posted July 03, 2006 04:49 PM         

And now I find myself thinking about him a lot these last couple of days. I'd like to try and talk to him, but the last time we spoke ended with a text message from me telling him not to contact me anymore. I think he was really hurt that I ended everything so abruptly and he was trying to get me to jump through hoops to talk to him or to be around him. When I tried to apologize he just sounded so irritated and protective of his heart. He wasn't mean or cruel, but you could tell by his choice of words that I wasn't his favorite person anymore.

And now I feel horrible. Despite the horrendous relationships I've had in the past and the horrible experiences that I've gone through, it doesn't excuse me pushing him away like that. I'm realizing now that it felt too real for me to handle at that time when i was still hung up on the Scorp. I freaked out and ran. But I feel like I gave up a chance at something that could have been amazing. I ran it into the ground before it even started.

posted July 03, 2006 05:14 PM         

I'd say just call him. He'll be pleasantly surprised. I don't know if I'm typical of a Capricorn, but I'm always for working things out, talking things through. He'll only reject you if there's someone else in his life, and even then he'll be very patient and kind about it.

posted July 03, 2006 07:47 PM         

You are in an incredibly awkward position and I am not sure that you'll be able to win him back or his trust.

The situation you walked into was already primed for hurt as he was getting over an ex that had CHEATED on him. Cheating is not just physical, but also about lying, scheming, withholding information (lies of omission) etc...

As he had just gone through one of the most physically intense trainings in a soldiers life (unless he goes on to SERE / Ranger etc.. school) and he came home to find out he had been cheated on.

In your case, you said it yourself - you shattered his heart. Knowing that he was still reeling about his ex and wanted to have time to get his head on straight, you still got involved with him - yet tried to find anything wrong possible with him. Then you broke it off - but decided to try to get back into his life.

My dad is a Cappy and so are a few of my closest friends. I don't see any of them giving someone a chance that has treated them in such a way. I guess it would be different had you started the "dating" relationship with "I am not looking for anything more than dating because I still have old hurts about the Scorp Ex". Then if he took it too serious you could have graciously backed out.

Give him time, but don't push unless you want to see that Cappy temper and trust me - it's different than a Taurus temper. Cappies know where to get you and with words, especially if he has Mercury in Sagittarius or Capricorn.

This may be one of those harsh learning lessons that we all go through in order to discover ourselves and how to treat people. He gave you the clues but you didn't listen (not that you meant to hurt him at all) and he is now being protective of his heart.

What is it about Taurus people that compels them to push a person away and then decide months later "Oh wait, I really do want to be with you forever". Then they can't understand that the damage is done and it's too late.

posted July 05, 2006 06:36 PM         

"And sadly enough, he didn't let me know about his ex-girlfriend until about the fourth date (which was on the fourth night). At that point I think his heart was already gone enough that any direction I took was going to do damage. That's why I ran. I felt like we were too different and that I was only going to end up hurting him. I was trying to get rid of my feelings for the Scorp who had more in common with me than anyone I had ever met. "

Ahh... that makes sense.. I am so sorry that you had to go through all of that. I do hope you two manage to talk and at least become friends again. It can be incredibly overwhelming to have someone consume your every moment when you aren't ready. It can also lead to joining into a relationship based on their desire to consume you and your desire not to hurt them. You did the right thing, even though it seems painful.

I think had you stayed in it because you didn't want to hurt him you may have had harsher problems down the road. I hope that makes sense?

I went through something similar- where someone just consummed by life, my time and ended up going out and buying me a $5000 engagement ring. I felt guilty if I had said no..... so I agreed instead of following my gut to run. It all worked out in the end - my life at least did and now things are 100% better than ever.

posted July 07, 2006 11:53 PM         

And he's a scorpio? How pathetic

posted July 12, 2006 08:34 PM         

It's so good to read the superficial reasons behind the nonsense.

Yes let him call you but when he does, ask him how he is, and listen to his moods (without asking about his feelings of course)
If he's still distant and you don't sense he really wants you to come over and rub his feet, then leave him alone.