posted October 30, 2006 03:25 PM              

I have been dating a Capricorn for about 2 months now. I've been reading up on our signs as much as possible and from what I can tell this "relationship" is going to have some challenges as we are very different (astrologically speaking) though we do share a lot of similair interests and have had a FANTASTIC time everytime we've gotten together. Infact we knew eachother when we were about 10 or so (4-6th grade) and then reconnected through the magic of MySpace 10 years later.

Anyway, on with my question. My Capricorn has suddenly seemed very reserved and pulled in. I know this is common for a Cappy but how do I get past this wall it seems he's creating. Nothing has happened between us, nothing has changed. Everything was nice, progressing in the right direction and like I said, we were having tons of fun together. Suddenly he seems to not want to get together as much but we still talk as much as possible via phone, email or MySpace. When I did ask him about it (the sudden distance/space) he said he was going through some stuff right now that he didn't want to talk about.

Being an Aries I am stubborn and want to know what IS up for so many different reasons. I worry this is a subtle brush off and I'm not taking the hint. But it would seem so out of the blue...AND the contact between us is mutual, as in he makes just as much of an effort to call in the evening to see how my day was, as I do to him.

Anyhow, I'm hoping you all can help the Ram ram down my Capricorn's wall. Or at least help me make him realize he can talk to me.

posted October 30, 2006 05:07 PM            

I'm a Capricorn. I'm secretive too. There are just certain things I don't want people to have information on. Often I keep things hidden so people won't be able to comment on them or follow up on them with me. It's a strange way of being confident enough in yourself to not let anyone in on what's going on. It's also can be our way of keeping something on the right track. He may not want you getting distracted by his problems, so he doesn't let you in on them. Maybe it's a tendency towards compartimentalizing everything.

posted October 30, 2006 05:36 PM              

Yeah I did ask him if it was a brush off, well, I told him it felt like one. And he didn't out right say no its not so I still didn't feel reassured. He just followed up with that he worked late and wanted to go to bed. Legit reason but a big ole bummer. He did call me last night to find out how my Saturday went so that was a little bit of a reminder that maybe I'm over reacting. I've never dated a Cappy so this is all new lol

posted October 30, 2006 06:51 PM              

But remember, there’s always that old man in Capricorn, looking at other people with relationship problems etc.. saying to themselves “tsk tsk kids these days” lol Deep down they see relationship-y things as childish.. unless the relationship becomes serious like marriage.. in which case it becomes important as a duty to family.

posted October 30, 2006 07:48 PM              

Ooooh I've been wondering about that stuff. Thats what I meant by not knowing everything "yet." Whats my birth chart and how do I post it? I've read about rising signs and sun/moon signs but I don't know how to find out which is what, and what is which As well as the Composite charts I've seen mentioned previously on some posts. Help! Take me under your wing!

posted October 30, 2006 08:11 PM            

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I haven’t seen much in-between with Cap.. they’re either interested in something long-term.. or they’re not interested.

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Or they have Gemini Rising like me, and are indecisive at times.

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That being said, Capricorns need serenity and Aries need exictment, I cant even imagine these signs together in a romantic realm, but who knows,,,

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posted October 30, 2006 11:32 PM              

I'm dating a Cappie at the moment!

Is it perhaps because he's uncertain about your relationship and where he stands? Depending on whether he's an introvert or an extravert, withdrawing when he's doing the same isn't necessarily the way to go. It could isolate him even further.

Try reaffirming what he means to you. Let him know how you feel about him. Tell him you are there if he wants to talk, but don't force the issue. And show him you are there.....continue to contact him, continue to be yourself.

Don't take it personally. I'm sure the uneasiness will soon pass.

posted October 31, 2006 08:36 AM              

Yes as AG said my Mum and Dad are (were...my mum passed on recently) Aries and Cappy. They were like chalk and cheese...but stay married for 57 years!!!

On thing he said to me recently was "I wished your mother had answered me back a bit more"...I think he found her a little too submissive.,,,and him being a very passionate Aries, he may, at times, have found her a little cool, I feel.....

But they really loved each other....

posted October 31, 2006 08:39 AM              

Thanks very much for posting at my birthday thread....kind of you girl...

Good luck with the Capricorn...what happened to the other one....dare I ask.... Wasnt he an Aries???

posted October 31, 2006 01:58 PM              

Yeah I am going to wait until after the Halloween hub bub ends this evening and give him a call for a little chit chat and hopefully get some of the confusion cleared up. I hate mixed signals! OY! Then again, who likes em lol

posted October 31, 2006 07:56 PM              

If I am off my a few miles as far as birth cities will it make a drastic difference? Because I know Sean was born in California but not sure which part of So Cal...

ooooh how exciting!!

posted October 31, 2006 10:02 PM            

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"WHATEVER the soul longs for, WILL be attained by the spirit"-Khalil Gibran

posted October 31, 2006 10:03 PM              

good idea to clear it up. I should clarify although I'm a Scorp Sun - I'm an Aries Moon, dating that Cappie. So there is an Aries/Cap combo here too. I actually spoke to my Cappie last night about your situation. He said, "hmm, something doesn't sound right....she'll need to find out what's going on there!"

Hi sueg,

cheers gf. Yup, you've got a great memory. I was dating an Aries for 18 months. Left him three times this year, the last time for good. He wouldn't let go of his past and I got sick of waiting for a brighter future.

I'm now happy with a cappy!!!!

posted November 14, 2006 02:43 PM              

The capricorn and I are no more. I got tired of the hot and cold games. And trying to make plans and have them dismissed or left waiting for a phone call that'd never happen. I sent him an email asking him what happened and the way his response was phrased (it seemed like a rant) and the fact that there was some cussing thrown in there, I just chose to opt out. The way I see it is, you don't cuss at a lady. I don't deserve that (none of us do!)...so yeah I never replied to his email and I don't plan to.

The timing of all this was perfect. The same time I met Sean, I also met another man, Kevin. And we've been spending a lot of time together recently and have really hit it off. He has a beautiful soul and a thoughtful mind. Its amazing how fast our connection grew. Everything feels so comfortable. It all seems effortless, so natural. Like we've been together for forever. And the best part is, we both feel this way. I feel safe when I'm with him and beautiful and special and like I can say anything, anything at all without feeling dumb or like he'll use it against me. *sigh* Every moment I spend with him feels like we're in a movie... heh heh

Kevin is an Aquarius and I still need to brush up on our compatibility. I once dated an Aquarian back in the day. Pretty much off and on from middle through high school. And we had amazing chemestry. In fact he remains one of my good friends. So I have high hopes for us. But even if the odds are against, I may not care because I feel like I'm floooating

THANKS FOR ALL THE ADVICE YOU WONDERFUL, BEAUTIFUL LADIES OFFERED ME! I hope I can return the favor soon!

posted November 14, 2006 04:47 PM              

Well here's the bigger to picture to what happened...

A couple weeks ago we had a really good weekend together. Picked up right where we left off. Slept in together then spent that Sunday being lazy on his couch, cuddling, ordered pizza and relaxing. The next day I invited him over and he agreed and said he'd be over about 8:30-9pm. Well 9:30pm rolled around and I hadn't heard anything from him. So I called and it went to voicemail, which was odd since he ALWAYS carries his cell phone. I left a message and never got a call back. So then that same week, Thursday I think it was, I sent him an email saying I left my perfume in his truck and wanted to get it back as soon as possible. Then he replied with "sorry about Monday. I was just really exhausted and went to bed. I've been really busy, but I'm sure you can understand that." ...Now maybe because I was already peeved about the situation and bugged that he intended to fall asleep and didn't call me before hand to at least cancel, I read the line 'understand that' like he was giving me a guilt trip. So I replied back with "what's with the sudden shadiness? What happened to the guy that said my eyes cut through him? The same guy that wiped vomit from my hair? lol" (one drunken night he took care of me lol eew poor guy)...he came back with an email that just seemed very defensive, sarcastic and flat out rude. My friend even went as far as to call him an a hole. He went on to say that he's busy right now and doesn't have time for me. That he won't be there everytime I feel like having him around. And that he's not looking for a serious relationship. That he doesn't know what kind of expectations I've built for him but I need to let him know...I dunno, wasn't quite the response I was expecting so I let it all go...I'll post his reply if I get the chance tonight.

And for all I care at this point is he can keep that perfume. lol