you just being you, doesn't work because we can't communicate effectively" SHE is a drama queen HE is a control freak. He was even dumb enough to consider using a vasectomy as birth control because he didn't trust her with the pill - YET she is the model that isn't about to throw her career away by up and getting pregnant at this time. Sometimes the squares just have a hard time understanding each other- but sometimes age also works that out.  What's up with the Sag? Has he been incredibly busy? I think this is a hard time for us right now as far as responsibility is concerned. I keep thinking I have my new job down only to find more on my plate. I was just the grants administrator (budgets, admin and writing) then I was also named the director of Ed services, now I found out that I am also the team leader for a professional dev group. I am lucky my Leo is out in Germany or he would feel so neglected right now. Not that his life is any easier - he was recently promoted and is now the acting 1st SGT (basically like jumping two grades in 3 months). Poor honey was out in the field, slept in a vehicle on the flight line for 2 1/2 weeks. Hang in there Leo Lady.... and I am sending lots of good will for you and your Saggie. IP: Logged |
leo_on_fire
Knowflake Posts: 320
From: Heiskell, TN 37754
Registered: Dec 2004
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posted June 06, 2006 09:09 PM
Had an interesting dream about him if you care to read about it, I posted it in A.R....
It's confusing the living daylights out of me considering that he knows me better than anyone else and is well aware of it but for some reason spent 9 months of the past year "thinking" about what he wanted from me. I'm trying to concentrate on the now of our lil situation but it's hard not to remember him ignoring me for 3 months as a way to breakup and then coming back to tell ME that *I* acted like an ass. Even so, you won't find me making excuses but as anyone who knows a Taurus can tell you when their worlds get shaken up they tend to stay within themselves for as long as they need and what did the world shaking for him was his daughter being paralyzed in a car accident. That much I understand.
What I don't understand is how my calling him everyonce in a while (not too much and not too little as he said) to see how they were both doing while she was in rehab was "acting like an ass."
He contradicted himself bigtime on that...said I was wrong to do that..should have just left him to it and then told me thank you for caring...HUH?!?
But it's in the past and we've both acknowledge the fact that the stress of that particular situation put us both in a place that we reacted inappropriately. He's apologized,I've apologized...we've gotten over it...
Accept it's always in the back of my mind.
What if we find that maybe we want to be together again, will he do that again if something bad happens??
Obviously neither of us managed our stress well and considering we were both trying to be "super-human" for the lil one it's understandable how when we were alone we grated on each others nerves..sorta
Ah yea...over thinking it ain't I?------------------
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pidaua
Knowflake Posts: 4638
From: Bisbee, Arizona
Registered: May 2002
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posted June 07, 2006 05:18 PM
Hey Leo, I'll check out the dream. I do know what you mean about the Taurus. My ex-fiance is a Taurus and it was the worst relationship I have ever been in. I agree that situations throw them out of whack. For my ex it was me getting a high powered bioterrorism job that required travel (now I am a similar job with travel, but I am with a Leo that understands). When I got the job the ex started acting out- most of what he did throught the relationship was in response to an action or perceived action and perceived loss of control and of course, the potential loss of a possession - me. The final straw was the death of his grandfather and he spun out of control. So in addition to his cheating, low self-esteem which lead to injecting anabolic steroids, he flew into violent rages and decided to re-enlist in the military. That was probably his best choice because of his other habit - steroids - he's never be able to be a cop. When he wanted me back he started to pursue me again as yours is doing with you. All the sweet whispers, telling me he made a mistake, but then contradicting himself about why he reacted the way he did (and when he was caught in a lie he would always explode - which was how I knew he was lying). I thought about getting back together with him for about 1 second- must have been some kind of brain hiccup - but I would never go through the crap he put me through again nor would I take the chance of every dealing with those issues again. With him it was one crisis after another..... and I didn't want to deal with a lifetime of his problems. I'll check out astral realms. IP: Logged |
sthenri
Moderator Posts: 4120
From: Generic New England City
Registered: May 2003
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posted June 14, 2006 10:05 PM
I've only had two relationships with Leos, so I don't have as much to add, but it could have worked when I was older if I could sacrifice more. It's true Taurus is not good with change and I would have to move to another city where I did know many people. I can see a Taurus with a Leo if the Taurus is willing to make compromises regarding the home, where to live, and on spending. Leos like to spend less than Taurus on lifestyle and entertaining others, and more on the home and hobbies.If I could have sacrificed both it would work as Leos are sweet, sexy, and the ones I knew were both very loyal, one had been married twice as he believed in marriage, very idealistic and hardworking.
A woman has to have zero problems with authority, and be completely focused and stable in life to manage any kind of loyalty anyway. Natasha
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