posted July 14, 2006 12:14 PM         

We have been back seeing each other now as you may all know after being broken up for a year and a half. I knew it was real cause I never,ever take a guy back after that length of time. From what I understand Aqua's usually don't go back to an ex after that length of time unless they really love them.

So since we have been back seeing each other things have been going really slow and I am ok with that I need to take things slow and have some patience and I do believe this relaitonship is teaching me patience. But somehow I still feel that he is holding back and at times I do think that he has taken me for granted. I do know that he is scared of the way he feels and their is alot of things going on with him inside. WE ALL know how these Aqua men are..

Anyway I over look all that I can deal with that since he has already told me that he loved me I am ok. This past monday I came back from out of town and I text him to let him know that I was back and later if he was up for some company I would come by. He did not get back to me for like 5 hours later he came by my house for a little while and we chatted and he left. He said I will call you later and so that is what I decided to let him do I want him to lead. That makes him more comfortable or in control or whatever.

I did not hear from him anymore until yesterday. My car went on the brinks when I got off the train to get in it, would not start. SO I called a guy friend of mine who lives by me to give me a ride to my house if he was not busy. He is crazy about me and will do anything that I ask. SO he came and picked me up. We are driving towards my house and well who do we run smack dead into My Aqua and two of his guy friends are outside talking in front of this gym that he shoots ball at.

Uh we, he and I look each other in the face and I just look away. I mean I really did not know what to do or say we drove by so fast it just happened like that. Well my Aqua decides to call my phone and I do not answer and he leaves this message. He never mentioned seeing me but his voice was so full of emotion I knew that he was hurt and he panicked when he saw me with this other guy.

We have not decided to be exclusive Aqua and I. AGAIN that is his fears..My other friend has not a clue to what was going on.
I started not to call my Aqua back at all but I text him and said hey pumpkin got your message so sorry that I missed you. It is late and I am going to bed talk w/u tomorrow.

I have not heard back from him and I don't think that I will for a few days. He is very angry and hurt, we have a telepathic relationship and I can feel him trying to figure things out and stuff.

I think it will put something on his mind for now. It was not done maliciously it just happened this way. HE needed to be knocked out that comfort zone. He acts crazy but I know that he loves me and has never loved a women the way he loves me ever.

posted July 14, 2006 12:56 PM         

I don't really have anything to say, but wanted you to know that I read it. I'm sure it will work out the way it's supposed to.

posted July 14, 2006 02:22 PM         

I think, from my experience, Aquas can take us for granted until they think someone else wants us or they might lose us. Not sure if that's the case with you, but I think that you should call him and be honest with him about things and how you feel about him. Tell him you have been letting him take the lead (who knows, maybe he's seeing this as a lack of interest from you?). At any rate, you have nothing to worry about as you did nothing wrong, adn you only called the other guy because you were trying nto to bother Aqua. I think this will blow over quickly, and hopefully, this is a good opportunity for the two of you to have a conversation about your relationship, where it's headed, etc.

posted July 14, 2006 04:33 PM         

Yes AG: This will definetly turn out the way that it is suppose to. He has some growing to do and this is part of his growth..

posted July 14, 2006 07:22 PM         

That sounds crazy but if you are leaving things up to him then you can expect a solution, but right now the shoe is on the other foot and this happens in relationships all the time.

Sometimes one person is in control and doesn't know it and doesn't do the right thing.

Now that you have it, use it wisely and focus on communicating a solution to him that would make YOU happy first and the we happy second.

Consider it and give it to him straight.
Otherwise the shoe will back on his foot and you will be resentful again.

As a wise man once said to me if you want to make yourself heard, you have to drive that train.

Good luck,
Natasha

posted July 15, 2006 12:39 PM         

*Tsk Tsk

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Gemini sun, Cancer ascendant, Taurus moon *29, Taurus venus, Libra mars
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Things base and vile, holding no quantity,
Love can transpose to form and dignity.
Love looks not with the eye, but with the mind,
And therefore is winged Cupid painted blind.

posted July 15, 2006 06:52 PM         

I do think thou that even though your Aqua has not been acting the best he still does deserve for you to tell him what had happened that day.. you would like the same in reverse right?? i mean you saw him..he saw you.. it doesnt need to be a big deal.. and avoiding it makes it into a big deal..
My belief is if someone isnt acting how you want them to..then be the leading example.. show them what you need by first giving it to them..i have found this really does work when someone truely cares for you..and when they dont..you find out very quickly..

posted July 16, 2006 09:38 PM         

This must be hard on you, I would imagine to always hang in there and be patient for him to come around.

I do have the feeling this has to play out, but also not without a to talk.

posted July 22, 2006 06:11 AM         

Quite a bit of experience with Aqua men...and I love em, but I feel, if you are not willing to share them with the world and demand too much from them, act full on and
predictable, It aint gonna work.....

I agree with what was said above, at times, its only when they see someone else after you that they sit up and take note (my ex aqua hubbie comes to mind)!

Sorry ladies, that is how I see them..

posted July 29, 2006 12:39 PM         

I might have missed something here but I dont quite understand why you getting a lift from a male friend is a big problem and why you couldn't just tell him about it?

Something very simple seems to have been made int a complicated issue???????????

posted July 29, 2006 03:22 PM         

I think the universe sought to teach him a lesson, it sounds like he was very smug with your affections and just took it for granted that you were in love with him and would wait around for him.

That's kind of what happened during this retrograde with my Pisces. Too smug and thinking that I will be there for him whenever he's ready and his beck and call.

Anyhow, keep us updated on what happens. Hopefully with the retrograde over and all these planets in Leo, we can all be more open and magnanimous, and sort out the issues that arose in the last month.

posted July 31, 2006 10:38 AM         

Venus D: Its okay now this happened over two weeks ago. We have since talked about it and moved on, its all about those lessons. It was meant to happen the way it did and we both learned from it..