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Topic: How to handle stellium Capricorn man?
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scorpbaby
Knowflake Posts: 539
From: Ny, USA
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted March 07, 2007 10:27 PM
 
Hi everyone~
I haven't been here in a while. I just felt the urge to come back and ask some questions!
I have been talking to a Capricorn guy for a few weeks now, and I am already having some concerns. We met a few weekends ago and were instantly drawn to eachother. We get along very well and share the same sense of humor, etc.
The sexual attraction was very very strong off the bat, and prior to him, I had been celibate for over a year. I'm blaming it on the full moon that happened this past weekend!
I'm slightly regretting my decision of sleeping with him, but it was as though I couldn't help myself. He had a very affectionate and loving nature that made me feel safe. The only problem is, I haven't had a full conversation with him in about 4 days. He has left me some short messages online, but that is all. I've decided not to be the first to call because I know if he wants to talk he will call me first. He seems pretty confident. I know they say Capricorns show they care more through their actions than words, but it is so hard to read him. He has been very sweet to me in his gestures like kissing my forhead/cheek, holding my hand. He has also showed his more Capricorn side by paying for my drinks at the bar. He has the typical Capricorn "gentle eyes" but I have been fooled before by seemingly sincere eyes. Afterall, I am a paranoid Scorp.
Astrology wise, he has a big stellium in Capricorn: Sun, Moon, Venus, Mercury, Neptune
Mars and Pluto in Scorp
How would I deal with a man like this? I have a big stellium too but in Scorp: Sun,Pluto,Merc, Saturn
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Passionate Pisces022586
Knowflake Posts: 141
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Registered: Feb 2007
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posted March 08, 2007 12:29 AM
Hello sweetieI have a Cap Ascendent and my mom a Cap so I probably could help just a little Capricorns hate to lead people on. They seem to be very straight forward. I think you should talk to him and tell him EXACTLY how you feel. Capricorns have huge prides. It may have been something that you did or said that made him withdrawl, and ignore you by being short worded. (his way of punishing you) Capricorns are very busy people it could be your reading too much into this, he may have been busy for a few days. (i know a lot of scorpio friends who read very deeply) Capricorns are steadfast if he likes you or loves you he will be right back you can count on it! P.S. this is just my take on the Cappys IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 9245
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted March 08, 2007 01:28 AM
I'm a Capricorn (with just two planets there).To me it sounds like maybe he wasn't prepared either, or perhaps he picked up on your reservations. Capricorn and Scorpio can both be a bit hesitant in love, but I'm tempted to think that you both have a lot of affection for one another. Just be patient. Test the water with a bit of flirting if you're able. Just be warm, and he'll know it's safe to come back. Astrologically, should have a good if not great rapport, so I think things will get better if you want them to. IP: Logged |
SweetCappie
Knowflake Posts: 187
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Registered: Oct 2005
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posted March 08, 2007 01:28 AM
I wouldn't worry because 4 days is short. I believe online messages count as communication and often times I'll email someone instead of calling them (because I hate using the phone unless I'm making plans). I think his online messages was his way of communicating with you (instead of the phone). I know u want a phone call but give it time. How often does he usually call you?How to handle him? Be sincere, be strong, be busy with your own life (he sure will be) and don't start any "how do you feel about me" chats unless he starts it. Date other people until he declares he wants to be exclusive. Give him space, be consistent with your actions/words, and never lie. Just go with the flow and don't get attached too soon. Usually we go very slow when we try to build a foundation for a relationship with someone. The men tend to be passive/agressive-- he might chase you for days, then disappears. This is because he either is not into you OR he is into you and just wants to see if you're interested as much as he is. Or it could be stress or being busy. Use your instincts and separate it from paranoia (my man is a Scorp so I know how paranoia can overshadow his instinct). Scorpio/Capricorn matches are great!! I think Scorpios warmth & love brings out Cappie's inner passion & sensitivity. IP: Logged |
sunshine9
Knowflake Posts: 831
From: Durham, NC, USA
Registered: Feb 2005
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posted March 08, 2007 07:49 PM
Hey scorpbaby,I've got a Cappy stellium too (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Mars), so we might be similar in temperament! I can assure you of one thing - folks with these placements (he has his Venus there too) will most definitely not take things lightly, unless their chart is highly afflicted. You can be sure it means something to him, and that he will call in his own time. Like someone else above (I forget who) said, it's likely he senses your ambiguity. Cappies tend to be proud folks, and we won't make a move unless we're sure we won't be rejected. I'd much rather wait it out a bit, until I'm sure of the other's feelings, before I follow up & make a move. He sounds like a gentleman too, and he's probably just giving you some time to get comfortable with your feelings. Also, it's just been 4 days... Give it some time, girl. If you post your synastry chart here with some asteroids thrown in (free ones at astro.com), it might make your dynamic a little more clear. Sunshine IP: Logged |
scorpbaby
Knowflake Posts: 539
From: Ny, USA
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted March 09, 2007 01:50 AM
Thanks for all your replies they were very helpful  I did finally talk to him today, after 4 days. I let him know it was a long time in my opinion. Everything is ok now. I'm putting my trust in the steadfast Cap. Sunshine-The response from your reply and everyone elses has made me believe that he definately sensed my ambiguity. But I sensed his too. I've done the whole astro thing. I feel a little like a stalker but oh well...
Him:
Sun Capricorn 19°18'09 in house 7
Moon Capricorn 10°27'30 in house 7
Mercury Capricorn 6°01'02 end of house 6
Venus Capricorn 16°57'34 in house 7
Mars Scorpio 15°58'13 in house 5
Jupiter Aquarius 20°11'13 in house 9
Saturn Sagittarius 6°03'20 in house 6
Uranus Sagittarius 20°00'12 in house 6
Neptune Capricorn 3°55'02 in house 6
Pluto Scorpio 7°05'31 in house 5
True Node Taurus 6°19'28 in house Me:
Sun Scorpio 4°54'08 in house 1
Moon Taurus 1°10'57 in house 7
Mercury Scorpio 25°40'33 in house 2
Venus Libra 14°42'59 in house 1
Mars Libra 0°28'25 in house 12
Jupiter Aquarius 8°08'23 in house 4
Saturn Scorpio 27°42'26 in house 2
Uranus Sagittarius 15°44'25 in house 3
Neptune Capricorn 1°25'00 in house 3
Pluto Scorpio 4°41'24 in house 1
True Node Taurus 9°10'34 in house 8 IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 9245
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted March 09, 2007 03:16 AM
It'll be ok. Slow and steady. IP: Logged |
CAPsunSAGmoon
Knowflake Posts: 6
From: Baldwin, NY, USA
Registered: Feb 2007
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posted March 10, 2007 12:27 AM
bad news, I think you gave it away too quickly. Caps are fundamentally belive that anything worth getting is worth waiting for. By succumbing so easily to his charms you may have lost him.For instance, if he could seduce you so easily, he will assume that any man can seduce you as easily.And poof, ya lost him.
You would have been better off not giving in to him at all, scoffing him, and telling him " im not that kind of girl,hmmph!".He would have chased you to the moon,then.Caps like "nice girls",you proved not to be the marrying kind.The marrying kind is the only kind the Cap in really interested in.The marrying kind is a lady.
Having said that, A man is still a man. So he wont deny a forward and sexually liberated woman a romp in the hay, on the contrary he will certainly enjoy your company.But please dont fool yourself into thinking that he will then take you seriously.And caps take everything worth having seriousley.
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AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 9245
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted March 10, 2007 01:09 AM
I'm a Capricorn man and I disagree.IP: Logged |
scorpbaby
Knowflake Posts: 539
From: Ny, USA
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted March 10, 2007 11:26 AM
Well on the contrary CapSun, he actually refers to me as "lady" ...and I've assured him that whatever happened between us doesn't happen all the time in my case. And his response to that was "Yea I knew you were a good girl". IP: Logged |
CAPsunSAGmoon
Knowflake Posts: 6
From: Baldwin, NY, USA
Registered: Feb 2007
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posted March 10, 2007 03:58 PM
Well, ok. I digress. I did forget that in your initial post you did make some mention pertaining to "not doing this sort of thing often", well thats KEY!. He will like that.Knowing Cap men he will like that alot.
(Not that it even has to be true, just make him belive it is)
So you did good. something like.."You know,dude; I really dont do this sort of thing but you made me feel so safe and comfortable that I couldnt help but make an exception for YOU"- that will have him eating out of your hand.
Of course, once you got him, all that "good girl" B.S. can fly right out the window and you can be the true tigress you know you are.
He wont mind it a single bit(its not like he is a virgo-sheesh)he wont be scared of your sexual fervor-in fact he will honor you for it(as long as its kept behind closed doors and under the most respectable of situations).He is just slow to burn and wants to know that your intentions are pure.By the way, from what I have read, this guys make a good catch=husband and a Scorpio Siren will make a great match for him.GOOD LUCK!IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 9245
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted March 12, 2007 12:33 AM
How's it been?IP: Logged |
scorpbaby
Knowflake Posts: 539
From: Ny, USA
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted March 13, 2007 07:16 PM
Hi Acoustic God,
Everything is going pretty well. I'm home from college for a week for Spring Break and so is he. The only problem is that he lives in Canada so there is a barrier in communication at the moment. I'm not going to worry about it too much because I'll go crazy. It's normal to feel a little insecure in the beginning of a relationship, right? I have a good feeling about him, and that is what I have to trust. Also, the fact that Cap men are notorious for being steadfast gives me hope too IP: Logged |
scorpluv
Knowflake Posts: 130
From: new york, new york, USA
Registered: Jun 2006
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posted March 14, 2007 11:30 AM
Hey guys,Just had to chime in here really quickly... It's been a while... Well, addressing the original question... Yes, Cappy takes their time... Just be honest and up front about your intentions and follow through... You'll be ok... They (Cappies) are very slow to trust and even slower to allow someone in... Don't be overtly anything.. lol.. Just be yourself... I've been dating a Cappy for more than 4 years and it took a long, long time to really get to know him and for trust to be established... but one thing is for sure, once you've gained their trust, you've gained their heart... with that in mind, DON'T PLAY GAMES!!! You'll end up ruining what has the potential to be the best relationship in your life... Just be honest and realistic about your expectations and communicate that... show them affection and allow them to become secure in the knowledge that you will always be there for them and you will get the same in return... IP: Logged |
scorpbaby
Knowflake Posts: 539
From: Ny, USA
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted June 24, 2007 10:43 PM
Just thought I'd update on this situation! So I'm home from college for the summer, and I had been seeing the Cap pretty steadily up until school ended in early May. Of course the week before we went home, he decided to open up and actually revealed that he had feelings towards me. He expressed some concern that we didnt quite know one another well enough, and he wanted to spend more time with me. I don't know why he decided to reveal his feelings a week before we went home but he did! Upon coming home, I didn't hear from him for over a month and I was about to forget about the whole thing. But then he wrote me an email about 2 weeks ago, and sarcastically commented on how long I went without contacting him. But I was stubbornly waiting for him to write to me first. We've been corresponding for the past 2 weeks, and out of the blue he invited me to come visit him. I'm still kind of in shock by the invitation. What should I make of this kind of gesture from a Cap man? Since I started seeing him, I've known intuitively that we both want a deeper intimacy. It seems we are both very cautious with our emotions (him more than me) and have trouble expressing it. I sense the longing. Should I have faith that a relationship will gradually develop? Are all Cap men this friggen slow? Thankfully my heavy taurus moon has made me a rather patient person. IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 9245
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted June 25, 2007 01:47 AM
Yup. I'm 10-and-a-half months in, and I'm just starting to allow my girlfriend to come over more often than just the weekend. She's a Sag with Cap Rising, and I'm Cap with a Sag stellium, so we're both pretty independent.Regarding the invitation, you should go ahead and take it if you want. I would think the gesture is pretty straight forward. I would take it as him missing you. IP: Logged |
MissTerious
Knowflake Posts: 2
From: Canada
Registered: Jun 2007
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posted June 26, 2007 12:34 AM
Hey everyone! I am new to this site, and so far I am lovin' it. Hi Scorpbaby as a fellow Scorpio who is also interested in a Capricorn man I understand... Yes! Capricorn men are extremely cautious, which I understand completely because I have a tendancy to be cautious as well. The following is quoted from Linda, Goodman's Love Signs: Scorpio & Capricorn have a 3-11 sun sign vibration pattern - in friendship, business, family or love relationships - you'll feel a strong tie of friendship, whatever the association you share with these individuals. There will be mutual trust, and much ease of communication, back and forth. You are very different; yet these differences have little or no effect on your regard for each other. There could be a sense of responsiblility, some sort of inescapable duty, that brings you together, and strengthens the bond between you. You'll find these individuals easy to talk with, and you'll constantly stimulate each other into changing habits and existing situations. You'll probably form very close friendships with these people, and remain friendly always. Any quarrels will usually be quickly resolved, forgiven and forgotten. You may bicker and disagree frequently, and be annoyed by some mutual obligation that ties you together, yet unable to avoid it -- and even when the association seems to be a closed chapter -- it will reappear months or years later, to be once more resumed.The last statement I can verify is absolutely true for me at least, even when we haven't spoken for a while we will pick up again as though no time has elapsed...Very cool... Hey what's up AcousticGod and to the rest of you out there, much blessings upon you all... IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 9245
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
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posted June 29, 2007 02:15 AM
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scorpbaby
Knowflake Posts: 539
From: Ny, USA
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted July 01, 2007 07:35 PM
Hey guys, thankyou all for your thoughts! Well I've been waiting for him to write me back for over a week now, and he hasn't. For about a week I was a true Libra rising, so optimistic about romance. Now I'm just a bitter scorp... Mad at myself for getting excited about what he said, and let down that he hasn't followed through.
And I'm biting my tongue because I wan't to give him a piece of my mind, but again, I'm battling my non-confrontational tendencies.
Maybe he is just a fickle capricorn dude after all and not the good kind. IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
Knowflake Posts: 468
From: Kent
Registered: Nov 2003
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posted July 02, 2007 07:17 AM
Hey all,this is really interested. I've recently become involved with a Cap/ Sag moon and Asc. I'm a Sag sun/Leo moon and Cap Asc. Yes, i'm thinking slow and steady is best approach with him. But with his saggie influences I feel comfy with him. But i think he loves nice and good women to be with. anyways, thats my 2 cents. Sparkling IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 9245
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted July 03, 2007 11:03 AM
I'm a Capricorn with a Sag stellium, and I'm going out with a Sag, too.  IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
Knowflake Posts: 468
From: Kent
Registered: Nov 2003
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posted July 04, 2007 12:21 PM
Is it really useful that I have an Cappie Asc in understanding a Cap sun man? He has a saggie moon so I feel like he understands me and I admire his ambition and steady cappieness.
Just wondered.
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AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 9245
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
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posted July 04, 2007 01:43 PM
My girlfriend would probably say no. She's got a Capricorn Ascendant, too. My Mercury is conjunct her Sun, so we talk easily, but there does seem to be a good deal of misunderstanding.IP: Logged | |
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