posted July 06, 2006 06:39 PM         

It was probably one of the most emotional dreams I have ever had.

I had a dream she died in a car crash. It was a dream much worse than any nightmare. It really shook me up. I am still recovering now as I type. Its the type of dream that really resonates. She died in the car with..I think it was my friends brad and matt..or two other boys..and two other girls I know. It was unbearable in the dream and I could not stop breaking out in tears in the dream. sometimes they were sudden crying spells but short: others longer, always uncontrollable. funny how I remember that specific.

What I think the dream means is: I need to take advantage of the time WE WILL HAVE (since there is distance now). In the dream I remember specifically that it was between now and when I visit her in france on dec. 26. because I said in the dream "what will I do with these tickets now? a trip to france will be so sad now, being in her home but not being able to see her. I can't do it" my eyes were still watery after waking up.

I remember in the dream I needed to talk to her so bad but knew she was dead. I decided to send her an email. I said "she'll be able to read it somehow (in heaven)". I remember being so lost in the dream like i was in real life when she had left at first for her home..but knowing an angel watched over me (she does not believe in an afterlife however). it was the most bittersweet feeling in the dream too, wondering what could have happened with our relationship, wondering about us..I think this is a dream that tells me "take advantage of things now carl..don't let anything stop you cause if you do, something that REALLY IS BEYOND YOUR CONTROL WILL STOP YOU". those are all the thoughts i had right away after the dream.

anyone think they have more of a professnial view on this dream? what does it mean? have you ever dreamed of a S.O. dying? how did you respond in your dream? how did it change things after the dream? I would love nothing more than to hug her right now and feel her body close to mine. but I can not, with her 7000 miles away. things were perfect when we were together and our hearts have only grown fonder with distance..she said she loved me before she left after I told her the same...now she says "I love you deeply, I need you and I am adding you into my future plans." just like I am. things have gotten more intense.

she was at the bar watching france/portugual, france won. she did not drink, but I am worried that a celebration after winning will cause her to come into contact with many reckless idiots, you have seen riots after massive wins. if france wins in a few nights, they win the world cup. and I am sure you folks know how big soccer is to the rest of the world.. she may drink if they win, I don't know, maybe not..even if she does not, she may come into contact with a drunk driver..I am very worried, after the dream.

posted July 06, 2006 11:05 PM         

I had a similar dream once. I dreamed my sister died in a car accident. I woke up in tears and felt dreadful the entire day. The dream was very real to me and it seemed like it was forewarning me of some danger. Truly terrifying.

posted July 06, 2006 11:29 PM         

Dreams can have figurative/metaphorical meanings or can actually be premonitions. Have you ever had any experience of precog dreams? The only problem with precognition is that you don't know it's true until it actually happens.

My suggestion is keep a dream journal. It's a difficult task at first. But once you start a routine of writing them down, they will become more pronounced and easier to remember. I do this on a daily basis and have found definite recurring themes in my dreams, as well as subconscious fears and motivations that I am forced to work out. Keeping a dream journal allows me to see these on a physical plane and gives me time to process the emotional undercurrents that seem to exist in a state of fantasy.

I have had dreams of people of significance dying in my life, a few that have, and a few others that have not. Death within in a dream, very similiar to the symbolic meaning in astrology, can mean letting go of something...It seems as if you have physically let go of her, as she is 7000 miles away. She is experiencing things that are beyond your control; you are not there to intervene, protect her, or share joys with her. Your dream may have been acting that out, as well. When males are present in a dream it could be figurative or symbolic, oftentimes representing a male figure or agression of some sort. Not to say that she is aggressive or angry, but that there may be some disappointment below the surface--either with you, herself, or both--that she is dealing with.

I would definately pay attention to future dreams, talk to her about you fears, and allow yourself to express whatever emotions regarding the circumstances of your seperation that are present. The car wreck perhaps conveyed your anger or lack of ability to control the situation where she is concerned, and overall you feel as if you have "physically" lost her, while still remaining emotionally attached to her.

Do you share a psychic bond with her? Are other dreams of her as significant? Watch for recurring themes and roles. Pay attention to the people and circumstances. I know it sounds difficult to be "conscious" within dreams, but it is possible. It's an energy that you must consciously learn to channel. Once you become more familar with channeling, it will become much easier to delinate between symbolic and actual physical references. Check out lucid dreaming if you are not familiar with it. I have done this since I was 12 and have found it to be really exciting, helpful, and healing.

I wish you luck and hope that things work out. Hopefully, she will be by your side soon. And yes, no matter what the dream is telling you, you should use every moment available to you. Cherish those moments, cherish her...and cherish yourself.

posted July 07, 2006 01:55 AM         

Scary dream, I'm sorry.

I saw your other thread about your girlfriend and I can really feel that there is some kind of great love between you. I really mean that, I wouldn't just say that for the hell of it.

You know, it's true that you really never know how much time you have with your loved ones.

All we can do is love and treasure them as much as possible while we're here.

I have a feeling you will.

posted July 07, 2006 03:23 AM         

Dulce Luna,
I somehow missed that forum when looking for the right one to post in. that would have been the right one..not a typical scorpio (observent) moment there..

Scorpio Chick

we did have a scare a month back. but I think her time of the month came. I will have to ask.

spellbound,
you are right, dream journals are a pain in the butt at first. I never get past a week when I try them. I have heard of lucid dreaming though and I am very interested. I read websites and books all the time but never have been lucid in a dream. It must be a good way to clarify things and rid yourself of some of the confusion that plauges your concious life. Have you ever seen waking life? That one will really make you think!

You are probably right> I am coming to terms with her being away..I wonder how that will change things now that I am use to her being gone and not fighting the idea as much. I have never had a precog dream to my knowledge. I am not sure if we share a psychic connection. If I do not know it is likely no, right? I mean, she does simple things like find things that I have lost. I could be looking for something for a very long time and she comes in and finds it right away.

No reoccuring dreams yet though. I have not noticed any themes. though I did dreams about an old friends mom! that she was my advisor at college and she was leaving and I was sad that she would not be able to help me study abroad..another thing I am trying to do in real life. I remember giving her a hug goodbye. I have not seen her in years!!

Gooberzlostlovefound

posted July 07, 2006 08:21 AM         

I really do hope that things work out for you. Studying abroad? Wow, that would be interesting. What are you studying?

I guess they say time heals all wounds and absence makes the heart grow fonder. I am sure they are both true, but it's very difficult in the meantime to get to the place where those things actually happen.

DON'T HIDE YOUR FEELINGS!!! I don't know what has led you to do this, because I don't know you, but don't hide them. Because, as you said in the last post, your time or her time may end at any moment. Love like it's your last day. I guess I can say that because I am overly emotional and affectionate--see Cancer moon conj jupiter, pisc sun. I have a very hard time hiding my emotions, whether I speak them or not. They just seem to burst out of me in other ways. A friend of mine recently saw me out with my BF. Not many people knew that we were seeing each other. She of course knew right off the bat who he was. She said when I looked at him, I had my happy eyes. I was sparkling. So, no matter how hard I try not to show them, they definately come through!

Love and emotion is meant to be shared, allow yourself to recieve it as well. It's a great gift. It's life's only purpose and LOVE heals all things!

Good luck to you, my friend. May your journey lead you to your dreams!

posted July 07, 2006 11:15 AM         

Hopefully, it's a case of you being worried about her and not some actual event. That may be the case.

posted July 07, 2006 09:47 PM         

Its' normal, but try not to worry or focus too much or be insecure:>

posted July 16, 2006 09:10 AM         

spellbound,

Excellent advice not only for Carl, but also for me personally. I agree with your points of view and have already been practicing some of them (e.g. keeping a dream journal). Simply words of wisdom.

Carl,

I almost missed the Astral Realm forum too, until I had had a series of rather unusual dreams of the same guy (whom I deeply admire). So I'm a bit late regarding providing some help. I hope you're doing okay now, and so does your Taurean girlfriend

I'm trying to examine your dream with the following questions:

1) You said that you dreamed of the tragic event of your GF as a car crash, and it was a very vivid, emotional dream- did it feel like it was a traffic accident, or not an accident? Or the difference was not that evident?

2) You said you probably dreamed of your GF with Brat and Matt- who are they? What are their identities/roles in relations to you and your GF? You said you dreamed of two other girls you knew as well...who are they? According to what you related, there are five people, your GF included, who have been killed in the car crash. Did you know in the dream who had been driving the car? What did the car look like? Was it a vehicle you had seen in real life before this dream took place?

3) Then you mentioned you didn't know what to do with the tickets you had- you were at her home and sad...could you please re-describe this part? I personally think this part might be quite essential.

4) An email sent to heaven- your email for her in your dream. Did you remember what was written in your email? You said she didn't believe in after life- but did you believe in after life yourself? Has your belief still stayed the same? You mentioned feeling an angel watching over you- who might it have been? How did you feel having a guardian angel watching over you, with the "fact" that your GF has died of a car crash in your dream?

5) After having read Scorpio Chick's reply, you said you and your GF had a "scare" a month earlier, and that you were going to have to ask her about it (whether she had been pregnant)- a "scare"? Did that mean that your GF and you had been cautious and even anxious about contraception and avoiding unwanted pregnancies? What were your GF's and your own views on getting pregnant as a couple at this stage of your relationship? A rather negative one, or a somewhat positive one, or something else? I guess this might also have to do with your GF's age and your age, how long your relationship had been until this dream occurred, the nature of your relationship (which became a distant one- and 7000 miles apart at that), distance-wise or in any other aspect, how your relationship began to form originally, how you two met, how your relationship had been going until this dream occurred, the differences and common features in your GF's and your own backgrounds, the shared themes and differences of your and her beliefs when it comes to the paranormal, the supernatural, spirituality, the relationships between your family and her family (if anything significant)...but since you're a Scorpio man, these questions are for you to answer to yourself in private, you don't have to give me the answers; you could perhaps figure some things out on your own and you are perhaps a very private person, so I'll leave the questions for you to answer privately.

6) You specified your concerns regarding what might have been going to happen after the soccer games- the frequent riots, your GF may run into a drunken person etc...what kind of drinker was, and is she? Had she ever encountered that sort of problems prior to this dream? Why did you worry? What were your reasons/what motivated you to worry so much and in this particular way? Again, these questions are for yourself to answer privately.

It seems to me you truly falls and cares for her- in other words, you love her- deeply. It's understandable that, as any non-atypical Scorpio, often you'd tend to conceal your feelings, for one reason or another. But in this case, with a petrifying, worrisome dream like this, please try sharing what you dreamed with her, and just show your feelings for her. It's essential. As you said earlier, it felt as if you must treasure what you had now. Please do. Like someone said in a post: love as if it's the last day.

This is an extremely intense, shocking, and emotional dream. I personally have never dreamed of a loved one die any of my dream. But a dream as powerful as this must symbolize something- which I have yet to figure out. Life and death as to beginnings and endings of relationships? Maybe. Someone mentioned the letting go theory, and GeminiLover 75 related a similar experience, which, in her real life may have meant her ex-husband's losing her, and after a time she started a new relationship...perhaps you'd like to take a closer look and give some thoughts to the relationship of you and your Taurean lady. I wish you two love, happiness and serendipidity and better dreams