posted December 22, 2006 09:12 AM         

53. The Dream

The Dream

This has been said again and again, down through the ages. All the religious people have been saying this: "We come alone into this world, we go alone." All togetherness is illusory. The very idea of togetherness arises because we are alone, and the aloneness hurts. We want to drown our aloneness in relationship.... That's why we become so much involved in love. Try to see the point. Ordinarily you think you have fallen in love with a woman or with a man because she is beautiful, he is beautiful. That is not the truth. The truth is just the opposite: you have fallen in love because you cannot be alone. You were going to fall. You were going to avoid yourself somehow or other. And there are people who don't fall in love with women or men--then they fall in love with money. They start moving into money or into a power trip, they become politicians. That too is avoiding your aloneness. If you watch man, if you watch yourself deeply, you will be surprised--all your activities can be reduced to one single source. The source is that you are afraid of your aloneness. Everything else is just an excuse. The real cause is that you find yourself very alone.

Osho Take it Easy, Volume 2 Chapter 1

Commentary:
Some enchanted evening you're going to meet your soulmate, the perfect person who will meet all your needs and fulfill all your dreams. Right? Wrong! This fantasy that songwriters and poets are so fond of perpetuating has its roots in memories of the womb, where we were so secure and "at one" with our mothers; it's no wonder we have hankered to return to that place all our lives. But, to put it quite brutally, it is a childish dream. And it's amazing we hang on to it so stubbornly in the face of reality. Nobody, whether it's your current mate or some dreamed-of partner in the future, has any obligation to deliver your happiness on a platter--nor could they even if they wanted to. Real love comes not from trying to solve our neediness by depending on another, but by developing our own inner richness and maturity. Then we have so much love to give that we naturally draw lovers towards us.

posted December 22, 2006 12:58 PM         

separatism, is wrong, we need unity
Mary taught Jesus that!

posted December 22, 2006 01:15 PM         

That's why we come here to Linda Land...

People are in constant need to connect with something. Mainly other people. Which is the hardest thing to do most of the time. So, some take the easy way out and connect with things, yet, they only do it to woo the approval of people. Because ultimately, people need other people.

posted December 26, 2006 08:55 AM         

Relationships with other people are like a mirror to ourselves, they always teaches us a little about ourselves..

posted December 26, 2006 11:44 AM         

For anyone that hasnt discovered this "little gem"..here is the link!
http://www.osho.com/Main.cfm?Area=Magazine&Sub1Menu=Tarot&Sub2Menu=OshoZenTarot

Enjoy, I have been amazed at the accuracy and guidance it has given me over the past few weeks...

posted January 01, 2007 11:42 AM         

When you think that way it's easy to build a network of close friends who feel the way you do, passionately about life.

Married people in my view are very strange people emotionally because they talk to one person all the time about other people they are more connected to.

Single people talk to many people about the one person they are connected to. Being able to be more real with one person allows for a deeper connection even for a shorter period of time, it's more meaningful to me, than a marriage over the years that is more of a friendship.

In reality that kind of relationship is never complete. I can't even socialize with unhappy married people.

I've made a commitment to passion in my life, and in the work I do, and I won't live incomplete or enjoy the attentions of those who are at half mast.

The real problem today as I experience it is the complete lack of passion and motivation in this world. No reality.

Where did we lose sight of real commitment and integrity? Making love with your soulmate should be the number one priority. In France I experienced a different view where love and marriage were more real and valued. I am retiring in Europe, not the USA, its' the only place I've visited where relationships are given a high priority.