posted August 02, 2006 11:32 AM              

I was just doing some deep thinking and one thing i was asking myself and would like to ask you also is...

IS LOVE EVER REALLY A DECISION?

As far as i know, whenever i have felt love there was never any need to decide whether i wanted him or not...my feelings decided for themselves.

And i wonder that so many times people mention that they need to decide about someone...and i just get taken aback because if you are still deciding then you are NOT feeling love in its true depth and intensity!!!!

Am i right?
Am i wrong?

Isnt love something that is NEVER a decision because it just is, just like God, like nature...

Remember the song 'Love is all around'...

" My mind's made up by the way that i feel..."

posted August 03, 2006 04:22 AM              

I can also choose not to fall in love with men that are taken, or people who I sense would hurt me. I have the ability to put my heart in a safe place when needed. Some people can steal my heart, but usually my head has a say in it. Maybe it's that icy scorp ability to contain any emotion.

posted August 03, 2006 06:13 AM              

Sometimes we cant help who we fall in love with.....but we have freewill and can choose whether to act on it or not.......

I am a hopeless romantic, so at times for me, wrong decisions in love had been made.....

posted August 03, 2006 08:34 AM              

Feelings are can never be consciously decided upon. Only what you do with it.

posted August 03, 2006 08:49 AM              

Very interesting replies...!!!

Well what i meant by whether love is a decision is that 'It just happens...'. You dont decide to fall in love with this person or that person because they have this or that or they look that way or this way. Its pre decided. When you fall in love, you dont even know for what reason you fell in the first place....

Yes, maybe taking something forward would require a decision....and there are many who would chose not to if harmful for them. or vice versa.

But all said and done, dont you think 'Falling in love' is never a decision. It just happens, its predestined. Whether it is to hurt you, teach you some lessons, make you feel happy, whatever....but its not what we decide at all....

posted August 03, 2006 01:57 PM            

YES it can be a decision when you are mature enough to realize that even though you *could* seriously fall in love with a certain person, you accept that they are not right for you for certain reasons, and you have to let go, let them be, or just say "no", step away and back off.

NO it is not a decision when you become weaker than the force of the planets ~ certain planetary aspects between the two of you are incredibly magnetic and strong.......additionally, you may have certain transits going on which may hinder your decision making. Also you may "want" to be in love with someone so badly you will wear your rose-colored glasses and blindly fall into the deep well of love.

We get together with certain people in our lives for past life karma, growth, and learning.

posted August 04, 2006 05:27 AM            

But I believe if you are very fearful, you can try to resist.

If you persist in resisting, eventually, the feeling will fade. But it's very hard

posted August 04, 2006 05:57 AM              

It all depends on ones priorities in life...

I mean maybe love is not a priority for many people. But that just changes the entire defination of LOVE. Because love just is...it never dies...??!!

Or are we not talking love here...maybe we are referring to infatuations, momentary need fullfillment etc.

posted August 04, 2006 08:03 PM              

Well said.

Quote- "my emotions have to overwhelm my reson for me to be in love."

May I add that emotions have to overwhelm OR AGREE with reason to be in love.

It can have something to do with what you (sometimes) will allow for your heart.

I think sometimes love Just Is. Sometimes it takes time. I've been swept away many times. The lesson learned was to protect my heart.

I've also met people that I didn't really like at first, but as time passed I slowly fell in love.

Then there are cases where there was a strong chemistry, and there were also "red flags". I, then, tucked my heart in a safe place & walked away before emotions could overtake reason altogether.