posted July 28, 2006 10:39 PM         

I have known this guy professionally for a couple of years. I only get to see him may be once or twice a year but there always was some subtle mutual attraction. So I run into him at my friend's party on July 1st. This whole group of guys, my friend included, is really into motorcycles. They are in local Harley chapter or something like that. Typical boys and their toys thing...lol. Anyway, he asks me if I want to go for a ride sometime, I say "OK, sure". Well, how about tomorrow?

Couldn't pick a better day for a ride alone the coast. He showed me some places within 20 miles of my house which I never even knew were there, showed me his family beach house. We didn't stop or anything but he kind of made a point. Then, we had lunch at the marina, watched the boats, laughed... I mean, it was a great date all together. The following week we exchanged a few e-mails and I haven't heard from him for 10 days. I actually pretty much wrote the entire thing off. I mean, sometimes a date is just a date. You go out, have a good time and that's it.

Then he e-mails me saying how crazy the work was last week, etc. I was in no rush to answer, so when I finally answered three days later I got response in about like .... 5 minutes "Oh, I thought you don't want to see me again. Are you free on Saturday night?"

So on Saturday he takes me to his friend's son graduation party (!?)I mean, I love this kind of things when you meet a bunch of new people but, personally, I wouldn't bring anyone to meet all my friends, their spouses and kids unless I was fairly serious about this person. At first, I thought may be he just wants to show me off but he is really not that shallow. Once again, we had a great time. Everyone was really nice and a lot of fun, I can't even remember last time I laughed so much. And he was really sweet with all kind of nice little things.

On the way home we stopped at his house and I think that was the only time in my life when the guy REALLY wanted to show me his house without trying to get me in bed. I mean we kissed and kind of made out and chemistry was through the roof. May be he is too much of a gentleman…lol. No, I am just kidding. Actually, this was exactly how far I would want to go on a second date.

He called me on Monday and we talked for a while. He said he just wanted to say “Hi” and “I’ll talk to you soon” or something like that. Well……….it’s FRIDAY and I haven’t heard a word. Does that mean he didn’t like me THAT much? WHY did he act so, I don’t know, seriously, if it didn’t mean anything?

posted July 28, 2006 11:29 PM         

Just try to be patient. You know how us Saggies are, wanting space and all but also everything all at once too. For men Saggies, they need a little more space than us girls. He's probably knee-deep in work like he was. Difference now for you, is you're feeling it and you like the good time you have with him. I would be exactly the same way, wondering...

Saggies can be really good at wandering off in our own curious, adventurous exploring world and forget to take others along with us. Maybe send him an email once to say Hi in your friendly, enthusiastic way, ask him something that needs a reply and let it go. Sit on your hands if you have to, don't call him. Saggie men can have a bit of an old-fashioned streak in them for all their worldly ways. They also like a challenge.

Are you able to post both of your birth info?

posted July 29, 2006 01:19 AM         

I think it'll turn out great... But I'm like you, when I have those kinds of dates and amazing chemistry, I just want MORE MORE MORE... and fairly or unfairly, i get a bit hurt when the other person is busy, because I feel like they must not like me as much as I like them.

But not everyone is as exuberant and impulsive as we are! Heheheh. We must remember that!

posted July 29, 2006 07:09 AM         

Since I am not good at waiting either, I generally don't like them romantically.

He could have a thousand things running through his mind-the setting of his own romance novel and he is the center of it. Depending on how he sees you or what he needs he will call you and sweep you off your feet again, maybe show a little jealousy that you didn't call him, to show what he feels.

He could be out buying you gifts or he could be home sick, but he won't think of telling you until he's ready for romance again.

posted July 29, 2006 07:58 AM         

I am definitely NOT calling him. I mean, there is only one reason that can possibly prevent anyone these days from picking up the cell phone - they just don't want to. And if you call someone when they don't feel like talking to you, the chances of hearing what you want to hear are slim to none. Well, at least this is how I feel. It just sucks to get all excited and disappointed like that. But then, it's my own fault.

He is a partner in a big accounting firm. They handle all taxes issues for our company. I tease him that they only work three months a year but that's far from being true. He is also on all sort of local boards and committees. Divorced, with two daughters. So I suppose he can be busy. Will see.

Thank you so much, again! You made me feel a lot better AND the f..... retrograde is finally over so may be things will turn up a little.

posted July 29, 2006 09:10 AM         

You're a beautiful woman, You deserve a guy who will call, and not make you cry before youve even had a long term relationship...crying should rarely happen...he shouldnt make you feel this sh-tty this soon...

Hugs to you...

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"WHATEVER the soul longs for, WILL be attained by the spirit"

"Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation"

posted July 29, 2006 12:20 PM         

I agree with Laura. Send him a breezy email. I know a Saggie guy (we're not dating) and he's on/off, hot/cold. He disappears for awhile, then he's back full-throttle. And he IS busy -- always has something going on. My opinion?? Wait and see, go on with YOUR busy life, and don't get your hopes up -- either that, or buy stock in the Kleenex Corp.....

posted July 30, 2006 09:58 AM         

After all that, he called me in the office first thing in the morning (I had to work on Saturday)and asked if I wanted to get together. So we made some tentative plans and at the end he says "Sorry about the last minute call" . You know, how sometimes you say something before you even think, I guess, my responce was a bit sarcastic "Oh, that's OK, I was just sitting here, making no plans whatsoever and waiting for you to call me". That definitely hit home...lol.

So we went to this huge party. I know, it sounds like "non-stop partying"...lol.. but I live in resort area and in a summer time we work hard and play hard. Then, we hibernate from November to May. We stopped at my house afterwards and... I don't know, I just feel like taking it slow. So he said "Take all the time you want. All good things are worth waiting for" I thought it was sweet

Thank you so much for listening Hugs to all!

posted July 30, 2006 11:05 AM         

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"WHATEVER the soul longs for, WILL be attained by the spirit"

"Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation"

posted August 03, 2006 02:04 PM         

I am an earth sign so I can't stand it when someone says they're going to call and either doesn't or takes way too long to call back.

posted August 03, 2006 06:38 PM         

The past few days turned out so emotionally intense. We spent Saturday, Sunday and Tuesday nights together. Just like Natasha said "he called and swept me off my feet" for three days. I guess, my parameters for "taking it slow" are rather lenient, i.e. less than 24 hours..lol.There was about as much romance as possible, the walk on the beach lighted by the moon included. I can't even remember feeling that close to anyone. May be my ex, the first year we got married. I am not sure where it's going though. I just got off the cloud and feel kind of drained....

Here is his chart if anyone has time to look at it. Any insight will be great

here is mid-point composite

and here is the synastry. Mine inside, his outside

posted August 04, 2006 04:08 PM         

Beleive me i can totally understand the emotional ups and downs in a relashionship initially...

All the advise i can give now, being in the same boat almost is to take it easy and enjoy the ride. Dont over analyse and expect a zillion things out of him already. Give him space...

The more YOU relax the more he will relax and not try to run away or get confused. Ysee any kind of expectation is subtly or intuitively picked up by a soul. So you need to just chill and relax and just enjoy and go with the flow...

And he's been pretty regular here i think for a starting relashionship. He's always been there despite your doubting...

posted August 05, 2006 11:35 AM         

I like your synastry….. I’m concerned about tChiron hovering around your Saturn in the 7th thru next spring, but I’m thinking your Saggie fella could be someone to help heal you, especially with his Chiron dead-on your Moon….. tJupiter's in your 4th, coming up on your Neptune/Venus conj, I like what that portends -- all in all, I get a good vibe from this association – I hope you two can continue to enjoy the delightful process of getting to know each other!!

Please keep us updated!!

posted August 05, 2006 07:34 PM         

for pointing out good things as always

Hugs

posted August 06, 2006 06:08 PM         

Composite 7th house Venus is very promising too

posted August 07, 2006 03:39 PM         

I would never get the same insight and encouragement from my "non-virtual" girlfriends. One is happily married, so she can't really relate to my situation. Plus, she has been buried with work for the past month so she hardly has time and energy for anything else. Another one, one those people who is wonderful during trouble and distress, but don't handle positive circumstances very well and consciously or uncounsciously puts a damper on your smile. Yeah, she is a Scorp.