posted December 12, 2006 07:27 AM
For months and months and months I had almost obsessively strong feelings for pisces-boy. We were off and on and quite terrible to one another and never really got to *know* each other as couples truly need to do.Along comes cancer-guy and makes me realise I deserve so much more. Slowly, then more quickly my feelings for pisces-boy faded to mere annoyance with his treatment of me.
Lately however, pisces-boy and I seem to have started right back at the beginning. There's been no seriously late drunken calls, no inappropriate conversations and we've spoken honestly without both of our leo moons getting defensive and proud. He's been texting me a lot conversationally and although I've made it very clear he's not getting any action he still wants to txt and hang out.
I know I've complained about it alot here, but I think it may have partly been me being defensive and somewhat paranoid due to his past behaviour.
We've been hanging out a bit, talking, watching movies and having a few drinks. I find I actually really enjoy his company. He seems to have let his guard down and I guess I have too. He is a very nice person, which I always knew he was I just couldn't stand how he treated me. I'd go beyond nice, he's very sweet and sensitive if truth be told. He seems truly sorry how he's treated me in the past, I haven't scolded him for it but it did come up and he looked like he'd kicked his favourite dog or something (if you know what I mean).
It seems like my months of obsessing didn't get us anywhere, but when I took a step back and got us out of that unhealthy situation we are looking at one another with fresh eyes. He came to my friends house just to hang out and have a few drinks, although he was sure she didn't like him (she has no problem with him personally). He is respectful, kind and far more open when it comes to talking about things than ever before.
He really seems to be making an effort, but it doesn't seem like its an effort for him, just something he wants to do. Just to spend time with me. So I feel like I may be falling for the *real* him, not the fantasy I'd had in my mind. As a person he far exceeds the fantasy I'd had of him anyway. The fantasy person was him, reality just expands on that in a good way.
Not sure if anything will come of it, but it feels like a whole new relationship. I like the way things are heading, even if we don't end up as anything more than friends.
Life can be funny sometimes!