posted January 27, 2007 05:26 AM         

I am living with a Libra Man and he has got Scorpio Ascendent and it seems he is more assertive. I find myself more wishy washy with him.

The only thing I am insecure about is whether he means what he says as ofcourse he has lots of female friends and I know whole history.Same with me I have been dating few people and he knows about them too. We are very honest in a relationship but as you know Libra Man are social butterfly. Although I am not upfront possessive the way he is it kinds of gets me little insecure at times. He gets jealous. In the past when I had relationship with Libra man and it was same that he will get more possessive and jealous.

posted January 27, 2007 09:00 AM         

Well as a I Libra I can tell you that you shouldn't feel insecure . One thing I always make clear from the start with any of my relationships that I can never TOTOALLY break away any connection from my exs. They have been an important part of my life and are still very good friends. That doesn't mean however that the person that I date would play second fiddle; Far from it actually. Maximum attention always goes to her .

I personally wouldn't care who she talks to or who she makes friends with. If she is openly interested in someone else than she just needs to tell me upfront and I'll let her walk away; No questions asked and no grudges . Its a relationship... It has to be mutually fulfilling or it ain't worth getting into .

posted January 28, 2007 06:15 AM         

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One thing I always make clear from the start with any of my relationships that I can never TOTOALLY break away any connection from my exs

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What's up with that ?

When maximum attention is given her I wonder infidelity comes naturally as they say for Libra Man. They can't live by themselves and they will probably just in order to keep company will be with anyone.It's scary about them.

My problems is to know how much can one really trust Libra Man ? In pact I always had bad experiences for them but I always fall for them as my venus is in Libra.

posted January 28, 2007 10:45 AM         

Being a Scorpio with Scorpio Mercury, I've found usually when a Libra girl has a Scorpio Mercury that I clearly have the control in the relationship. When she has a Libra Mercury, she is far more influenced by airy Libra and can be rather difficult to pin down.

posted January 28, 2007 11:37 AM         

Well since he has that Scorpio ascender, there are quite a bit of things he might not be forth out conmfortable sharing Lol! Being a Scorpio yourself, you might understand that aspect .

As to if you can trust a Libra Guy; Well from a non-astrological POV; You trusted enough to date him , so there must be something that you liked. Every relationships has bumps and every relationship has its little bump in the roads.

I am getting the feeling that this guy wants to come out as the possesive type to show that he cares. Talk to him . Tell him that his restricting you like this ain't helping you and you would really appreciate it if he gave you a bit of space like you give him.

posted January 29, 2007 10:03 AM         

I am taking him as a lesson I had to learn in my life. I have learnt many things and due to some circumstances I can't leave him now. I feel vulnerable.I somehow doubt relationship future maybe I shouldn't be negative about it as there are good things about relationship.

posted January 29, 2007 11:21 AM         

I'm new in here, and since I'm in relationship with a Libra and know many of them, I just thought I could share some of my experiences and opinions.

First thing I'd like to say is that it's very important to know what makes us feel secure.
Different people find the feeling of security in different things and areas of life.
I, as a Gemini with Scorpio ascendant and Pisces moon am very dependent on my partner, and his constant approval of his deep feelings towards me.
Someone with different placements would probably find that annoying and disturbing.
So, it all comes down to what we are like, and what makes us happy.
Libras I know ( not including my partner who has venus in sagittarius, moon in aries and mars in taurus, so is a bit different from "true" libra )are definitely too charming, too lovely that it seems they can and do easily win anyone over. But...there is a big but there...their airy behaviour and their "easy going" approach (which might have a very positive effect on someone), to me just bring the feeling of deep insecurity.
It's like they are a big bubble that's floating around, touches and smiles at everyone, but you can't "catch" them, or take really deeply serious what they say, and that makes me feel very uneasy, especially if I need to be sure about something in life ( in friendship, work, etc.)
I admire them for their fairness and incredible loveliness in everything they do, but what I miss in them is a feeling of a deep, solid emotion.
I definitely don't want to generalize, as not all Libras are like that, and I apologize in advance if I hurt anyone's feelings ( my boyfriend will go mad lol), cause that definitely wasn't my intention.

Xodian rightly said that we should be open, let each other socialize with different people, and don't be repressive.
But I think that that's not the main problem.
The "problem" with Libras is that they are in the first row of socializing, and that makes them more exposed to creating all different kinds of relationships and feelings.
Something they see as a pure and innocent flirting, someone else sees as a sign of attraction or something like that, and may create mmmm..how to say a little problem of misunderstanding..
Then again, having that need to meet different people, Libras can also, easier than any other sign, especially for they are a big admirers of beautyand kindness, fall into trap of some "lovely acqauintance"..
So, what I wanted to say, if you are in the first line, you are more likely to get into trouble and create one..
If in that "socializing" we clearly see that we found someone who suits us better or has those qualities that we admire and for that reason decide to split with the person who we are currently involved with, of course the most fair thing to do is to let them know and clear things.

But..I wish it could be that easy, since there are emotions involved, and doing that, at least for me, is not that easy, since someone's emotions will definitely be hurt.
So, as "fair" as it seems, Libras fairness sometimes comes on too cold or better said, detached for me.
Once again, I want to point out For Me, cause some people love that specific thing about them.

Not wanting to write a story here lol, I'll just finish saying that no matter what we say here, we should never forget that apart from signs and placements of planets, there is one beautiful thing that covers all the Universe, and that joins us together, and that's Love.

Kisses to all xxx

P.S. Once again, a big hello to all the people in here, I must admit that reading your posts here, many of you are really wonderfull xx

posted January 29, 2007 06:28 PM         

Sucks that it didn't go so well. My heart goes out to you babe. I just hope it doens't twists your opinions on Libra guys. Really unsual to see this one so possesive (again... I don't know much about his past or his full placements.)

However, you did the right thing to walk away. If he can't compromise at an important thing like giving space to his lover then its not worth getting continuing on with the relationship.

Castlegirl:

Welcome to LL . Lol! Loved the analogy of the floating bubble (just seem to make us Libra guys seem like all lovey dubby 24/7 Lol!)

Well the thing is, I agree on the part where you said that such a preference is an individul thing. I for one believe that the person (like that bubble) only looks and feels so much more beautiful if given enough space and admired for their free nature. Its the only way the person has rnough space to be him/herself and isn't that what you love them for?

posted January 30, 2007 01:56 PM         

Xodian,
Thank you for your warm welcome in Lindaland.
That's Libra in its "true light"!
Kind and polite, and that's what I love about them.
I understand when you say that Libras need space and people around them to feel and look happy and free, and I definitely agree with you when you say that we should love them for what they are.
I admit that their loveliness and charm is unbeatable; and no matter how "airy" and "floating" it seems, it does give and keep that dimension of beauty and manners in our lives. (today we lack that so much, so thank you).
But...lol..(will exclude my Libra partner from this again, cause he's a different type), that's why I always had many many Libras friends, but never let it go any further, because I knew their free nature would somewhere on the way hurt my feelings, mainly because of my need for a total devotion in a love relationship.
It's just that we have different needs, that's why I pointed out it all depends on what we want and what makes us happy.
What always attracted my heart, and found myself really comfortable and secure with, was the feeling that I got from Scorpios and Taurus.
So, I'll say it again, I don't think that none of our differences makes us better or worse, it's just the blending of two energies that go well together is what I think would make us happy.

posted January 31, 2007 05:46 AM         

I am glad to hear what you said about your Libra. I am still wondering find

and Xodian

We have talked about space thing. He is willing to give space.It's not that we aren't together. We live together.It has been close where it has been on verge of fall out but we always get together.Most of the time it's from his side.I don't even realise how much space I need myself as most of the time I am working.My work is so much important. I have never lived so close to anyone and let them enter my life.

As he has experienced life so much, he reads me like a book. Imagine someone can read Scorpio.It makes me feel vulnerable and scrutinized most of the time.Only he can't read are all emotional ups and downs I go through sometime as I would have appreciated a little bit of emotions of water sign.

Anyways here is his chart you can send me some more information.

for ((male)
born on 13 Oct 1964 local time 10:15 am
in Carlisle, ENG (UK) U.T. 09:15
2w55, 54n54 sid. time 10:31:11

Planetary positionsplanet sign degree motion
Sun Libra 20°03'56 in house 11 direct
Moon Capricorn 16°34'53 in house 2 direct
Mercury Libra 18°20'29 in house 11 direct
Venus Virgo 8°46'27 in house 10 direct
Mars Leo 16°51'13 in house 9 direct
Jupiter Taurus 24°47'22 in house 7 retrograde
Saturn Aquarius 28°39'48 in house 3 retrograde
Uranus Virgo 12°51'26 in house 10 direct
Neptune Scorpio 16°33'36 in house 1 direct
Pluto Virgo 15°13'30 in house 10 direct
True Node Gemini 25°18'35 in house 8 direct

House positions (Placidus)Ascendant Scorpio 15°24'20
2nd House Sagittarius 14°53'18
3rd House Capricorn 24°42'36
Imum Coeli Pisces 6°00'50
5th House Aries 7°02'33
6th House Aries 29°00'29
Descendant Taurus 15°24'20
8th House Gemini 14°53'18
9th House Cancer 24°42'36
Medium Coeli Virgo 6°00'50
11th House Libra 7°02'33
12th House Libra 29°00'29

Major aspectsSun Square Moon 3°29
Sun Conjunction Mercury 1°43
Sun Sextile Mars 3°13
Moon Square Mercury 1°46
Moon Trine Venus 7°48
Moon Quincunx Mars 0°16
Moon Trine Uranus 3°43
Moon Sextile Neptune 0°01
Moon Trine Pluto 1°21
Moon Sextile Ascendant 1°11
Mercury Sextile Mars 1°29
Venus Conjunction Uranus 4°05
Mars Square Neptune 0°18
Mars Square Ascendant 1°27
Jupiter Square Saturn 3°52
Uranus Sextile Neptune 3°42
Uranus Conjunction Pluto 2°22
Uranus Sextile Ascendant 2°33
Neptune Sextile Pluto 1°20
Neptune Conjunction Ascendant 1°09
Pluto Sextile Ascendant 0°11
Numbers indicate orb (deviation from the exact aspect angle).