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13anshee
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posted July 15, 2006 08:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 13anshee     Edit/Delete Message
it has come to my attention recently that perhaps some people are destined to spend a lifetime alone, for educational purposes on how to live without their twin,from what i have read, some twins upon re-uniting become reliant on each other and in turn are seperated from each other until they learn to live apart an be wholes away from each other

so i pose this question for you
do we sometimes have to spend time, up to a lifetime perhaps, away from our twin selves to learn to live apart from them?

i know from my experiences that this life is basically about learning to live away without shutting off completly, no easy task
i'd like some opinions if i can, cheers

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lotusheartone
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posted July 15, 2006 12:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lotusheartone     Edit/Delete Message
it's about balancing the karma..so they would need to work through there problems..
I have been alone for 8 years..and I would say..yes some alone time is necessary..each must be independent and whole..or close to it..and help each other to completion..
we are heading towards an end of a cycle..so, I would say most would be able to work together..it's it Time..as Linda wrote about for twin's to re-Unite in LOve and Light...

hope that helps

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AcousticGod
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posted July 15, 2006 03:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
What twin-souls? I think you should assume that no such thing exists. That way if you should find one you can be pleasantly surprised, and if you don't it won't bother you.

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lotusheartone
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posted July 15, 2006 03:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lotusheartone     Edit/Delete Message
AG..they really do exist..for while I didn't think so either..I decided I was just alone..but after going within..and SEEing..well that is believing! WOW!

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Lialei
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posted July 15, 2006 04:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lialei     Edit/Delete Message
AG, I really liked that. In just a couple of sentences you described, what I think is a well-balanced perspective. Open to possibility. Cherishing whatever blessings you discover along the way, while content within yourself.
I look at it the same way. And understand how assuming it doesn't exist isn't the same as disbelieving. It's still remaining open.
I love that phrase "pleasantly suprised" and the feelings it conjures.

Lotus, whatever you have seen sounds very precious to you. Hope you know I wouldn't belittle that.

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lotusheartone
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posted July 15, 2006 04:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lotusheartone     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks, Lialei

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hippichick
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posted July 16, 2006 01:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message
13 Anshee

I have always had someone close to me in my life, usually a man, however needing alot of time alone.

For a very long time now, I have felt the need to be alone, totally alone, except for my kids, ofcourse. So not too long ago, I made the concious decision to be alone, that is without a man, with very little contact with friends, and maintain associations with my patients at work only (I have to have income and bond with my patients quite naturally.) But when I go home, that is it, I am alone and still have a very full life.

I have never been happier since making this decision. I feel so at peace, words can not describe.

I feel that one day, I will re-emerge from my hiding, per se. But this is time for me to come to know me. I have often contemplated why we are here with others, and why I have always had a great need for time alone to one extent or another, and I have come to the conculsion that "alone time" is time for us to come to know ourselves and our connection to the Divine.

When we do re-emerge, re-connect with our fellow humans, twin souls, whoever on this planet, we can do so with greater completeness.

Sending peace, love and light.

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Yang
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posted July 16, 2006 09:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yang     Edit/Delete Message
I have never, ever had a long-lasting relationship before, and I am 22. I am beginning to think that I am going to spend the rest of my life alone. BUT, then again, I am still young and still have the opportunity to find someone to be in a long- lasting relationship.

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pidaua
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posted July 17, 2006 08:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pidaua     Edit/Delete Message
people spend too much time worrying if they will ever find someone to spend the rest of their life with traipsing through the fields of daisies....

horsecrap.. pure and simple. IF human beings would just accept life, love life and NEVER EVER SETTLE...guess what... you'd meet that special person, the one you're supposed to be with.

BUT... as humans we always try to force round objects into square pegs "Well, I don't know if I love him, but well, he can be quite nice, even though he steals me blind, cheats on me...at least I'm not alone".

WTF!!!! ALONE is better than misery. It is through being ALONE that we learn to LOVE ourselves and we learn WHO WE ARE...

Does that happen at 18 or 25 or 35 or even 55? Guess what? It will happen WHEN IT IS TIME

When I see people lamenting that they are getting older (and their like... ummm..... 20) and they wonder if they will EVER find someone... I want to say NOOOOO... because you are being too desperate.. YOU ARE ONLY 20.. and you still have a life ahead of you.

Life affords us special chances and it's up to us to allow those times to work in our lives. For some, they meet their soul mate / twin soul / buddy (if you're an Aqua) and they live happily ever after- still pursuing their goals and loving life as a team.

Some people get detoured and try to MAKE something work, which produces sometime like a ruptured tinker toy that takes a few months to years to put back together.

Others follow a path of LIFE.. they work or go to school- they let LOVE happen but they don't chase that wisp of smoke forever trying to force it into the bottle.


In all cases, most of us WILL try to make things work with someone we don't really want to be with but for some reason we feel compelled (to me that is due to our souls realizing we need to learn a lesson through this experience).

Some cannot handle those lessons and they become bitter and angry, swearing to never love again. YUCK!!! I try to run from them because they are too inky and depressing.

Hey, I have kissed a few frogs... I was engaged to a toad at one time - I am sure that he was the intoxicating kind which is why I stayed with his for so long..

Then one day... at the age of 36 (OMG to some that must be sooooooooo old) I fell deeply in love with my Prince.. he was neither a frog nor a toad - he did not dazzle me with diamonds or promises of love everlasting on the first date.. instead, we fell into a quiet yet passionate love... and we got married.

All the other frogs and the toad fell to the way-side and I realized that life happens for a reason. I never once felt bad for taking the path of education and career because finding my true love at this time in my life was well worth it.

Find yourself first, know yourself first because before then, you actually become dependent on the other person to help you find your happiness

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hippichick
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posted July 17, 2006 09:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message
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The Mutable Night Force
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posted July 18, 2006 03:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for The Mutable Night Force     Edit/Delete Message
Yes, but some people yearn for love more than others. I'm oviously not saying some people don't care just because they might seem content on the outside, or that the people who make the most fuss need it the most. But I mean, in astrology for instance... lonely people with their sun or venus in the 7th house are some of the saddest types of people I've met.
Often people feel they need a relationship when they have nothing else in their life to distract them. If you have a busy social life, an interesting job or a hobbie, you're less likely to be pining.

Ha so okay I am very biased, I admit. Being ridiculously young to feel so alone. But when you've never even kissed someone and you have an... um, libido as high as mine and know virtually no men AND have a pitiable social life, then yes, you feel lonely. But I dig my own hole because I am antisocial git so it figures.

In any case, on the topic, I sure hope that is not the case because although I do not expect to ever find a 'twin soul' (like AG's reason- avoids disappointment) if I thought I would continue to feel alone forever I don't know what I'd do. Hope's the only thing worth living for really because the actual outcome is inevitably less fulfilling.

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AcousticGod
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posted July 18, 2006 03:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
With as much personality as you have I don't think you've got anything to worry about MNF.

Incidentally, my Venus... Mercury... and Neptune are all in the 7th, but they're in Sag, so I like partners between adventures or something like that.

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pidaua
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posted July 18, 2006 07:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pidaua     Edit/Delete Message
I have my Natal moon in the 7th house (in Aries) but found that I enjoyed "relationships" of all forms - but mostly friendships. The need for a "love" relationship wasn't there or at least if I wasn't in a romance, it didn't affect me.

My guy also has Moon in the 7th house (but his is conjunct his DC and in Pisces) and I would say he was the kind that would go long periods without a relationship and then enter into one when he felt it right.

Sometimes when we're young we feel the need to be in a relationship and MNF I think you're right about the sign and other aspects. Some people mistake physical comfort for love and acquiesce because of that comfort.

Being kissed sounds better than it is if it's done with the wrong person... or worse of all if you kiss someone you really like and then they SU*CK!!!! LMAO....


I will agree with AG (did hell just freeze over) and say that with your personality you will find someone absolutely WONDERFUL!!!!

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Kamilla
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posted July 18, 2006 10:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kamilla     Edit/Delete Message
Osho Zen Tarot


"When you are alone you are not alone, you are simply lonely - and there is a tremendous difference between loneliness and aloneness. When you are lonely you are thinking of the other, you are missing the other.

Loneliness is a negative state. You are feeling that it would have been better if the other were there - your friend, your wife, your mother, your beloved, your husband. It would have been good if the other were there, but the other is not. Loneliness is absence of the other.

Aloneness is the presence of oneself. Aloneness is very positive. It is a presence, overflowing presence. You are so full of presence that you can fill the whole universe with your presence and there is no need for anybody.

Osho The Discipline of Transcendence, Volume 1 Chapter 2

Commentary:

When there is no "significant other" in our lives we can either be lonely, or enjoy the freedom that solitude brings. When we find no support among others for our deeply felt truths, we can either feel isolated and bitter, or celebrate the fact that our vision is strong enough even to survive the powerful human need for the approval of family, friends or colleagues.

If you are facing such a situation now, be aware of how you are choosing to view your "aloneness" and take responsibility for the choice you have made.

The humble figure in this card glows with a light that emanates from within. One of Gautam Buddha's most significant contributions to the spiritual life of humankind was to insist to his disciples, "Be a light unto yourself." Ultimately, each of us must develop within ourselves the capacity to make our way through the darkness without any companions, maps or guide."

I have Saturn in Aquarius in 7th House, can't you tell...lol

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lotusheartone
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posted July 18, 2006 11:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lotusheartone     Edit/Delete Message
Kamilla..thanks! That's wonderful. ...

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AcousticGod
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posted July 19, 2006 01:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
Human salvation lies in the hands of the creatively maladjusted. - Martin Luther King, Jr.

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and
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posted July 19, 2006 02:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for and     Edit/Delete Message
in my next life im going to be a hermit

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"WHATEVER the soul longs for, WILL be attained by the spirit"

"Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation"

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The Mutable Night Force
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posted July 19, 2006 03:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for The Mutable Night Force     Edit/Delete Message
Ohhh, thank you AG
However, I really doubt personality attributes can overcome the fact that I'm a picky recluse. Unless the mere scent of me manages to miraculously attract many men who are exactly my type! haha
If only!

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13anshee
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posted July 22, 2006 06:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 13anshee     Edit/Delete Message
i have to agree mostly with what AG said firstly, it's been a long time since i started this thread but what i have come to realise is that
i have everything i need right now, and i always will as long as i have my own place
relationships of all sorts come and go, i walk this path alone, but so does everyone else
my point is, when there is a need for a mate, one will come
objectivly speaking this will be only to bring another soul into this world
as it is in nature
yes there will be emotion because the relationship will be a close and strong one
but i won't ever expect anything from it

does anyone else understand my point of view?

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geminstone
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posted July 22, 2006 10:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for geminstone     Edit/Delete Message
... understood, completely.

~ geminstone

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orange_orchid
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posted August 16, 2006 12:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for orange_orchid     Edit/Delete Message
Hello, all. I'm wondering what's the significance of the 7th house in one's chart?
I see that I have sun, venus and true node in the 7th house.
I have not ever had a loving relationship with the opposite sex (i'm 22), though I have recently been partaking in meaningless, empty sex. although at the time it felt so right, not wrong. afterwards though, i feel really empty and used.
Lately I've been longing for a love, but, at the same time very scared about what that could bring.
Hmf! Any insight would be lovely

~scorp rising, gem sun, aries moon

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posted August 16, 2006 05:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cat71     Edit/Delete Message
I have Jupiter and Neptune in 7th in Sag - don't know what that means. I'm a Libra, sign of partnerships, right?!
Firstly I think yes, sometimes we are destined to be alone, to do the soul searching 'who am I' stuff. When you're alone you're truly able to analyse what you 'want' from a relationship not what you 'need'. I've learnt (from being alone) that I don't 'need' a relationship to be whole, I am whole all on my own. However after 7 years I have decided that I do 'want' someone to share my wholeness with.
Can't remember who said it, but it's very true, you are better off being alone then being with someone who treats you badly and makes you devalue yourself.
Also, just as an added thought, as I said I have been alone for 7 yrs (by choice) and most of the time it's great, I make my own rules, but sometimes I do want someone to come home to and talk about my day with, but also, here's the point I was going to make before rambling on sometimes I have felt more lonely in a crowded room then I have when home alone...

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pisces_girl
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posted August 17, 2006 01:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pisces_girl     Edit/Delete Message
MNF,
My heart goes out to you, I understand where you are coming from. I've felt 'lonely' for a while now and for a long time it seems have slowly tried to climb the mountain to self acceptance. I also tend to be picky too which doesn't help the situation, but you know what? that's OK. And like Pidaua said, no-one should ever settle or lower their standards to be with someone. This I honestly believe. Live and experience as much as you can, because help comes to those who try to help themselves.
AG and Pidaua I take my hat off to you. You hit the nail on the head

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InLoveWithLife
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posted August 28, 2006 07:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for InLoveWithLife     Edit/Delete Message
Hi MNF,

I know where you r coming from. For as long as i remember, I have always felt very lonely. Have always been looking for that 'special someone'. Thought I found him, tried to "make things work", failed miserably.
When he left me, he said something similar to what Pidaua here said. At that time it sounded like bs, but later i realized that may be this is the lesson i needed to learn in this life. To learn to live my life alone and love it !

Well then i thought i was almost there, had a bunch of really nice friends, for the first time in my life wasn't 'looking'. Just taking each day as it comes. And guess what, fell in love with a good friend. BUT, that's not the end of the story. He didn't feel that way about me.

Well, got over it really fast this time. Didnt hurt as much because of the lessons I had learnt after my earlier breakup. But what I don't understand is this...why did I ever have to fall for this guy. I was doing fine. Not even looking. And enjoying myself. Anyways. Life is weird.

So i really don't know what to say. Except that just when u think you hv it all figured out, it all falls apart. sigh !

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InLoveWithLife
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posted August 28, 2006 07:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for InLoveWithLife     Edit/Delete Message
But what's this about Sun and Venus in 7th house? I have both in Capricorn, with Cancer rising.

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