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eatbooks
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posted December 29, 2006 09:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for eatbooks     Edit/Delete Message
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themysteryclub
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posted December 29, 2006 10:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for themysteryclub     Edit/Delete Message
this person might be thinking of you...if a psychic bond was established in the past then this person may be tugging at it...missing you, needing you perhaps.

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eatbooks
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posted December 29, 2006 10:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for eatbooks     Edit/Delete Message
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Taurus80
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posted December 29, 2006 11:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Taurus80     Edit/Delete Message
wow eat..

that happened to me yesterday and today..maybe it's something in the air :

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future_uncertain
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posted December 30, 2006 01:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for future_uncertain     Edit/Delete Message
Eatbooks... I feel drawn to you for whatever reason. It may be the screenname. I love eating and I love books. I never considered eating books, though. Makes me giggle!

Anyway, I've struggled with this myself at times. Not currently. Just an ex that has taken a loooooooooong time to exit my mind, even while my life has very happily moved on.

Tell us more, if you feel like it.

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posted December 30, 2006 04:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for eatbooks     Edit/Delete Message
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MysticMelody
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posted December 30, 2006 04:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MysticMelody     Edit/Delete Message
Just have to say that I feel eatbooks is very familiar as well.
I thought the name meant she or he went through books quickly.
Sorry about your blues eatbooks... this too shall pass.

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lovely*
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posted December 31, 2006 01:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lovely*     Edit/Delete Message
*nutty virgo here*

& i eat books as well as miss people I "shouldn't miss".

I'm sure he is thinking about you~~

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Sweet Stars
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posted December 31, 2006 02:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sweet Stars     Edit/Delete Message
Yup it's normal.

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Cancer Ascendant
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wolfbaby
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posted December 31, 2006 05:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for wolfbaby     Edit/Delete Message
Oh, I have similer experince,

It just so much pain...

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sue g
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posted December 31, 2006 06:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
isnt it called yearning

some of us are born with it

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posted January 01, 2007 08:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for IamLove     Edit/Delete Message
quote:
how do you handle missing someone you shouldnt miss? you shouldnt even give them a 2nd thought?
its strange,
all of a sudden iam missing someone terribly from my past,
and i havent been able to sleep, or function today...

i was fine without him the past few weeks,
my thoughts rarely went on him,
and now...

i dont know why,
now,
out of nowhere,


just venting i think


OMG
This is exactly how I'm feeling NOW!

When my most current ex (Mr. Cancer) and I went our separate ways, it was hard for me to get over him... VERY HARD!

Then after approx. 2 years I finally get over him and then BOOM

I just start thinking about him again

I started thinkingabout him like 1 month ago!!!

Its amaizing how you and I are going through a simular situation around the same time wow this is amaizing


And I know you all have seen the post I have made about Mr. Cancer and I and how I miss him so much!

I wonder does he still have feelings for me and if he is thinking of me!

I feel soo incomplete without him

In our composite chart we have a yod
Our Sun, Moon and Mercury is conjunct in the sign of Gemini

In our synastry......

My Sun and Venus is conjunct his progressed and natal Chiron in Taurus

My Progressed and Natal Chiron is conjunct his Venus in Gemini

My North Node is conjunct his Venus in Gemini

His Venus is in my 12th house In Gemini

His Sun and Mercury is conjunct my Asc. in the sign Cancer

His North Node is conjunct my Moon in Leo

What do you all get from these above aspects?

Does this explain anything?

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future_uncertain
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posted January 02, 2007 04:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for future_uncertain     Edit/Delete Message
Eatbooks, how are you doing? Give us an update.

You're right... my fiance is a Virgo. The other guy has a Virgo stellium. Can't escape the Virgo vibe, I suppose. What are your placements?

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future_uncertain
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posted January 02, 2007 04:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for future_uncertain     Edit/Delete Message
Now that I think of it, has your question been answered? I've asked myself the same question many times in life, and I can see that we're definitely not alone!

It seems to me that we can't control what we think about... or yearn for, as Sue correctly called it. The important thing is to ask yourself why you are feeling this way.

Have you left something unsaid?

Has this person moved on?

Are there good reasons why this relationship didn't work? (It has been my experience that love, no matter how intense, in and of itself, is rarely enough to sustain a relationship.)

The person I had a hard time forgetting about was someone with whom I had a strong emotional/mental/physical connection with. But I knew that no matter how hard we tried, there was nothing to ground our relationship. It's hard to forget an experience like that, even harder not to feel nostalgic at times.

I believe he and I had something very special and somewhat *haunting* but it truly wasn't meant to be, for whatever reasons.

Search yourself on this one. The answers may be closer than they appear.

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posted January 02, 2007 05:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
""""I believe he and I had something very special and somewhat *haunting* but it truly wasn't meant to be, for whatever reasons"""".

Oh God Future, that is so sad....do you think ye guys will always haunt each other....

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posted January 02, 2007 11:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for future_uncertain     Edit/Delete Message
Interesting question, Sue...

I can only speak for myself I guess. I *feel* that it may be mutual, but I could be wrong. He and I haven't spoken in almost a year. Last time we talked he resorted to some foolish measures to interrupt my current relationship and I can't respect that.

I had hoped he and I could have at least been friends, but I felt that he was potential trouble if were so bold as to act on his feelings for me after I asked him not to. So that was that, I guess.

I do frequently miss the feeling of being understood like that. We were very connected and that's hard to live without once you have it.

Hmmmm... I wonder. But then again, I don't want to know.

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lovely*
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posted January 03, 2007 02:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lovely*     Edit/Delete Message
i'd like to share~

i have one connection out there. sometimes if i'm super honest with myself i say i'm not over it. i miss him in cycles of seasons. i miss him when my husband is mean. i miss him when i need inspiration.

i also miss him when i need an escape. if i'm struggling for example, i will think of him, the "what ifs", and the "why nots".

but the light of the situation is he knows truths about me, we were intimate at one time, i felt safe and safe is a word i only learned recently. i've known him twice as long as husband, so at this point feel the right to "think" of him fondly. but its easier for me to carry on relations, share deep feelings and thoughts with someone 50 miles away, over the phone than it is with someone 8 inches away in bed with me.

weird huh?

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sue g
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posted January 03, 2007 04:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
That person can become like an illusion, as lovely says, when they are miles away it is easy to "wonder"

I have found in the past I have used past life connections as a "comfort blanket" when times get hard..... . We all probably know that this person, in time, would become all to familiar to us, but because we are apart from them, we can at times, place them on a pedestal, and romanticise about them.

Future, what sign was your ex, and was he very passionate compared to the Virgo?

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posted January 03, 2007 08:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for future_uncertain     Edit/Delete Message
lovely* you said: "i miss him in cycles of seasons. i miss him when my husband is mean. i miss him when i need inspiration." I can totally relate. I don't know if I would go so far as to say that I "miss" him, but he does creep into my head under those circumstances.

I think it has a lot to do with what Sue said about distance making it easier to romanticize. So true.

Sue, he was a fellow Sag with a Cap moon and Gemini rising. He was more reserved than outgoing, but definitely passionate and intense. Sneaky Gem rising was quite skilled at gentle manipulation, but, ultimately, I needed him to stop hiding behind his games, no matter how sweet they may have been.

Manipulation isn't always a bad thing... I rather enjoy being toyed with if done in a loving way. Much like masters of instruments know how to push them further than most can take them. Heehee... it really was a beautiful thing. I'm glad I experienced it, but also glad I moved on.

It's hard sometimes for my Virgo to measure up in some ways, (abstract ways) and it really rips him up. It's been a hard lesson for me to learn to love healthier choices.

I made a choice and I've grown in ways I never knew existed. It's not the sweetest thing, but it's real and it's solid. He and I both have much to learn...

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posted January 03, 2007 09:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
"""Healthier choices""""


Wow girl, your post rocked me!!!

You hit the nail right on the head......

The problem with me is i LOVE sweetness....

to you

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posted January 04, 2007 06:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for future_uncertain     Edit/Delete Message
Yes... I love the sweetness, too. I do, I do, I do.

You know, one of the problems with my Virgo and me is that I am unable to fully surrender to this relationship (or any other in the past, but for different reasons.) because I don't have any idea how the absence, or near absence, of this "sweetness" will go on to affect me in the future.

*Side note... some will say that you know you've found the right relationship when you're 100% sure, but I think it's baloney. Some of us, particularly Libra types, may never be sure.*

However, for him to really surrender himself and be able to give voice to anything he may be feeling he needs to feel total security in my commitment. And so you see how this becomes a vicious cycle kind of thing...

I want to apologize for the course that this thread has taken, but I do feel in a way that it is all relevant. If eatbooks doesn't mind.


And eatbooks... what happened to your post? Has there been a turn of events?

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posted January 04, 2007 06:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for eatbooks     Edit/Delete Message
i dont mind future, not at all...ive enjoyed it actually...im just going through an internal conflict, and ended up deleting what i wrote because of it...

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