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phoenix1111
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posted January 23, 2007 04:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for phoenix1111     Edit/Delete Message
Peace and LOve

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CrankyCap
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posted January 23, 2007 07:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CrankyCap     Edit/Delete Message
Oh Phoenix, I'm so sorry to hear that all of this has happened to you! Men can be the most wreched creatures sometimes. Believe me, I struggle with a love/hate relationship with them every day. I've made a vow to try and look at things in a different light this year. I've been hurt over and over again myself, and I know how it feels to think that every time you lay your heart on the line it gets trampled on. And it's not an easy thing for me to do either.

But...you are wasting your time hating men, and even hating the ones that have wronged you. As a Scorpio, I know this can be difficult for you, but believe me it's well worth it to free your soul of poisonous hate and anger. You have to see these men as troubled souls. Not evil, not mean, just troubled. You need to be the light. You need to be evolved, and love yourself first, for your own sake and that of your unborn daughter. Rise above it - be the phoenix.

How old are you? I'm thinking that you're probably in your early twenties. Your 20's are a time of self discovery. This baby will no doubt change your entire outlook on life, but you have to love yourself as well before the right man will come along and love you. Don't ever be afraid to tell a man what you need and you want, and if he can't give you those things - NEVER be afraid to walk away from him with your head held high. YOU are worth it. Someday, when you least expect it, when you are content with yourself and madly in love with YOU, the right man will come along and sweep you off your feet. Because he will admire you for who you are, what you've accomplished, and what you've survived. You are beautiful no matter what...always remember that.

Best of luck to you and your baby. Keep your head up!

-CC

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Azalaksh
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posted January 23, 2007 08:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Azalaksh     Edit/Delete Message
Hi phoenix ~

I don't really have any advice, just lots of questions.....

Like, do you intend to keep and raise your daughter? If so, do you have a home and are you employed, ie, how will you support her physical and emotional needs?

I can't help but wonder why all your focus seems to be on men -- separating from one, chasing others (and hating them all?)..... In 5 short months your life will change forever. Are you prepared for that?

Zala

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phoenix1111
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posted January 25, 2007 01:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for phoenix1111     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks Cranky Cap for your words of wisdom, I'm on my way there, and it is just taking some time for me to move on and focus. I know sometimes my discipline and will-power get at lows and I fall, but I do get right back up. I always try to understand and analyze and I am finding that it cannot always be understood. In other words, I'm trying to "get over it" LOL

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BornUnderDioscuri
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posted January 27, 2007 11:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for BornUnderDioscuri     Edit/Delete Message
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Neverless, I became jealous when I found out he was with another woman, pretended it didn't bother me, and then that Scorpio vindictive side of me Subconsciously, of course came out and I went out with his cousin,

As a scorpio moon conj pluto i have to say im NOTORIOUS for that! It may not be serious, i may not need anyone at the time but i will get jealous. Its a terrible thing and i try to deal with my jealousy so much and then the vindicative side crawls out of no where. Gah ive reeeally been trying to control it lately and did a good job, though i fear my moon will come back with a vengeance...no pun intended

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I cannot see how he will not hear my side of the story. We have been seeing each other for three months and were becoming good friends!I

As a Gemini Scorpio id definately hear the story but someone who i know who is a Gemini Cancer and my Gemini Capricorn bf never would...they just shut off doors and forget about it despite how much you helped them...

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BornUnderDioscuri
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posted January 27, 2007 11:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for BornUnderDioscuri     Edit/Delete Message
oops double post

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phoenix1111
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posted January 29, 2007 04:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for phoenix1111     Edit/Delete Message
Well, this guy is a Gemini, Libra Asc., and Aquarius moon; plus his chart has mostly air signs in the plantets. Lots of people would probably say run!! But, my intuition told me when we were together it was something about being with him that made me feel like we had known each other previously. (His pluto trines my venus)
Anyway, do you really think that is how geminis are?

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phoenix1111
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posted February 01, 2007 09:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for phoenix1111     Edit/Delete Message
Peace and lOve

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Sweet Stars
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posted February 04, 2007 10:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sweet Stars     Edit/Delete Message
I'm a Gemini and I would never date a Gemini man. Way to unemotional for me.


Unemotional men who like to play games turn me off.

It gets boring.

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Lynx
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posted February 06, 2007 09:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lynx     Edit/Delete Message
Thing that bugs me about men is that most of the time, they want exactly what I want, but they make it difficult for me to fullfill both our needs.

Hmm, one of my exes was a Gemini sun/Aqua moon. Even with my 4 Aqua planets, I couldn't stand him. Then again, I suppose Gemini sun opposes my Sag moon. Geminis tend to always irk me eventually, even the ones with good intentions. Forget Pisces, Gemini gives the most tests, IMO.

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