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Topic: Why did I dream of him dead? Pls- no reply at AR so far
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D for Defiant Knowflake Posts: 780 From: Registered: May 2006
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posted July 25, 2006 03:51 AM
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pidaua Knowflake Posts: 5549 From: Bisbee, Arizona Registered: May 2002
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posted July 25, 2006 06:50 PM
in a nutshell? You are afraid you are going to drive him off with your problems. I say that because you consider the Vitamins to be a toxic problem (just like you consider your mother to be toxic). The guy represents a new love, one that is not toxic, but you fear breaking away from the vitamins (mom) will make you less effective (the guy dies of a vitamin defiency). You may also fear that you could develop a similar fear of "not getting enough vitamins" or by quitting the vitamins one will die - therefore plunging the person into making sure EVERYONE takes their vitamins. Dreaming of one that we love dying is not uncommon and shows us how we fear losing that person, that he / she is on our minds. I wouldn't despair about that - but if you do become insanely pre-occupied with making things work or worrying if it will never happy, thereby pushing him away - you will effectively "kill" the relationship and your chances with the "toxic" behaviour. Keep us posted
~Pidaua
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D for Defiant Knowflake Posts: 780 From: Registered: May 2006
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posted July 25, 2006 11:01 PM
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pidaua Knowflake Posts: 5549 From: Bisbee, Arizona Registered: May 2002
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posted July 26, 2006 06:13 PM
The fear of failing or the fear of making a mistake can actually push the person we love away. You are ahead of the game though because you have recognized the problem or where the behaviour stems from. Dreaming of some we love dying is scary. I used to dream of my father being killed often while he was in law enforcement. I worry about my husband being in the military- but everything happens for a reason. It will take you years to break the fear or the toxic thoughts concerning the vitamins, and that's okay- no one changes overnight. Do you keep a journal or meditate to center yourself and work out those thoughts? It may help- I started by using candle meditiation and concentrating on the flame in front of a mirror. It really helps. I am happy that my words helped you. If you need anything, just call me out Best wishes and positive thoughts. ~Pidaua IP: Logged |
Scorpionic Web Knowflake Posts: 309 From: Pennsylvania Registered: Dec 2005
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posted July 27, 2006 03:04 PM
I'm always dreaming about death. Usually my own death. Usually being shot or stabbed while running from someone. Either I die and float above my body or lay bleeding, paralyzed and gasping for air. I've always dreamt about witnessing fiery plane crashes. I dream about being in plane crashes, but they're always mild and I always survive. But in real life, I love flying. I have no idea what death means in dreams. But I'd like to figure it out. I don't dream often, but when I do, 2 out of 3 times, its usually my own death. Edit: Sorry, I know this didn't help at all. I'm just rambling. IP: Logged |
fayte.m Knowflake Posts: 5751 From: ~out looking for Schrodinger's cat~ Registered: Mar 2005
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posted July 28, 2006 09:19 PM
Lottery tickets=wishing for something that has a low chance of being.Vitamins and mother=don't be pushy like the mother trying to infuse health and life into a relationship that is weak=anemic. Anemic and dead=perhaps you feel he does not see you. His affections are weak, or you feel they are. Dead=you perhaps feel he is as dead for you. Perhaps as much as it hurts, some deep part of you is slowly beginning to accept this? Then you can move foreward and find the one who will see you and reciprocate your affections without your having to try so hard or to feel the need to mother him. I hope I made some kind of sense. Things will get better!
------------------ ~I intend to continue learning forever~Enigma ~I am still learning~ Michangelo The Door to Gnosis is never permanently locked...one only needs the correct keys and passwords.~Enigma The pious man with closed eyes can often hold more ego than a proud man with open eyes.~NEXUS Out of the mouth of babes commeth wisdom that can rival that of sages.~Enigma In the rough, or cut and polished..a diamond is still a precious gem. -NEXUS- IP: Logged |
D for Defiant Knowflake Posts: 780 From: Registered: May 2006
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posted August 01, 2006 05:12 AM
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fayte.m Knowflake Posts: 5751 From: ~out looking for Schrodinger's cat~ Registered: Mar 2005
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posted August 01, 2006 09:02 AM
D for Defiant You have alot to struggle with right now. You must take good care of yourself and rest enough. Keep talking. ------------------ ~I intend to continue learning forever~Enigma ~I am still learning~ Michangelo The Door to Gnosis is never permanently locked...one only needs the correct keys and passwords.~Enigma The pious man with closed eyes can often hold more ego than a proud man with open eyes.~NEXUS Out of the mouth of babes commeth wisdom that can rival that of sages.~Enigma In the rough, or cut and polished..a diamond is still a precious gem. -NEXUS- IP: Logged |
D for Defiant Knowflake Posts: 780 From: Registered: May 2006
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posted August 03, 2006 12:37 PM
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