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tinasparkle
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posted October 20, 2006 07:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for tinasparkle     Edit/Delete Message
I was a little uncertain if the Cancer fellow I am fancying had really asked me out, but after this afternoon, I am certain. He was really sweet and dear.I won't bore you with all the details but,he picked up that tab which should be a good sign since most men don't do that anymore unless it's a date, at least in this country. He opened all the doors and was very attentive. We sat right next to each other and at one point there was a bit of leaning on his part. For those who have seen "While you were sleeping" leaning will make much more sense. We laughed a lot, and had a great time and he kept talking about next time this and next time that. Then we told embarrasing stories about our selves and he said my sisters will have lots of stories to tell you about me. I guess I must be more than the neighbor he "hangs-out" with if his sisters are going to tell me tales about him when they visit. There wasn't any hand holding or arm around and he didn't kiss me, but I feel like things are progressing. He had hurt his back and so I rubbed it for him a bit. He seemed to like it and when I was finished I gave him a pat on the back and he didn't seem to realize I was done. I guess he didn;t want me to stop. All in all it was wonderful and I felt really good about it. We
will probably spend a little time together tomorrow and early next week and then he is going out of town for a few days on Wed. but I look forward to letting this New Moon in Libra move things along between us this weekend. Thanks to all of you for your guidance.

XO,

Tinasparkle

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and
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posted October 20, 2006 09:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for and     Edit/Delete Message
cancer men are cheap so that is a good sign...

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"Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation"

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OzMeg222
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posted October 20, 2006 11:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for OzMeg222     Edit/Delete Message
That sounds lovely! I'm happy for you guys.

I had a strange encounter last night with the cancer-guy I thought was out of the picture. He rang me up at about 9.30 and we had a chat, said he'd tried calling at about 6 but I didn't pick up (dial-up internet, lol I think I was here).
Anyway, he wanted to know what I was doing and wondered if he could come over and have a drink and watch a movie or something. I was kinda in shock and said sure, not really know what to expect.
Didn't know if he'd even show up cos he had to borrow his mum's car to come over (its 50kms) but he did.
I sent a text to my best mate saying he was coming over cos I was so surprised and she said he probably just wanted to get laid. I told her that definately wasn't gonna happen.
He came over and we talked for a while, watched a dvd, talked some more (mainly him complaining about his family) and watched really bad late night tv. The whole time he sat on the other side of the room. We had maybe 2 drinks each this whole time. I checked my watch and saw it was 3am and nearly died, sure enough we both fell asleep where we were sitting.
I woke up and woke him up and we climbed into my bed clothed and fell asleep straight away not even touching. It seemed kinda weird behaviour for someone who was supposedly looking for action.
Just before dawn he cuddled up to me in a non sexual way and we cuddled for ages and kissed too, nothing more. He didn't try anything else thankfully cos I woulda had to put the brakes on if he did. We dozed off and on and cuddled pretty much contantly until my phone rang and I realised I was running late.
We didn't really say anything to one another, just seeya when he left. My friend came over just as he was leaving so she got to check him out, lol.

So now I don't know what to think, I have 2 men in my life when I'm not even sure I want one! Still not sure what cancer-guy wanted last night, I thought we had a nice time but he may've thought differently. I'm not going to make commitments or promises to either of them (if at all) until I know where all three of us stand. Especially me.

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tinasparkle
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posted October 20, 2006 11:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for tinasparkle     Edit/Delete Message
And,

Fortunately although he is frugal, he really appreciates the things that I do. He buy all his clothes at thrifts, but spends gobbs on good food, books and music. My kind of fella.
We had a really great time. He did the funniest thing and I don't really know what it means, but I feel it was significant. As you all know, we decided to to the kitsch thing and go bowling. I love to bowl but I am really bad at it. I mean really bad. He isn;t great, but better than I. We bowled two games and all the while he cheered me on even though I was terrible and then he said "Maybe it would help if you had a pink ball." I'm a girly girl and he knows this. We bowled more and than he said the same thing again. Finally just before our third game he said to me in a very serious and authoritative tone " I think we need to find you a pink ball." It wasn't bossy or crabby, just authoritative. Like in that fatherly save the day "dear, let's got get you an ice cream cone" way. He walked up and down the alley and looked at avery pink ball to try and find one that would suite me. It was precious, but I can;t understand why. It was a bowling ball, but it seemed very important to him. ??? I really liked it though. I felt very looked after.

OzMeg222,
I think you are wise to wait it out and see where everyone is in the situation. You seem to be on the right track.

Tinasparkle

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InLoveWithLife
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posted October 21, 2006 09:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for InLoveWithLife     Edit/Delete Message
Hey Tina!

that was really nice of your cancerian guy...to insist on finding u a pick ball i think he wanted to say something more lovey-dovey but got a little tongue-tied and just kept talking abt the pink ball

well my cancerian is a little hard to fathom sometimes....with his scorp asc. and then there is his mask thing....tho it falls off quite often these days...

yeah, lets see how it goes today....i dont knw if he gets it tht this is a 'date' cancerian style...coz i am cooking stuff tht he likes altho i might call over some friends later

ILWL

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sue g
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posted October 22, 2006 06:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
"a pink ball"

Aaaahhhh that is sweet.....


Good luck with this.....

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tinasparkle
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posted October 22, 2006 03:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for tinasparkle     Edit/Delete Message
Well then! I am unclear if it was a date now, but at least I am clear that he likes me. I love this New Moon in Libra thing!! We had a lovely day together yesterday and then last night he came by. We talked for a few hours and about 2 hours into it, we started talking about relationships. He told me every woman he had dated and what went wrong. I did the same.Then all of the sudden,this voice in my head said "tell him, do it now" So I told him that I had tried to be very careful becuase I had a crush on him and I didn't want to make him uncomfortable because we are friends. He said it didn't and he had a "soft spot" for me as well. I was a little confused because I guess soft spot makes me think of cuddly puppies. So I asked him is that in the "like my little sister" kind of way and he said no. I said he was thinking about it and he realized that if he saw me dating someone else he would be really jealous. YEAHHHHH!! However, he had the reservation that we lived noext door to each other and if it didn;t work out.... I told him I had thought about that but that I had remained friends with most of the people I had dated as had he.... He said "I'm not very good at these things, I mean I'm good at realtionships, but this part...." I assured him that I wasn't either. I said it was so much easier in the third grade when you could jsut write a note. He said "Or give the girl a valentine"
So at least I know he likes me. I still don't know if this "reservation" is still an issue, but I saw him this morning and he was wonderful. I gave him a note this morning to clarify things. It said:

"I am reverting to the third grade. If it were February, this would be a valentine.
I appreciate your being candid about your feelings for me. It was brave and very sweet. Thank you.
You said you were not very good at these things. If it is any comfort to you, neither am I. Iím stellar in relationships but it seems that in the getting there I have two left feet. I also know better than to talk about serious or important matters when I am tired. I tend to ramble and I fear that is exactly what I did last night.
In certain circumstances I have found that if I write it all down I can make the point I had intended all along. What I wanted to convey is that I can understand your reservation about our being neighbors. I have given this situation some careful consideration as well. Despite possibly giving you the impression last night that I jump into matters of the heart headfirst, Iíve never been one to play fast and loose with my emotions or anyone elseís for that matter. However, I donít often meet a man like you and I decided you were worth the risk. Your friendship is very important to me and I think that regardless of whether you can take that risk as well, we will be just fine. I hope that among the things you have learned about me in recent months, not the least of them is that I would never be spiteful or unkind, I am sensible, sincere and reasonably refined, with the possible exception of my bowling alley behavior, incurable curiosity and frequent giggling. In short, my perspective is that I would rather risk a few awkward moments in the unlikely eventuality that ďthings didnít work outĒ than deny something that intuitively seems appropriate and right.
I suppose that is all I really needed to say. You let me know your thoughts and if it helps to write it down go right ahead. Have a lovely day."

I will keep you all posted.

Tinasparkle

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OzMeg222
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posted October 22, 2006 05:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for OzMeg222     Edit/Delete Message
Thats so lovely!

I wish I could be that open and candid. I'm exactly the same, I'm good at relationships but I have no idea how I end up in them because the getting it together stage is so way beyond me!
I guess thats why I've ended up with pushy, dominating men in the past becasue they didn't mind doing all the chasing and were so arrogant it probably never occured to them I was interested. Lol

I don't know where I am with cancer-guy and I'll bet he doesn't know where he stands with me either. And it seems pisces-boy has disappeared from my life. Shouldn't this stuff be simple?

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InLoveWithLife
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posted October 22, 2006 09:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for InLoveWithLife     Edit/Delete Message
wow Tina!!!
that note was lovely !! u were sooooo....well i dont hv the words to describe how much i admire that note of yours. so very mature, it covered everything, and yet no over doing.

i wish i was as brave as u...

to update, today we talked for 2 hours on the phone....somehow i started to tell him stories from my past. he really wanted to know more. in return he told me a few stories of his own, but still just funny ones.

but i think tht today we were not talking as friends. we were talking abt relationships. he was not verryyy open....just got some hints as to how he feels. i am not sure whr it is heading, towards heartbreak or towards a relnship, but we r getting somewhere.

I think i need a lot of more talking like this before we can get to the heart of things. i am very scared, at the same time i want to go on and see whr it leads us.

i dont think thr r going to be any 'dates' for us....either we decide to get involved, or we part ways.

right now feeling very scared,

ILWL

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tinasparkle
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posted October 23, 2006 12:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for tinasparkle     Edit/Delete Message
InLoveWithLife,

Don't be scared. Just trust. No matter what happens it is the right thing. If you two don't get together, jsut imagine the wonderful new love that will be waiting for you jsut around the corner. My mother always told me that everything happens exactly how it is intended, when it is intended. The older I get the more I recognize that she is right. Just remember what a womderful woman you are and he should be honored to have you. If he doesn't see that, perhaps he is a fool.

Tinasparkle

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InLoveWithLife
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posted October 23, 2006 12:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for InLoveWithLife     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks Tina ! those were very wise words, reminded me of how i feel myself.

Well, he is a complex person. A person with layers. After a lot of thinking, I realized tht i did penetrate to a deeper level today. So not feeling as scared right now. Rest is in God's hands.

Don't know why I find myself telling him all abt my beliefs, my experiences, my ideas, how i became the way I am.

ILWL

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celticfyre
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posted October 25, 2006 10:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for celticfyre     Edit/Delete Message
congrats Tina!

I'm climbing out from under my rock momentarily. I am glad to see someone is at least having some luck with their Cancer Male. I wish you the best with yours

going back under for a bit more...

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