posted February 02, 2007 03:06 PM         

I'm so sorry to hear that things aren't going so well with Mr. Cap. Honestly, after reading many of the posts on this forum dealing with Cap men...jeez...I don't know how anyone puts up with them! Makes me kind of glad to be of the female variety, with a lot of Leo/Sag in me to "lighten the load" a bit.

I know those moods though. They can be tough for a Cappy to pull themselves out of, but I've found that when I'm in a relationship, I RARELY shut out my significant other. I don't think my Saggie Mercury lets me brood for too long...I HAVE to communicate with people or I go crazy, and I hate unresolved issues.

Before I get into much more...I have a feeling that part of your restlessness in this relationship could be stemming from something else. I sent you an email a little while ago, and I think that could shed some light on the situation...but you're an intuitive girl, and you've probably already thought of this yourself...

Love to you

posted February 02, 2007 03:47 PM         

Yeah, I was gonna say something about the Gemini moon too. I've found that that seems to add a moody and irritable nature to people...don't know why. That combined with the depressive Cap sun can make for a difficult and moody personality indeed.

The gist of my email, and the article that I sent to you have to do with the Saturn return. I know you've mentioned it to me several times, and I think you've told me that you already noticed it creeping up...but OMG, I cannot BEGIN to tell how how strong and powerful it is almost from the second you hit your 28th birthday. So, I was thinking that any restlessness you feel with the Cap, your job, or your home life...is probably only going to grow and get stronger as you approach Nov. 2nd.

You may already be starting to re-evaluate everything in your life that has been routine and comfortable for so long...including Mr. Cap.

However, as far as relationship advice goes...you know I'm probably not the best person to ask! I think I'm the Queen of Dysfunctional Relationships! LOL...

Still, I wish you the best. Once he's willing to talk, I'd sit him down and the two of you can take a long look at your relationship, your goals, and where you want it to go. I know you're trying to communicate, and that shows right there who is the more mature person in this relationship...perhaps it is time to find someone who gives you the appreciation you deserve - ALL THE TIME.

Keep me posted on what's going on, and let me know if you get that email...look forward to chatting with you about it.

posted February 03, 2007 06:38 PM         

The worst part is when they have Aquarius and Sagittarius or Gemini in their chart.

Run for your life. Intense belongs with intense.

posted February 04, 2007 07:22 AM         

I really feel the need to stress one thing:

"They withdraw for months then expect you to actually wait." -versus- "They test us, to see if we are worthy of their love."

I strongly disagree with the first statement! Just knowing from my own Cap nature, I don't think we ever expect you to "wait", or do anything, for us. Our withdrawals are for real, there's no pulling us out of them (not me at least), and they aren't created to test you but they do end up being a test for you. My point is that there is no changing this aspect of us, so your test is this: will you give up, will you tough it out and wait for the sun to shine again, or will you be one of the rare few who can manage to reach us during our dark days?

posted February 04, 2007 08:22 AM         

Does anyone here know how to do that?

posted February 04, 2007 01:31 PM         

I know all too well that no one wants to sit and listen to a typical Cap rant about how bad their life is, and how nothing will ever get better, and "why me" and blah, blah, blah. No one wants to hear that. I know I wouldn't. I just feel that when I'm in these moods I'm no good for myself or anyone else, so I just slip away for a while. Basically, since I have nothing good to say, I'd rather say nothing at all. I've been avoiding my friends' phone calls for the last week, but last night my leo friend was able to reach me. I was snippy with her, and of course nothing she said was helping...I figured it would have been better had I not picked up the phone at all.

I think the pride thing may be stronger in me with all of my Leo placements. If I am not at my absolute "best" I don't want anyone to see me. I have to shine, and if I don't I want to disappear, and I do. I go into my cave with my tail between my legs and recharge for a while. I come back out ONLY when I feel better.

I don't think isolation and solitude frighten Caps. They need it like water. I'm probably worse in that regard having a Pisces moon. The need to escape is powerful. When I don't feel like this world is being kind to me, I go to the fantasy world in my mind where all is "sunshine and happiness." I tend to like it better there.

I agree with what BFF said, in that Caps are not testing you on purpose. However, it DOES end up being just that. If you can stick it out with us, and deal with our moods...we'll love you all the more. AND, if you can pull us out of them, even better!
I think Cap men may avoid their significant others more than the females. I don't think I've ever shut out a boyfriend when I was depressed. I HAVE shut them out for pi*sing me off, but that's another story.