posted December 18, 2006 08:38 AM         

Who is HE to judge YOU and your feelings and what you are prepared to do or not to do!

I have a Aqua male friend with many Pisces placements and he has tried to judge me a time or two (think it falls inline with the Aquarian knack for putting things under the proverbial microscope) and I shot him down for it, time and time again!

posted December 18, 2006 09:12 AM         

I was married to an Aqua guy with moon in Scorp who was like this....tried to make me feel guilty for wanting truth and honesty?

He couldnt give in the relationship, but as soon as I decided to leave him he comes on strong with the emotional blackmail thing...the "poor me" syndrome...

posted December 18, 2006 10:17 AM         

When Aquas' interpersonal affairs gets messy and uncomfortable, they're quickly confused and overwhelmed. Their first instinct is to flee and put distance between them and the situation. That way they can look at the situation from the perspective they are most comfortable with. However, that doesn't mean they are doing any soul-searching. Typical, an Aqua will look at the bigger picture and then try to deduce logically what went wrong. They're looking for exterior asnwers, but if the answer is inside them - espeically within their own emotional sphere - they can easily mislead themselves and deduce that the problem was caused by something or someone else. It takes a very mature Aqua, or an Aqua with more balanced elements in their chart, to being able to realize that interpersonal affairs need inward reflection as much as outward anaylsis. That is just sounds like an emoitonal unaware Aqua, doing what an unemotionally unaware Aqua would do.

So in short, it's an emotional defense by someone who doesn't understand himself emotionally very well, not emotional blackmail. People who are judgemental and are less able to empathize with us airy types are going to say exactly what the last 3 people here have said, which honestly I think is a bit of billsh*t myself. (Funny, hippiechick - he's can't judge people, yet you can judge him...and you don't even know the guy. Lovely.) You don't have to to buy what he's saying, but try not to be judgemental. Rather instead, be little compassionate and forgiving. At least he's trying - hopefully he'll figure it, even if it's not today.

I gather you're a Cancer, but I don't know what the rest of your chart is. But my advice is to just let this go and don't take this Aqua's rambling to heart. He probably has no idea what he's trying to say - just be kind and realize at least he's making an effort to figure it out and explain his behavior. That's more than you might get from some other Aquas. You may not be able to understand it, but that's OK. *It's his problem, not yours.* I can't stress that enough. Just cut him loose and let him work it out on his own in his own time.

posted December 18, 2006 10:21 AM         

You may try looking at your chart synastry with the Airy man--I do believe everyone comes into our lives because we have drawn them to us with energy we put out, and I think it is all about learning-------

I attract Aquarians like flies to sh@$ !!! I have a Pisces sun with Saturn, Jupiter, Mars and Mercury in Aqua all except Sat in oppo to Uranus---so, look out, here come the cool breezes from Aquas!!!

Having said that, I love them all, just have learned to deal with their detached, "percieved" unemotional ways of dealing. I say percieved because they are just as emotional as anyone else, esp with alot of water in the chart, they just are not comfortable expressing emotions.

Look at what the Aqua guy brings out in you and that will be what has drawn him to you--go deep inside feel it, live it and the need for him will no longer exist!!

Blessings

posted December 18, 2006 12:54 PM         

Hey CrabP: Aqua's have what I like to call Aqua Language..Its indirect and very twisted and you have to read in between the lines sometimes to understand. It took me a long time to understand I stayed confused and hurt trying to do so..You and I have talked about this before..But I do understand now. I don't think that he is trying to be manipulative, I don't think that he understands himself..Yes let him go and let him work it out on his own in his own mind..He will keep trying until he makes you understand whatever it is he is trying to do..

posted December 18, 2006 04:48 PM         

Goodness knows, I KNOW what it is like to deal with Aquarians and to be quite "Aqua-like" myself------

Still, does not excuse poor behavior......

Aquarian or not, respect and admirable behavior are the utmost when dealing with matters of the heart..........