posted September 24, 2006 11:06 PM         

The next day after he told me he was interested in me, I noticed that he had moved a new girls picture into his top friends list and she had been leaving him comments on his page during the same time that he and I had been sending messages back and forth the night before. When I clicked through to her profile, I noticed that not only had she been leaving him comments, but he had left several for her as well. The frustrating thing was that he had stopped leaving me any of these public comments awhile ago even though I had still been leaving them for him.

I was confused, hurt and felt silly because I figured I was just being snowed and that he wasn't really interested in me afterall. I mean seriously, he has my phone number and he never called even though I had repeatedly told him it would be nice to talk to him or meet him in person.

I deleted my comments on his profile because I was tired of what was starting to feel like a game.

He sent me a message the next night and was really mad. Accused me of just saying f*** it and not even talking to him about it. He said he felt like I was saying I didn't even want to be his friend or anything. He asked me if a comment on my profile about guys dating more than one girl at a time was directed at him. It wasn't, but I told him that now he was making me wonder because of the way he was reacting. He stated he doesn't do that, but rather likes to be friends first and see what happens from there. I apologized if I hurt his feelings and the next day he said everything was cool. That he was ****** off, but he understood my reasoning for thinking he didn't want to talk to me and he assured me that he really likes talking to me. I never brought up the other girl or her comments.

That was 5 days ago. His messages to be are now sporadic and I noticed today that he removed my profile from his list of friends that appear on his profile. The majority of the list are always hidden and the top 12 are the ones you select to appear. The other girl has moved into the number one position.

What the hell???? I feel like I was completely duped by this person. And I can't quite figure it out. Why spend 4 and 5 hours a night talking to someone and then change in a heart beat? My feelings are really hurt and I don't know what to think.

Ohhh...he is a Scorpio...same birthday in fact as the previous Scorpio that I couldn't quite shake.

Me
Louisville, Kentucky
1:43am
4/26/1978

posted September 24, 2006 11:30 PM         

I haven't looked at charts or anything, but just wanted to give you a quick cyber-hug....

It doesn't take a psychic to smell some kind of duplicity and subterfuge (as you already have). I suspect he really enjoyed your chats and you were good for his ego, so he continued stringing you along. But when it came down to actually phoning you or meeting up, he couldn't -- for whatever reason (I can think of a handful). The fact that he was teed off at you for removing your comments is puzzling, unless he just wanted them there for ego-stroking or as a trophy.....

Were I you, I would chalk it up to Live and Learn and move on. It's sad spending so much time trying to be friends with someone, then they don't meet you at least halfway.....

posted September 26, 2006 07:17 AM         

I had a bit of an on/off thing with a Scorpio once. We were good friends and he'd ask me out and then something would go wrong, he'd be illusive, let me down.... something.

We did eventually get close for a short time and he explained he just wanted to be friends with me but he was attracted and couldn't help it (his Mars was conjunct my Venus and my Pluto conjunct his Venus). For this reason he was very scared of me partly because he hadn't been involved with anybody for a while. I sensed this but it was nice to have it clarified.

Still things didn't work out because he'd run away from problems and confrontation and I'm the opposite but it's always nice to get a straight answer.

This guy may well have developed friendships with a number of females at the same time so he cannot be hurt. If one doesn't work out there is something to fall back on. He is scared of being hurt and there's not a lot you can do to stop this if he's too scared to meet up with you also.

Move on, don't message him and he'll probably seek you out. At that juncture it may be best to ask him straight-forward questions.