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Topic: Angry, angry Taurus Man
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willowing3
Knowflake Posts: 21
From: crazyville, md
Registered: Jun 2006
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posted March 21, 2007 10:05 AM
 
Hi All,I promised my girlfriend I would try to get her some advice on her new Bullman. They got into a tiff on the phone over silliness, well actually, it started when he said Hey Chump after she answered the phone. Something about the chump after spending the previous night so intimately together just didn't sit right with her...so they spat and she thought she had hung up the phone when her temper caused her to say **** off. She wasn't saying it to him per say, just blowing off steam. But he heard it and he's ****** . Well, it's been two days and despite his admitting that "he said some assy stuff, but I can't take being told to f'off" and despite her trying to explain that she was just upset and wasn't really telling him off....blah. He can't get over it.
Anyway, Taurus men, I know they are stubborn, well I know Taurus women are, but is there any hope for her getting forgiven? In my opinion if he's that mad over something like that, well then maybe he isn't the right guy for her...but she really likes him, so she's looking for hope...
Any thoughts...fyi, she's a Pisces Sun, that's all I know about her for now, she has her birthplace, but not time...Thanks! IP: Logged |
lotusheartone
Knowflake Posts: 9994
From: piopolis, quebec canada
Registered: Jul 2005
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posted March 21, 2007 10:46 AM
How long have they known each other?How long have they been committed
to one another? IP: Logged |
CrankyCap
Knowflake Posts: 557
From: Powell, Ohio, United States
Registered: May 2006
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posted March 21, 2007 12:15 PM
Hey Willow!!! How are you? How have you been? Still conversing with your Pisces???Sorry all the questions...just wondered about you lately.  I'm sorry to hear that your friend is having such trouble. Hmmmm...Taurus. I've got some experience with that one. Taureans in my experience are very nurturing, but are not so good at sensitivity (unless they have strong water in their chart). His comment to her was harmless. He probably never thought in a million years that she would take offense to it. If she's going to be with a Bull for a long time, she's probably going to have to deal with some crude, mysogynistic, callous comments from time to time, and build up some immunity to them. The Taurus that I was with for a long time often called me "crazy bi*ch," for many different reasons, but believe it or not I found it cute and endearing...there was no harm in it, and that was just his "machismo" way of doing things. I can also recall many instances when I told him that he could go f*ck himself, and f-u was certainly not uncommon either. He took whatever I could dish out. He never reacted the way that your friend's guy did. Strange thing was, he was a double Taurus (sun-moon), but he wasn't easy to offend and he didn't hold grudges. I pulled a nasty stunt on him once that I immediately felt terrible about afterword. I thought he was gonna kill me. I thought I was gonna see the bull wrath that I'd heard about but never witnessed. I was fully prepared for a serious lashing of some sort. Do you know that he didn't even bat an eyelash? Calm as could be he just looked at me, smiled, and said, "I like it when you're feisty like that. You're not going to put up with my sh*t. I'm proud of you." Couldn't believe it. Now, my mom is a double Taurus as well, and one of my boss's is a Taurus-Leo. Both seem sweet, harmless, and docile...but pi*s either one of them off and you've got a fire on your hands! I could see BOTH of them getting extremely angry at being told to "f*ck off." I've noticed two types of Taureans: 1.) The happy go-lucky, Homer Simpson, beer drinking, song singing, good time guy (or gal). This was my ex.
2.) The shy, docile, sweet, introverted type. Usually very proper, kind hearted, and sensitive. Not necessarily to YOUR feelings, but to their's. This is my mom, and my boss. *edited to add* Ok, I didn't really get to a point there did I? Darn that Sag mercury! Anyway, I can tell you that both my mom and my ex often hurt my feelings with callous and insensitive words. However, this is just the Taurus way, and Taurus is not a malicious or devious sign by nature. They don't mean to hurt you, but it will help your friend if she developes a thicker skin. As for her boyfriend, he's probably going to stew over this for a few days...but I don't think he will hold it against her forever. She needs to explain to him exactly how he upset her in the first place, and apologize for reacting so harshly. IP: Logged |
willowing3
Knowflake Posts: 21
From: crazyville, md
Registered: Jun 2006
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posted March 21, 2007 03:45 PM
Cranky Cap!! Hey girl...things are ok on my end, got over my pisces guy, had to cut him out, but it's all good. Hope things have improved in your world, March has been a bit tough, but spring's around the corner.My friend has been seeing this guy for about a month, but long phonecalls every night and sleepovers, which I know that generally Taurus men are not into the chase and generally sleep with someone only if they care for them rather deeply. She did apologize profusely and explained that her angst was actually due to liking him a lot and thinking that him calling her Chump was him not liking her a lot...ya know how pisces can be...a little sensitive and I have always suspected that this friend of mine must have some serious fire in her chart, she's pretty fiesty. But anyway, she's doing what he asked and giving him space, but if you ask me it is starting to get a bit ridiculous...but then again, I'm not a grudge holder, I go for what a person's intent was.. He seemed to be really into her prior to this incident, so I guess she really did hurt his feelings...and I don't mean to go against my own sign too and be insensitive, but c'mon, really, get over it already, they have a lot of great things going for them as a couple....ok, done. Thanks for the words, cranky cap, always welcome and anyone else too, I'll pass it on! IP: Logged |
MelanieB
Knowflake Posts: 17
From: Jonestown, PA USA
Registered: Mar 2007
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posted March 21, 2007 08:55 PM
My hubby is a Bull too. At first, (during courting) he was the sweetest thing, actually sometimes too sweet. Things changed after I had our son, and he seemed to transfer his love and affection to him. Now, whenever I do something he doesn't like, he just gives me the silent treatment, sometimes for weeks. I just learned to deal with it. Depends on my mood, either I ignore it, or just act like normal. He is really one to hold a grudge. He hasn't spoken to his mom or brother in well over 10 years. So I don't know. It is his way or the highway. Maybe it depends on their moons and planets, but I would tell your friend to give him space and see what happens, but don't wait too long. The sooner she cuts her loss the better. If this is how it is just starting out, I'd be inclined to run away. (since my experience with my bull) HTHMelanie IP: Logged |
Nihilive
Knowflake Posts: 110
From: Dearborn Heights, MI, USA
Registered: Feb 2006
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posted April 07, 2007 10:47 PM
I thought maybe you could use some advice from a double Taurus. I don't know what else in my placements influences me, but I am sure we're all quite different. Whenever I am made to be angry I really try to make an effort to blow off steam (usually by sleeping or reading) or just quietly brood. I have a tendency to say hurtful or crude things without even thinking, but for more of an effect and response than anything else. I, too, have a Piscean queen who I have been involved with for almost 2 years and I had to find out the hard way that if you make a Pisces woman angry, you are best to just let her work things out in her own mind and reassure her that you are still okay with everything. She does have a tendency to retreat in her own mind and completely disregard all outside influence, so I have found it best to just allow that to pass.All and all, it sounds like by what you've told me that he really cares about this girl. If he didn't, he wouldn't even have regarded the comment as sufficient enough to warrant a brooding response. He wants the point made that he is serious and he is expected to be taken seriously in a relationship if it is to excel. I know, personally, that if a comment is made toward me by someone I care deeply for that I will make an effort to let them know it hurt me, and give them many opportunities to rescind their comment just so that I feel as if I am still a good person in their eyes. If someone else makes a comment, such as a co-worker, I just turn my head and shrug it off as irrelevant. I think he feels the same way. She has to get used to this personality trait of Taureans. It's even more prevalent with me because of my double placement. Hope that helps.
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