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OzMeg222
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posted December 12, 2006 07:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for OzMeg222     Edit/Delete Message
For months and months and months I had almost obsessively strong feelings for pisces-boy. We were off and on and quite terrible to one another and never really got to *know* each other as couples truly need to do.

Along comes cancer-guy and makes me realise I deserve so much more. Slowly, then more quickly my feelings for pisces-boy faded to mere annoyance with his treatment of me.

Lately however, pisces-boy and I seem to have started right back at the beginning. There's been no seriously late drunken calls, no inappropriate conversations and we've spoken honestly without both of our leo moons getting defensive and proud. He's been texting me a lot conversationally and although I've made it very clear he's not getting any action he still wants to txt and hang out.

I know I've complained about it alot here, but I think it may have partly been me being defensive and somewhat paranoid due to his past behaviour.

We've been hanging out a bit, talking, watching movies and having a few drinks. I find I actually really enjoy his company. He seems to have let his guard down and I guess I have too. He is a very nice person, which I always knew he was I just couldn't stand how he treated me. I'd go beyond nice, he's very sweet and sensitive if truth be told. He seems truly sorry how he's treated me in the past, I haven't scolded him for it but it did come up and he looked like he'd kicked his favourite dog or something (if you know what I mean).

It seems like my months of obsessing didn't get us anywhere, but when I took a step back and got us out of that unhealthy situation we are looking at one another with fresh eyes. He came to my friends house just to hang out and have a few drinks, although he was sure she didn't like him (she has no problem with him personally). He is respectful, kind and far more open when it comes to talking about things than ever before.

He really seems to be making an effort, but it doesn't seem like its an effort for him, just something he wants to do. Just to spend time with me. So I feel like I may be falling for the *real* him, not the fantasy I'd had in my mind. As a person he far exceeds the fantasy I'd had of him anyway. The fantasy person was him, reality just expands on that in a good way.

Not sure if anything will come of it, but it feels like a whole new relationship. I like the way things are heading, even if we don't end up as anything more than friends.

Life can be funny sometimes!

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sthenri
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posted December 12, 2006 08:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
Hi, I know what you mean, not sure if this helps but I've been there exactly. Especially with pisces people. But I have to warn you about the friends thing, just friends can hurt you too, if there is an argument. I think pisces like to be friends more than anything but you can get dependent on it and shut out other experiences. Plus pisces men are just so addictive, it's hard to be mean and set limits.

I've been through 4 pisces people in the past few months, it's been rough. One drinks too much and talks about me and now we are friends, two fooled around with each other when one was with me. One constantly tries to set me up with another pisces. All want to be friends.

That said, it sounds great that you have a new relationship with him, and that you are feeling better. The cancer guy sounded nice but maybe too shy.

Natasha

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OzMeg222
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posted December 13, 2006 06:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for OzMeg222     Edit/Delete Message
Gee I just wrote a hugely self indulgent reply that obviously wasn't meant to be posted as my computer swallowed it.

I feel for you nat and i hate you feel such pain, especially when I know that my pisces-boy and I are 'friends' purely as my own idea.

He wants to hang out, is sweet and lovely and pursuing in me that strange pisces sun, aries venus/mars way. He's gone beyond anythingI could've hoped for and here I am haunted by ghosts from my past that aren't entirely to do with him.

Sucks.

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sthenri
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posted December 14, 2006 07:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sthenri     Edit/Delete Message
Yes but have no ideals or expectations or dreams. Find another man, a good one. A nice sag/cap type who has clear boundaries.

Trust me on this four pisces people in one room and me with my neptune in the 1st opposite the sun and 8th house cancer moon are a mess. There are NO boundaries and it's not good.

Be happy, walk the line between his life and yours. Or make it all about business.
Pisces people love business and making money, everyone of them I know I helped start a business with and now they are off on their own. They need something of their very own.

Hugs,
Natasha

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OzMeg222
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posted December 15, 2006 04:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for OzMeg222     Edit/Delete Message
Its weird cos pisces-boy and I say friends but he always wants to hold my hand (even if front of people), kiss me and is very affectionate. He knows I don't wanna do the casual sex thing anymore but he still wants to hang out. Not sure if he's just waiting for me to give in or if he wants more than casual but just can't say it. I know I can't say it! He's promised to leave me alone now but we'll see, we've both said that before.

The dynamics are changing. I like it, I like getting to know him.

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