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From: mpls, MN, mpls/st.paul
Registered: Nov 2006

posted November 30, 2006 08:12 PM         

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I haven't seen him in a month. a month ago it seemed like things were progessing. but now its like we've taken four steps back to when i first met him and he had talked about alicia. he still loves her and said he didn't believe in love anymore. we talked about it most of the night. we talked about other funs things too. then during the night i stayed over and we participated in something friend don't usually do.something that he doesn't take seriously that he visions as an art not an emotional connect or as a primal activity. nd it kinda hurt that there was no recipication in any form. it couldn't even be a lie. anyways we had a long talk afterwards. and thats how i found out hes feelings towards it[which i didn't know about] and i learned that he doesn't understand "Fliriting" that he can't read it when its infront of his face. or participate in it. which means everything i thought meant "progressing" was was simple friendly care. and i read him wrong. and as we talked i had to look in his eyes, be there when he brushed my hair back and cared for me in the smypathy kind of way as he promised me that love was real[although he said he wasn't earlier] and promise him i get married when i find it. as he comed my hair back. to be cared for and be told by someone your attracted and affection ate for and care deeply for to find someone as they perform the things that draw you feels so........._______ all the evidence points to no. but why doesn't this feeling go away, that i should wait. that things will progress. ever bit of logic i know say its a waste a time and a begging for heartache. but their my insticts. i also happen to be the type of person to second guess themselves constantly. and from what i know about cancers they hang on to the past. but don't they also lie in someway to protect themselves? I've heard that cancers say one thing and mean different things. i mean he's made it clear we're just going to be friends. but somewhere down the road.........i wonder.I know i must sound insane and because of current events i probably I. so it would be helpful to hear from a person who can look at my situation from an outside postion and hopefull have some insight based on expirence as well.[oh i'd like to apologize for being vauge but that what i'm comfortable with sharing] so i don't even know how to feel about the conversation. what can you guys tell me interpet for me? and a Cancer sun, with a taurus moon, a leo in venus a capricorn in mars

his ex is a leo sun, a pisces moon, a venus in gemini, a aries in mars

me i'm a pisces sun, a scorpio moon, a taurus in venus, and a capricorn mars

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posted December 07, 2006 08:49 AM         

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Ah well i have the same placements as your man except for a virgo mars .

though the woman , that i last feel in love with is married , not sure if she loved me back the same way , i am still in love with her . infact i trying to get detached .and trying real hard .

so that may be answers your first question .

as for the seciond one , yes they do give confusing answers so you never knwo them unless you really know them .

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From: Los Angeles, CA, USA
Registered: Sep 2006

posted December 07, 2006 10:51 PM         

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Ahhhh...
No need to divulge it all.
I understand you, perfectly!
Every niche and cranny.
Basically, his actions and emotions are saying one thing and his mouth another. And there's no passion in the mouth but it's all in his actions, emotions and body language. The things that hook us. YEP.

And all I can say is, yep it's confusing. So dang confusing. Maybe a man can explain it. I'd like to see what sort of insights you get.

Good luck with this one, the Cancer...

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posted December 08, 2006 01:49 PM         

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I say that he is traumatized by the experience with his ex and now is just one very confused and disillusioned crab. To tell you the truth, I don't even know if you can get what you want from this guy. But then again, I guess it wouldn't be fair to expect every guy we meet not to have baggage or what have you. He also says he's still in love with his ex so I would be careful there...

Good Luck

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From: mpls, MN, mpls/st.paul
Registered: Nov 2006

posted December 10, 2006 03:08 AM         

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thank you Dalce Luna,natural11[that lighten the mood a little, haha],and cancerrg[ i know i probably sound like i've just been repeating myself to you, but I appricate all the insite and help!!!!! I'm sorry to hear that she's married and your still having trouble. i think the best thing to do in a situation like that,is focus on other non-romantic projects until enough time has passed so you can deal. from the cancer i know, it always cheers him up to sing really load to a song he likes. modest mouse or something.....

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