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posted November 04, 2006 05:37 PM
  
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LuLu
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posted November 04, 2006 06:40 PM
I'm with you on this one. Personally...in the past...if it felt right then I didn't mind an end of the date kiss. But I think my views on this are starting to change. I would almost rather take it slow and get to know the other person before I started to complicate things. That's just me though.  IP: Logged |
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posted November 04, 2006 08:55 PM
I concur that a kiss on the first date is okay of it feels right, but it is a good idea to wait a while longer and take things really slow (...going on a second date with a new guy tonight, any thoughts about kiss on the second date  )Taking things slowely is always a good rule of thumb (in my humble opinion)
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The Mutable Night Force
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posted November 05, 2006 03:04 PM
Nothing wrong with kissing on the first date if it feels right in my opinion. Sex on the first date maybe not so good lol. But then. It does depend on things. Like, if you've already known/been friends with the person for a really long time. Then it's not so much a first date but more the first time you've expressed these feelings or thought of each other in 'that' way. Bleh, there's me spreading my infant ideas once more  IP: Logged |
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posted November 05, 2006 04:27 PM
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Swerve
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posted November 05, 2006 06:03 PM
I always seem to have sex on the first date with the ladies I have taken out. They always says it's something they never do.However, I have to add that I do not have any successful relationships under my belt (another one just ended). Maybe there is a correlation? I don't think I judge the girls if they do, at least not consciously. I know this post was about kissing and that I feel is fine if you are attracted to someone, life is for living right? Believe me if it's real you won't be debating it on a forum, it'll happen. Never kill of the spontaneity of attraction with too much analysis. I see that so much these days. Swerve IP: Logged |
Swerve
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posted November 05, 2006 06:03 PM
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themysteryclub
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posted November 05, 2006 11:57 PM
Hear, hear!!!(or is it here, here?...lol) IP: Logged |
tinasparkle
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posted November 06, 2006 11:45 AM
I have no objection to kissing on the first date if it feels right. Though personally I generally go with the kiss on the cheek. Not a peck, but a nice soft kiss with perhaps a small moan. (This is more effective if your lips are full). It sort of says "I like you and I had a good time" while establishing that I want to go slowly. And, it keeps them guessing. Tinasparkle IP: Logged |
taurean_scorpion
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posted November 06, 2006 12:12 PM
Why can't I seem to do that like everyone else??? It's been almost 3 months since I've been dating a guy, and I haven't kissed him once, and last week was the first time I hugged him... :/ What can I do to ease up and relax? Could be my Venus Opposition Uranus and Saturn and Scorpio Moon (afraid of closeness & rejection & hurt). IP: Logged |
tinasparkle
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posted November 06, 2006 12:21 PM
taurean_scorpion, You might try a little Bach remedy before you go out on dates with your fellow. I use Larch for self-esteem,and Cerato for decisiveness, but you might try Water Violet it is for "developing warmer relationships with others when your pride or independance makes you appear aloof" there may be one that is better suited to your needs though. If you go to the Bach Remedy website,there is a test you can take and it will tell you which rememdies are best suited to your needs. Just my thoughts, but I swear by Bach remedy. The webiste is: http://www.bachfloweressences.co.uk
Look at the remedy chooser. Tinasparkle
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taurean_scorpion
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posted November 06, 2006 11:36 PM
Thanks Tinasparkle, I'll keep that in mind, though I think I will need all of what you mentioned.
Hope the total doesn't come out to be too much with the shipping-handling and all. I'll look further into the site to take the test (couldn't find it earlier).
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OzMeg222
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posted November 10, 2006 12:29 AM
Kiss on the first date? He he.Hmmm, don't know about that! Can't say I've ever been out on a 'date' with anyone I wasn't already seeing. Most of my boyfriends have either been friends turned more or one night stands that kept happening (for 7 years last time). Oh jeez I always manage to make myself sound like a turbo sl*t on this forum! I'm so not, I grumbled I felt like that the other week and my scorp best mate scolded me as only a scorp can. Lol. Kiss on the first date hypothetically sounds like a good idea to me if you're into the guy. You can learn so much about someone from their kiss. Just never kiss a pisces man unless you know them well! I've only kissed 2 and they're top 2 of my all-time-greatest-kissers list (yes I have a list, its not necessarily in order though, lol). Only slept with one of them though and he tops the other list.... Ahem, too much information? IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
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posted November 10, 2006 02:32 AM
Kiss on the first date? If you're not kissing at the end of the first date, then I would think something may be wrong. To me it could very well mean that there's an inherent awkwardness to the connection. The impetuous parts of me (like my Sag stellium) want a bit more adventure from someone than holding back. At the same time I tend to be ultra respectful, so I wouldn't press for a kiss if it seemed like it made the woman uncomfortable, but that goes back to the inherent awkwardness. If the woman's uncomfortable with me at the end of the date, then the date was an utter disaster. I'm typically more compelling than that though, and (being a Cap Sun and Virgo Moon) I tend to go for women who've signalled pretty clearly that they'd be interested (whether by flirting, or just by continuing the conversation to the point that I know there's a connection between us). That's my experience. That said, if at the end of the date YOU, as the woman, feel uncomfortable kissing the guy you're with, then don't. Just don't rule it out in the instances when you do want a kiss. That's my perspective. IP: Logged |
Motherkonfessor
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posted November 10, 2006 03:05 AM
At this point, i dont need a date for an excuse.
i didnt think people went on dates anymore. I start hanging out with a guy, and after a certain amount of time, I find myself making out with him, wondering "how the h*ll did this happen?"MK IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
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posted November 10, 2006 01:18 PM
lol...nice MK.IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted November 10, 2006 01:48 PM
I don't kiss on the first date unless I am very,very attracted to you. I can count on one hand how many times that has happened.And sex on the first date is definetly out. When we go there it will be bc you have won me over atleast to my satisfaction. And I don't see that happening on the first date. that is just my stange ways, I guess... IP: Logged |
yourfriendinspirit
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posted November 11, 2006 04:01 PM
I've never ever kissed on a first date.
Every relationship I've had has been pretty lengthy and I do believe that a huge part of the sucess to the relationships is getting to know one another without all the sexual tentions clouding our judgments. Think about it... If your first date carries a kiss, then your second is what, and your third?
Trust me: You're then so busy sucking face that your hormones are making the choices rather than your mind or heart as to whether or not this person is truely compatable to you. Then when and if you realize that they really are'nt all that compatable to you, A person tends to accept "MR. or MRS. right now" instead of MR. or MRS. RIGHT!
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aqua inferno
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posted November 14, 2006 05:07 PM
Yes…and a whole lot more - thank you women's liberation  ------------------
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