posted November 01, 2006 11:33 AM         

You said that anytime I had questions about Cancer men to go ahead and ask. Well, you asked for it so here goes. As you may have read in the Soul Unions Forum things with my Cancer beau are progressing nicely. Due in part to your advice I might add! Anyway, we are still in the hugging phase of things and that is fine with me--I'm quite the cuddler. He hasn’t kissed me yet and to be perfectly honest, I think he is scared.I can see him thinking about it and he does this funny thing with his lips and then nothing.
However, eventually things are going to move in a more physical direction and I want to know not only what is going to make him feel really comfortable and secure (he is a Cancer after all) but also what will just drive him wild. I thought as a Cancer man, you might be the one to ask although any other Cancer men or women who are involved with Cancer men who have thoughts on this matter, please feel free to share.
Without revealing too much about myself, here is a little back story. I was in a relationship with an Aries who was well, cold to say the least. It made me a little insecure and then I was in a relationship with a very loving but rather aggressive Aquarius. I felt really desirable in contrast to the Aries, but I also felt a little intimidated. Consequently, I am a little shy and inexperienced. I feel totally comfortable about opening up about these experiences with my Cancer beau and letting him know that I might need him to take me by the hand initially. We are taking things slowly and I don’t feel pressured at all. In fact, I am really enjoying not feeling like every move he makes is a prelude to sex. However, I am a Sag after all and I do like to get to the point eventually. So, what would be your thought on 1. making him comfortable and secure and 2. driving him crazy? I have been trying to ouch his chest as much as possible because I know that is important and I seem to unconsciously play with the buttons on his shirt when we talk. But what else? I don't think we will consummate our relationship right away, but I want him to be thinking about it. A lot. That must be my Venus in Scorpio. Your insights are appreciated.

posted November 01, 2006 05:59 PM         

I think they generally like traditional and ultra-femanine women. I was a big rebel with my ex, dressed like I wanted to, which was not to his liking always. He wanted me in soccer mom shorts and a cute t-shirt--not too tight or an appropriate dress.

In bed they like to nuture and are turned on by the same. Take care of him, fuss over him, let him know he is IT! They often need ego boosts due to lack of self esteem and insecurity issues. Oh, and security is everything.

I would highly suggest if he goes probing into your past relaionships, which the curious crab just might, keep it light--I made the mistake of telling the truth--afterall what is wrong with honesty--but it came back to bite me in the a!$ more than once! Not saying to lie, just don't tell him anything that will make him feel insecure with you.

Candlelight, romance, good food, warm blankets, some form of water around: fountain or something then kiss him full on the lips with passion and I am sure you will end up exactly where you want to be!!

Luck to ya!

posted November 01, 2006 06:00 PM         

The massage, full body massage!!!!!!

Make your own with virgin olive oil, lavender, rose and rosemary, or anyother appropriate herbs that will aid you in your case...

posted November 01, 2006 06:38 PM         

Eyelet and cotton should do just fine!

Traditionally crab men either love or hate their moms--find out which yours is, and fast! From what I have seen, they project alot of their issues with mom, wheather loving them or hating them onto their gals.

As far as agressive, I don't know, not from what I have seen do they like agressive women. Just think teaddy bear. I really think they like tradition as well as anything!

posted November 01, 2006 06:44 PM         

It has been said that the rising sign shows the way we dress. My ex had Scorpio rising as do I, exact same degree as a matter of fact---and one Christmas eve I showed up at his door, dressed in a long black leather coat, classy blue jeans, plunging tight black t-shirt, high healed boots and had my long hair very wavy and femanin (usually wear it straight.) He was very turned on---it was totally a Scorpio look!

posted November 01, 2006 06:50 PM         

Sun Cancer 28° 15' 10th House
Moon Capricorn 29° 27' 4th House
Mercury Cancer 12° 20' 9th House
Venus Virgo 08° 34' 11th House
Mars Scorpio 00° 51' 1st House
Jupiter Leo 11° 36' 10th House
Saturn Aries 12° 33' 6th House
Uranus Virgo 21° 30' 11th House
Neptune Scorpio 21° 35' 2nd House
Pluto Virgo 18° 40' 11th House

Ascendant Libra 21° 14'
2nd House Scorpio 18° 38'
3rd House Sagittarius 20° 27'
4th House Capricorn 25° 19'
5th House Aquarius 28° 50'
6th House Pisces 27° 39'
7th House Aries 21° 14'
8th House Taurus 18° 38'
9th House Gemini 20° 27'
Midheaven Cancer 25° 19'
11th House Leo 28° 50'
12th House Virgo 27° 39'

posted November 01, 2006 07:03 PM         

Bad sinus headache today, can't look too much into the aspects and there are others more qualified here for that!

Never known a Libra rising...Was married to a Libra sun...he was not as romantic as textbook would say until I tried to divorce him!

The Cap moon caught my eye--my ex had a Cap moon also, with Sun, Mars and Venus in Cancer in the 8th---BIG TIME control issues.

I would say, focus on the Cancer sun qualities for turning him on, with keeping his Moon in Cap and Venus in Virgo (never have known one of those either) in the forefront with not forgetting about the Mars in Scorpio...

But don't read too much into Astrology, either. Body language, a keen eye and plain common sense are just as valuable, the planets just a tool!

Terri

posted November 04, 2006 09:16 AM         

one thing that inoticed , the crab of yours has big sex drive with his sun
moon comb .

at present , ofcourse he is being the true gentelman that cancersnormally
are .

how long have you known him ?

the comb that hehas is bound to take a lot of time to let someone come near
to them , ina true sense .

may be your sag -starightforwardness worked here . goodfor you !

btw, i always thought you were a scorp !

what are yourother placements ?

ok, coming to your question ,

::::1. makinghim comfortable and secure and 2. driving him crazy? :::::

making himcomfortable and secure - share your inner thooughts with him . let
himknow he is the centre of the world for you .

i think we cancers arenormally comfortable with sags . thinking of it what
attcahes us , isyour confidence , sags ain't normally into taunts ,
starightforwardness, your optimism , stylish personality ( most of the
sags that i haveknown are good dress sense )

and the last of all , in hindu mythology- moon and jup are best friends ,
so may be that explains it too .

driving him crazy : i can't really say for all cos ihave seen my cancer
friends to be differnently crazy about woman . it depends a lot on the kind
of personality that we have .

in general welike confident ( but no overt show of it like say aries man do
) stylish( good dress sense is important , we might not want the miss world
,crabs normally attach more at emotional and menatal level ) dignified
(this is very very important , always always keep this in mind , if
yourememeber one the links where they talked about the crab's
breastfixation - if you check it out again , even there everyone agreed
thatwouldn't want an overt show of the assets , its mainly bcos woman for
usare not a things of achivement like they are for fire man but a part
ofus that gives us a emotional fullfilling as water peple somewhere
downthe line are afariad to open up their emotional side to the world
thatfullfillment is achieved through our women .

posted November 04, 2006 11:02 AM         

I have known a few Cancer men who are very close to their mothers and sometimes compare their wives to them!!!

I know a couple of Cancers who recently split up and one of the last things he said to her is "you will never be as good as my mother".......ooooops!

posted November 04, 2006 04:17 PM         

Okay, first things first. Don't worry about the delay in responding, I'm sure you have more important things to do than answer my man questions. Secondly, I have known him for exactly 4 months today! Although, we just had a declaration of our feelings for each other two weeks ago. Yes, I am a Sag. But I thought I was a Scorp too. I had my chart done years ago and the person told me I was born under some "other" planet and all of my planets were in Scorpio, I don't know, it was odd. But I am the least Sag person ever! Anyway, my placements are below.

Sun Sagittarius 08° 27' 5th House
Moon Sagittarius 17° 28' 5th House
Mercury Sagittarius 19° 20' 6th House
Venus Scorpio 07° 27' 4th House
Mars Sagittarius 21° 13' 6th House
Jupiter Leo 09° 01' 1st House
Saturn Virgo 13° 27' 3rd House
Uranus Scorpio 18° 02' 5th House
Neptune Sagittarius 17° 40' 6th House
Pluto Libra 18° 25' 4th House

House Positions
Ascendant Cancer 21° 1'
2nd House Leo 10° 10'
3rd House Virgo 02° 39'
4th House Libra 01° 29'
5th House Scorpio 08° 11'
6th House Sagittarius 17° 29'
7th House Capricorn 21° 1'
8th House Aquarius 10° 10'
9th House Pisces 02° 39'
Midheaven Aries 01° 29'
11th House Taurus 08° 11'
12th House Gemini 17° 29'

Major Aspects
Sun Trine Jupiter 00° 34'
Sun Square Saturn 04° 59'
Moon Conjunction Mercury 01° 52'
Moon Conjunction Mars 03° 46'
Moon Square Saturn 04° 01'
Moon Conjunction Neptune 00° 12'
Moon Sextile Pluto 00° 57'
Mercury Conjunction Mars 01° 53'
Mercury Square Saturn 05° 53'
Mercury Conjunction Neptune 01° 40'
Mercury Sextile Pluto 00° 55'
Venus Square Jupiter 01° 34'
Mars Conjunction Neptune 03° 34'
Mars Sextile Pluto 02° 49'
Saturn Sextile Uranus 04° 36'
Saturn Square Neptune 04° 13'
Neptune Sextile Pluto 00° 45'

Thank you for your insights, they were most helpful. I had read some things about Cancer men on the internet and I was having some concern that he might want me to be really assertive in the bedroom and I don't know that initially I can do that. In time when I am comfortable I become a bit of a coquette--I think it's the red hair--but I'm never really aggressive or dominating. I was hoping that this very tender and sweet thing we have going on would care forward into our sexual relationship. Also, I was wanting to know what might drive him crazy in the sack! I know everybody is different, but there must be some general things. It must seem like I have complete sex on the brain, but it seems that since I met him that is all I think about. I have never, I mean NEVER had a physical attraction to a man that was this intense before. Sometimes I actually feel faint just sitting and talking to him. It's bizarre. Great, but bizarre. Any other tips you might have are certainly welcome. Things are progressing slowly in that are, so take your time getting back to me.

Sue G,

Thanks for the reply. Fortunately, I have the large breast and good cook thing covered. Also, he has a good relationship with his mother and is very respectful and protective of women, but he doesn't worship her or anything. Thank goodness!

posted November 04, 2006 04:20 PM         

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I know a couple of Cancers who recently split up and one of the last things he said to her is "you will never be as good as my mother".......ooooops!

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