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Mama Mia

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posted July 21, 2006 12:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
Lately I have been doing alot of soul searching and I asked GOD to send things to me that will help along the way to recieve his blessing. I know soon my life will be taking a serious change and well I want to be ready.. I just thought I would share this information I got it was a blessing to me and I want to bless those of you who may not know this as well as those of us who do know it. Sometimes a reminder won't hurt..

If you're not married, yet, share this with a friend. If you are married share it with your spouse or other married couples, and reflect upon it.
An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep eyes open. After you marry, close one eye."
Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults isn't really important.
Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws, vulnerabiliti­es, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you have got to learn to close one eye, and not let every little thing bother you.
You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs,values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to
share a life together. Neither of you is perfect, but are you perfect for each other?
Do you bring out the best of each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other? Or do you compete,compare, and control?
What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life," you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.
Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.­Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.
What keeps a relationship strong? Communicatio­n, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, some shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note).
Leave a nice message on his or her voicemail. Or send a nice E-mail and share common goals and interests.
Growth is important. So grow together, not away from each other. Give each other space to grow without feeling insecure.
Allow your mate to have outside interests.You can't always be together. So give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment.
Don'­t try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation.Respect his or her parents, regardless. Don't put pressure on each other for material goods.
Remember for richer or for poorer.If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.
"Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think."
The grass withers, flowers fade, but the word of God stands forever. Isaiah 40:8 Shall we make a new rule of life from tonight?
 Always try to be a little kinder than is necessary. The only difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the I.
"A word of encouragement can make the difference between giving up or going on."


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posted July 21, 2006 12:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message
Very nice!!!!!

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posted July 21, 2006 12:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message
Very nice!!!!!

(EDIT: It was so very nice, that I decided to double post it!)

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posted July 21, 2006 01:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Peri     Edit/Delete Message

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posted July 21, 2006 04:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for celticfyre     Edit/Delete Message
very wise words

"In my end is my beginning"
Mary,Queen of Scots

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posted July 22, 2006 03:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sarah9     Edit/Delete Message

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posted July 23, 2006 06:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CancerianMoon     Edit/Delete Message
Wonderful reminder..thank you!

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posted October 18, 2006 01:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for seapisces     Edit/Delete Message
wow mama mia, beautiful words to live by. very wise and evolved way of thinking. thank you very much

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posted October 18, 2006 02:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for themysteryclub     Edit/Delete Message
Thank you Mama Mia...your words of wisdom are beautiful and soothing

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posted October 18, 2006 09:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for comica23     Edit/Delete Message
There are always some difference between two people.. They can be more or less conflictuous. But it depends on how much tolerance and understanding (and will - is it worth of trying? is it worth of fighting for this love?) to surpass these differences together.. And learning with these differences (not just compromissing without really understanding) is very important.

And a relationship is a two-way. You might be happy with your partner and you might think that the way you give your affection is just right. But be always attentive if your partner is also happy (if he/she feels satisfied with what u give, and if he/she feels confident about what he/she gives). Being truly able to concern about the other person's feelings and thoughts (under the other person's shoes) is what is truly selfless. ^_^

And remember, never to ignore anything that you feel that is not right. Be sure to share everything. Small problems that are occulted are like seeds: they grow into big plants.

Relating with each other requires learning, tolerance and adjustment, but never change yourself just for the sake of the other person. Instead, try to improve yourself for the sake of both.

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Bear the Leo

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From: In Germany but home is in Bisbee with Pidaua
Registered: Jun 2006

posted October 18, 2006 06:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bear the Leo     Edit/Delete Message
Wow I liked what this thread has to say. Especially this quote.

"What keeps a relationship strong? Communicatio­n, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, some shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note)."

This is exactly what my marriage is like. Even though I am Germany, a 9 hour difference. Our communication (Text, IM, and on the phone) is awesome, we completely trust each other, and we make each other laugh.
When I am at home I like to help around the house. We eat dinner at the dinner table together. We have our time with our friends and together. It is fun no matter what we do, be it staying in or going out to be social.

I do believe my marraige is a soulful relationship. It is awesome being with a wonderful wife who will compromise and understands and also communicates her fears, concerns, and appraisals for things we do or plan. We talk about everything.

I love her so very deeply with all my heart and soul. I tell her every morning and every night how beautiful she is and how lucky I am to have her. She is my dream come true.

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posted October 18, 2006 06:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pidaua     Edit/Delete Message
hee hee.... that's my Bear

I couldn't have said it better myself Bear, concerning how we are and what we do. COMMUNICATION is so very important even when people are living in the same house (let alone country). I am lucky to have a Husband that enjoys talking, texting and IM'ing. He is open, honest and loyal.

Bear and I always stress that we are a team - it is BOTH of us together than makes us strong- therefore our individual egos don't get in the way and make us feel that we need to challenge each other or that one person's needs are more important.

I love you Bear- thank you for posting such wonderful things.. you always make my heart go pitter-patter

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posted October 18, 2006 07:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for tinasparkle     Edit/Delete Message
Just wonderful Mama Mia. I particularly liked the issue of communication, i.e. notes, e-mails, etc. All too often we neglect to tell those we love how we feel about them. I learned a very important lesson about this when I lost my last boyfriend. Although we had an opportunity to say goodbye, there were things that I had wanted to say and will never have the chance. As a result, I make a concerted effort to be as open with those I care about as possible. If I think someone is wonderful, I tell them. If they look nice, I tell them. If I love them, I tell them. I am very careful not to make anyone uncomfortable, although there are times when those I encounter are not always certain what to do with this openness as they are not accustomed to it, in time they realize that my feelings are genuine and honest and I don't want anything from them. It thinkit is sad that we seem to live in a society when a compliment is initially regarded with suspicion, but these are the times we live in. I however will not ever regret that I didn't tell someone I cared. It takes a bit of bravery, but I think it is important to do it anyway.


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posted October 26, 2006 12:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ecerbii     Edit/Delete Message
When I received it in my email it did give me alot of food for thought,and like yourself I also passed it on.

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