posted September 09, 2006 04:37 AM              

I went on a trip recently and met an amazing person who I felt I really connected with. We spend hours and hours talking about our lives/dreams, etc. for the length of the trip. He'd look deep into my eyes with that big goofy grin guys get when they're head-over-heels and when I left to go back home he kissed me and we hugged for the longest time (even though someone could have seen us and he could have possibly lost his job because of it). I told him that I wanted to see him again if I could and he said that we would see each other again and gave me his phone number. I called him about a week ago and he asked me right away if he could call me back... no phone call from him.

posted September 09, 2006 04:57 AM              

If he didn't ask you for YOUR phone number in the first place, I see that as a bad sign.

However, if it's only been a week, he could still call.

Time will tell. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Please keep us updated and come back with any news or thoughts.

Hope you're not too bummed out, hang in there...

posted September 09, 2006 09:47 AM              

But then again I have Aries rising and I cant wait for anything.

I would just say "hey do you fancy going out for a jar or to see a film or something" and if he says no I would say "no worries I will ring the other guy I have in mind"

Haha....arent I bold....

I have asked guys out before.....and it usually works out and if not, at least you can get on with yer life and not go through the agony of waiting around.

One of the advantages of modern living is that women are NOW allowed to do this

Go on....I dare you...and if you do I will say a HUGE prayer for you..

posted September 09, 2006 11:52 PM            

That whole goofy grin is so lovely I know exactly what you mean, my pisces boy still does that whenever he sees me even if we're trying to ignore each other.

What I've learnt from this particular boy is Pisces guys are shy and insecure and totally frustrating cos they don't like to be chased. Of course when they meet someone they like they're paralyzed with the fear of rejection so don't usually make a move anyway.

Of course then he gets drunk and rings up complaining that I'm ignoring him! Huh?

I guess what I'm saying is you'll never know where you stand even if you ask him to his face cos chances are he'll change his mind every five minutes anyway.

posted September 12, 2006 04:12 PM              

If he was to call say the Next day what impression would that give you?

Over-Bearing?
Assertive?
Desperate?
Agressive?

Or

Interested?
Lonely?

Would it say be the proverbial red flag? Move to fast? Or could you intrepret as someone who Knows what/Who they want?

I'm wondering because I have a tendency to do many of those things with women. Depending on the woman usually depends on the reason i call so soon. It's usually within a day or two. And I ALWAYS call when I say I'm going to. Loyalty, reliability. That's just the way I am. It seems like It's a stop sign most of the time, or it could be something else.

posted September 12, 2006 04:22 PM              

1. Something came up, that distracted him from calling. Could be something major.

2. He's not sure how to respond, what to say, how to act, what to do.

3. He's found something else he's interested in.

4. He might also be thinking that if he keeps you waiting, and hanging it will make things more interesting. Or he's just and A**Hole

I'd say from the sound of your response, when you called him and he said can i call you right back, he was with someone else, and couldn't make it obvious to (other) that he was talking or had met another female. Perhaps his girlfriend/Wife.

posted September 12, 2006 06:26 PM            

So if a guy is interested, I'd like him to call me when he wants to. If thats the next day I see him as interested. Not overbearing, or desperate.

I can understand why guys feel that they need to wait sometimes, but if they leave it too long I just feel that he is either playing games and/or is not that interested. Enthusiasm is nice, and I find it very attractive.

posted September 20, 2006 10:28 PM              

She told me that this (female)co-worker had recently finally gone out on a date with another one of the guys who works in their general vicinity. They'd eye each other on those random occasions when their paths would cross and were obviously mutually attracted. Seemed like the crush was very mutual.

Anyway...they went out. SHE related the story to my friend this way (I'm paraphrasing here but you get the idea)

'We went out. We totally connected, and had a blast. We honestly didn't want the night to end so I ended up spending the night with him. It was perfect, and he seemed to SO feel the same way. Now it's been THREE WEEKS and he hasn't even called me--not even once. I feel like such an idiot...' According to my friend she was absolutely heartsick and certain she'd just been used.

My friend--little instigator that she is--and feeling so badly for this girl, decided to play dumb and 'innocently' ask the guy how the big date had gone.

HE related the story this way:

'Oh it was awesome! We had a GREAT time...really hit it off. I'm really psyched about it---she's great. Unfortunately I've been slammed with work and have been basically living here, which sucks.'

My friend said "he was positively BEAMING. He was obviously as into her as she is into him. But here she's been torturing herself for the past three weeks non-stop crying, wondering what she did wrong or what signal she missed and just basically feeling like total crap...and there he's been in his world this whole time happy as a clam, sporting a big ol' grin because he's obviously crazy about her."

Now...we can probably all agree that there had to be a window of at least 5 freaking min somewhere in those 3 weeks for him to call her, or make his way over to her part of the building, especially given how totally into her he claims to be. But my friend--who I can honestly say is an excellent judge of these things--swears he was being completely genuine about liking this girl so much. She said "I honestly think the thought just hasn't occurred to him that she could be this upset, because as far as he's concerned it was a great date and she he's figuring she must know that too."

There's an easy case to be made that not contacting her all this time to say he'd had a great time, is thoughtless and inconsiderate. But it's apparently not at all malicious. The libra I'm crazy about has told me a million times "I know you don't believe me when I tell you this, but I swear to you, we (men) really are a simple people--literally. We're total morons about this stuff and we really are completely clueless when it comes to 'your' people."

He infuriates me A LOT of the time, but I've come to believe him.

As my other best friend says..."Men. Can't live with 'em. Can't have heterosexual sex without 'em."

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