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Topic: Gemini neighbor made a pass
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Stargazer
Knowflake Posts: 745
From: Columbus OH USA
Registered: Aug 2005
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posted October 11, 2006 03:32 PM
 
I've lived next door to this Gemini guy for quite some time.. When I was married to my ex we owned a business and the Gem even worked for us for a while and we developed a friendship... We have remained friends and he was nice to talk to when i was going through my divorce. He has always had the same girlfriend, butI know he is a player.. not exactly faithful and has a wandering eye. He is now engaged to the Aqua girl he has been with for years.
I have always liked having male friends and am comfortable just hanging out. And although I may be attracted to that friend, I know where the boundry is and when its beed crossed.
So last night the Gem got off work and brought over a beer. He was asking me for help in picking out perfume as a gift for the Aqua. He will often talk to me about her, ask advice and btw I am 9 yrs. his senior. So anyway, out of the blue he tells me he had a dream about me the other night and that he can't get me off his mind. Went into some details and admits he wants to be with me as in sleep with me. Stay friends mind you but the kind with benefits.
I was floored. I always knew he had a little crush on me... but he is friends with my ex-...and engaged. He said he likes the danger in it all...
Now the tricky part... and maybe I am just reading way to much into this and here is where i need help.
I also introduced him to one of the Scorpio guys I recently dumped because after all he was a player too. Now the Gem and the Scorp have been friends for a while and recently I found out some things about the Scorp that could cause him harm if I told the right people. He knows I know and doesn't like it one bit. I told him I knew and that his best friend had betrayed him by telling me. He is super ****** . I just had to tell him. I knew it would hurt him.. get him back for the multiple stings I have endured.
I can't help but wonder if the Scorp and the Gemini are in on this together... I mean would the Scorp talk the Gemini into making a pass at me to see if i would bite... then knowing, get proof and somehow use it to tarnish my reputation. Or to save it for a rainy day and even up the playing field...?
I just can't believe the Gemini would risk our friendship by coming on to me when I have expressed over and over that I am so happy to have him for a friend w/o all the other tangles.????
I really don't know very much about Gemini men....
Anybody care to guess?
I seem to only attract unavailable men..emotionaly or otherwise...I am sooooo tired of it. Sick to death actually. 
I am almost 40 and way too old for this stuff.IP: Logged |
cappy
Knowflake Posts: 75
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Registered: Dec 2004
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posted October 11, 2006 04:41 PM
"I can't help but wonder if the Scorp and the Gemini are in on this together... I mean would the Scorp talk the Gemini into making a pass at me to see if i would bite... then knowing, get proof and somehow use it to tarnish my reputation. Or to save it for a rainy day and even up the playing field...?"If I were you I would definitely stay clear of this guy...his pass at you was actually quite disrespectful since he is engaged and both of you know about it: so you're not good enough to be his fiancee but good enough to be his "secret" affair?????
And I posted the quote above because I think that you're going in the wrong direction here...I doubt that your scorp would go that far. Mind you I don't know him but it just seems a bit too much. this gem hit on you to test you and as you admit cause he's a player. he must have set you up as a challenge in his mind. not more to it. IP: Logged |
GeminiLover75
Knowflake Posts: 458
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Registered: Apr 2006
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posted October 11, 2006 11:15 PM
That Gemini guy is being disrepectful both to you and his fiancee... he deserves to be DUMPED as a friend and fiance. No woman should be treated like this, and should always be number one to their man - not someone who gets used or lied to!!!That's my Taurus/Scorpio insight for the day...
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Stargazer
Knowflake Posts: 745
From: Columbus OH USA
Registered: Aug 2005
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posted October 12, 2006 11:02 AM
Thanks for responding  And I totally agree about the Gemini being direspectful towards me and the Aqua.
It is one thing to flirt, but quite another to come on full throttle. He left it as, "I hope this doesn't change things between us, but if you ever feel "froggy" you know where I am"....
After a few days of processing it all, I am pretty angry. I feel bad for the Aqua.. even more than I would if I didn't know her but I do know her and am torn over whether to tell her or not. She has to know...No, she does know how he is.. They have been together for 3 or more years even though she lives about 40 miles away. How convienient for him. It's not a question of whether I am good enough to be his fiance. I don't and have never wanted to be anything more than a friend. I guess mostly it has dampened my belief that men and women can be friends and nothing more. As far as the Scorpio, I don't put anything past him nor would I ever under any circumstances underestimate his ability or desire to seek revenge.
It was probably not a good decsion on my part to post that part of the story as I do not feel it wise to post what I know on a public forum considering it is probably illegal in all 50 states. Or close to it anyway. It is really messed up and I worry about everything anyway. I just have to be careful and watch my back. I turned the Gemini down, so it if it was a "plan"... it failed...
trSaturn is in my 7th... approaching almost everything natal... It seems like the past month or so that every relationship in my life is being put to the test. So far I'm making the grade...but its always harder to keep an "A" than it is to earn it. ------------------
"The only limits are those of vision" IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 1344
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Registered: Jun 2005
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posted October 12, 2006 11:15 AM
Thats so sad...But it happened you checked him now let it go. don't worry about it any further.. Just be careful..This is just my thought, don't tell her, it could cause more damage then you think. If you are uncomfortable now with this,just think what that is going to do. He is not gone admit to it anyway, he gone turn it around perhaps make her think you hit on him. She is going to believe him especially if she supposely does not know how he is..I do not believe that at all. Aqua's are smart and pick up on everything. She knows what she is dealing with rather she admits it or not.. Take care.. IP: Logged |
cappy
Knowflake Posts: 75
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Registered: Dec 2004
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posted October 12, 2006 12:49 PM
I totally agree with mamamia: the fiancee doesn't need to know from you about his actions. She probably knows and won't admit it or whatever...the only thing that concerns you is to keep him away from you if you so wish.
I think men and women can still be friends as long as there is respect for the person and an understanding of the boundaries on both sides. IP: Logged |
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