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posted October 09, 2006 03:47 PM         

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I was talking a older maled friend of mine and when I say older he is in his 70's and he was telling me that when you want to get over a ex go be with someone else..

I have always found that hard to do, I have to be able to recieve a person first and be very comfortable with them. That means that ex has to be out of my heart first, or enough to recieve a new person.

Any suggsestions or stories to help me laugh/smile..

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posted October 09, 2006 03:59 PM         

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Funny you should say that, cos my Grandad told me the same thing the other weekend!!

I know what he means, but it's not always a good idea cos if you were really crazy about someone then you just end up transferring your sorry little feelings to some other poor sod. Which is a bit mean
But, it is working for me. I met a guy on the bus a few weeks ago and saw him again last Thursday, got his number and now we've met up before I have to go to school a couple of times and I think about him a lot more than my pitiful battered emotions now. Which is great
Don't know if this will make you smile, but it makes most people smile- he's trainging to be a Dog Groomer He handles wallabies and llamas and bunnies, oh and dogs! I didn't even know a course existed called "Advanced Dog Grooming" but it does!! :shock: How cool? hehe

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posted October 09, 2006 06:26 PM         

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Well I tried that one! Distracted me for a total of a week, I failed miserably but at least it kinda made me realise just how into my pisces-boy I am.

Sigh....

Guess I'm not ready to get over him yet. Its been nearly 9 months, think its time we give birth to a baby relationship.

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posted October 09, 2006 07:21 PM         

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well, with relation to the question, I think dating others can work but I am always up front that I'm going out with you for fun not a 're-bound' relationship, so he knows and I know that there's nothing more in it then a nice distraction, that way no-one's feelings get hurt, because no-one expects more then they're getting

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posted October 10, 2006 11:49 PM         

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Well, it could be good at first, going after someone new right after a relationship ending. But...if the new relationship ends too, it could hit doubly hard, meaning the impact of the first relationship ending.

My two measly cents. But, here's a story:

Once upon a time in a land far away, a beautiful, independent, self-assured princess happened upon a frog as she sat contemplating ecological issues on the shores of an unpolluted pond in a verdant meadow near her castle.
The frog hopped into the princess' lap and said: " Elegant Lady, I was once a handsome prince, until an evil witch cast a spell upon me. One kiss from you, however, and I will turn back into the dapper, young prince that I am and then, my sweet, we can marry and set up housekeeping in your castle with my mother, where you can prepare my meals, clean my clothes, bear my children and forever feel grateful and happy doing so. "
That night, as the princess dined sumptuously on lightly sautéed frog legs seasoned in a white wine and onion cream sauce, she chuckled and thought to herself:
I don't freakin think so.

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posted October 11, 2006 12:58 AM         

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LOL

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posted October 11, 2006 06:05 AM         

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I think sometimes we may enter into another relationship too soon...

I have always done this in the past...didnt give myself a break....isnt it known as a rebound?

Anyway, I suppose it depends on the person...I always liked to have a partner....LOADED 7TH HOUSE......oh dear, is there any hope?

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posted October 11, 2006 07:29 AM         

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Yep I'm a partner addict too!

I think I've often leapt into things without thinking first where perhaps I could have done with some time to just be with me, however I wouldn't ever change my experiences or regret my relationships because I've learnt so much from each one and I wouldn't be the same without them

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posted October 11, 2006 01:55 PM         

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I can relate... with Moon in Libra I find it hard to be alone. But I finally came to conclusion that rather than trying to distract yourself from pain it's better to experience it and take a good look in all dark corners of your heart and mind. Otherwise, you might be going through the same karmic lesson over and over

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