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posted September 27, 2006 11:44 AM         

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Hi! I have read your blogs about the Cappy men and I can definatly see what you are talking about! It is soooo frustrating! About a month ago, my Cap was going to come see me, but our cell phones kept getting disconnected, and plus a friend of mine showed up and wanted to go out. Sooo... I didn't want to ditch her, so I went out with her and didn't call him back. I thought I was doing the right thing at the time. The next day I saw a text from him that was asking where I was-(stupid) Since I have wanted to see him for a few months and he wouldn't see me because I was still living with my husband. ( We are getting a divorce) He and I have known each other for four years and I fell in love with him at first sight- but at THAT time he was going throught a divorce and wasn't ready for commitment. I was 19 and didn't understand what he was going through. Blah,Blah, NEway, I have tried to call him for about a month and he won't answer. One day I'm furious, the next sad and confused. I KNOW he loves me, but I cannot understand how he cannot answer the phone, or call me back!! For a normal man, that would mean he didn't give a damn, but he is not like any man I have ever met. I adore him, but his pride and stubborness are really frustrating! I am normally very prideful, when he used to pull this crap, I wouldnt speak to him for weeks, but now I think life is too short to be that way! He drives me crazy sometimes, but I still love him- Help!

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posted September 27, 2006 02:55 PM         

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Hey Sweetie,

Aye the Cappy woes.... lol Well, what can I say, their a special bunch... Great and friendship, not so good at relationships.... lol Well, from my experiences w/my Cappy.. the man has a @hit load of pride!! However, they are extremely sensitive and tend to be rather selfish. Unfortunately, they wont change until you change... lol It's all about your mentality.. They want someone strong and independent... Someone that does things on their own without anyone else's approval. The power struggle which is apparent here is exactly what it is, a power trip.. lol How do you resolve it? When you get that chance to speak to him... LET HIM HAVE IT!!!! Point out that his actions are immature and a waste of your time... One thing that they are is logical... If you can explain the logic in your actions, he will understand you much better... But they are stubborn... If he insists on remaining aloof and so forth... go about your business... No man is worth wasting time over if the same isn't reciprocated... Just keep your head up and keep on moving... If he is willing to be with you on your terms then let him back, but if not, don't waste your time... My experience has been that the more I was after my Cappy, the more he withdrew... So I just let him be... When he was ready, he returned but I never stopped my life... It's my life, I had to live it on my own terms... Don't allow any man to dictate how you feel... Remember to put God first and everything else will fall into place.... The moment I put God before Cappy and myself, Cappy made his way back and other aspects of my life moved right along... Let me know how things are going.. I'd like to keep in touch and give you as much advice that you need.... Good Luck and take care of yourself... God Bless!! ; )

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posted September 27, 2006 03:12 PM         

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I think from what you guys are saying, I think that Cappy guys have alot of Aqua in them, especially since they run concurrently the two signs. I see similar things. HOWEVER I have never had any real problems with the cappy men. Can't say that about the Aqua men though..

Yes put GOD first do you and it will work out fine..

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posted September 28, 2006 03:54 PM         

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Thanks for the advice, it is sooo hard at times because the most frustrating thing a man can do is to avoid me and not give me the chance to say what I need to say-(Well that and hang up on me). I don't play games and sometimes it feels like that is what he is doing, even though I know it's different. It is just the way he is. But, you are right, and I know it. I do have a lot going on in my life, but somehow he seems to get in my head anyways. Ahhh... I am glad you understand. I will keep you posted. So, I know you must have already, tell me your story with your Cap.

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posted September 28, 2006 05:11 PM         

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LOL... Don't worry mama... Things will get better when you think of yourself as the Badest ***** in the World.... If you believe that with all your being... He'll know it!! lol Confidence is the biggest aphrodisiac (don't know if i spelled that right... lol) for any man... Just be confident that you'll be ok without him and everything will be fine... Me and my Cappy have been through hell and high water... lol But I think we manage to stay together because there is a geniune love and respect between us. I think we both realized that we were important in eachother lives and had to work through our differences... The biggest being that he just wasn't affectionate enough for me... But with time and a **** load of patience, we worked it out... I had to understand that work was first priority to him because he wanted to secure his future... I don't think they do it out of malice but more out of obligation... You have to remember that this man values his worth with his accomplishments... Odd but true, and who can really blame them... I learned that eventually he would come around and make a change but in his own time... I had to learn not to force my will on him... as hard as that is for us Scorpio's... lol Yes, he did play games however they were more like tests... You have to remember that these men don't trust anyone but themselves, so he will put you through the gauntlet more times than you can remember... lol But eventually, once you've earned his trust, he will open up to you and before you know it, you will be his confident... Just maintain your life as it is... I think people tend to forget that before you become a couple, you are individuals... Your partner is suppose to compliment you, not become you... He needs his space more than most men, so give it to him... Just one thing to keep in mind, dont revolve your life aroudn him... Go about your business and eventually, if he wants to and is ready, he will come around... Just make sure to stick to your guns and learn to give in at the right times... They respect and admire a woman that can stand on her own... Its too much of an emotional burden to deal with other peoples issues when they have their own to deal with... But you really do need to sit down with him and discuss how you feel... You owe it to yourself to get peace of mind... Also, when you have that convo, make sure that you are both comfortable... They don't like to be forced or manipulated into anything... Who does? lol If you see that he is withdrawing, than so be it... But i believe you'll know when the time is right... Handle it with maturity and logically and you'll have his attention... Bring emotion into it, consider that conversation over before it began... It's not that they aren't emotional, its just that they don't see the logic behind emotions and have a difficult time dealing with that... But use your Scorpio intuition, compassion and sensitivity and you'll be ok... Believe me, when he is ready, its the most rewarding gift anyone can give you... they truely are special people just like you... I hope that helps.. keep me posted on your progress sweetie... I'd like to help to the best of my ability... I have many a story to tell... lol TTFN

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posted September 28, 2006 05:20 PM         

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Mama Mia... My Cappy actually doesn't have much Aqua in him but rather he has more Saggy and other Earth aspects... But it actually works out since I don't have a strong Water influence but more Earth and Air... Yes, Cappy does have some Saggy tendencies that drive me nuts however, I've been with men that were just as emotional and such as I am and I couldn't stand them after a while... This relationship has taught me alot about myself and what I want out of life... He offers a challenge and I for him... I know I'm just as difficult to deal with as he is... It's all about compromise and learning how to just let people be who they are... Like he taught me, NO expectations.. No disappointments... I don't expect something out of him that I am not willing to give myself... I hope I don't sound harsh... That's never my intentions... Take care and God bless

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posted September 28, 2006 05:27 PM         

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Quote:
NO expectations.. No disappointments...

Yes this is a lesson that I am learning as well..

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posted September 29, 2006 11:09 AM         

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Scorp1104... I sort of feel like I wrote your posts! I have experienced the same thing w/ this Cap. guy whom I've known for 2 years. Won't take my calls or return them, but dam*it, I know this guy feels something for me. He's avoiding me more than any guy who hasn't felt a thing and told me they didn't, and then he'll come back around after it's been a "safe" amount of time. I'm not a booty call either; I won't give him that, bc. of his erratic behavior, so it's not about being an easy ...

Listen to ScorpLuv~~ she's knows more than me on how to actually handle these guys and keep your sanity. I'm trying as I have before to forget, forget, and move on, but now suddenly I'm back there again w/ thoughts of him plaguing me, partially because of the time of year it is.

Keep the thread going... this is interesting "fodder". ScorpLuv... More stories!!

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posted September 29, 2006 11:10 AM         

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I keep reading about how Capricorn men disappear.

I've known my friend for over 2 years and this has never happened.

I get 2 sometimes 3 phone calls a day. He visits no less than 2 times a week.

I'm usually the one that needs the most down time. (due to a need to withdraw because I need to sort through my own problems ... time alone... not in a good mood, etc.)

If I care about someone I really don't want to drag them into my world unless I'm in a decent mental / emotional place.

I think that everyone needs their own personal space without the other person at times.

From what I've observed, Capricorns can have as many moods as Scorpios. They just tend to bottle it up and shut down. I also think that Scorpios require a lot of (mental / emotional) energy from the other person. Hell, I'd be drained if I hung around me sometimes too.

I think he appreciates the fact that I want things as simple as possible. I want nothing to do with a relationship that seems more like a chore then a nice break from the every day stress.

I'm also very career oriented. Maybe more than him. I always have something going on... which I get consumed in... then I look up and realize that I haven't made much time for him. He's patient and understanding... so, he gets what he gives.

I'm also confident in that when a couple of days pass and we haven't seen one another... all I have to do is pick up the phone, and he's there.

They won't jump through hoops for you. Be serious about what it is you're looking for. Tell him... then you have to exhibit it yourself or else you're giving mixed messages.

It's really not hard.

Maybe you both need to discuss what it is you're looking for in someone. From that point you can decide if you both are in fact what you're looking for and not just wanting the other person to conform into your ideal of what a suitable partner is.

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posted September 29, 2006 12:43 PM         

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I believe 1scorp has hit it right on the head.... She's demonstrated that power of relying on yourself and taking care of your own life... Please try and follow our examples and move beyond the petty stuff... Work on getting your life together outside of these relationships.. believe me, a smart Cappy will come around... Like I said before, they don't want a slacker or someone that doesn't have a life of their own... No one does really... I'm speaking for myself when I say that I expect the same things they expect... I can't stand an unmotivated man with no ambition.. or a man that hangs on my every word... too much responsibility... I agree w/1scorp in that a relationship shouldn't feel like an obligation but rather a comfort zone to come to when there's down time for both... This has to be a two way street... Cappy men are very career oriented and will not stand by someone who isn't as ambitious as they are... But it's give and take.. You can't neglect them either.. I think it's about balance... You get as much as you give, but you can't give up everything... Find a hobby, focus more on your future and they'll love you more for it in the end. It shows that you are self-sufficient and can contribute to the relationship... You can't go wrong with this approach, believe me... It wasn't until I began to take MYSELF seriously that's when my Cappy took me seriously... Focus on what's best for you and the rest will fall into place. BScorp... Don't torture yourself w/thoughts of the Cappy.. You'll drive yourself nuts and you don't deserve... You guys deserve to be happy....

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posted September 29, 2006 12:45 PM         

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Sorry... edit... CapGirl, don't worry about him right now girl, you'll be ok... Remember it's nice to reminisce but don't stay stuck there too long, it only holds you back from your future... How've you been holdin up anyways?

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posted September 29, 2006 01:30 PM         

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ScorpLuv~ I emailed you to the netscape email.

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posted October 11, 2006 06:27 PM         

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Scorpluv, Would you mind if I have your email? Something came up.

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posted October 11, 2006 07:01 PM         

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I'm happy to help too Scorp111 & have ScorpLuv's email.
I'm at bebewrig@yahoo.com. Have been put thru hell myself of recent by the Cap. guy.

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posted October 12, 2006 10:58 AM         

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BIScorp1104... my email is ladiem01@netscape.net... feel free to drop me a line...

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